Vakadzi vazhinji vakagadzirira kuita chero chinhu kuita kuti vana vavo vanzwe zvakanaka. Vamwe vanoshandisa mwana kukwevera kutarisa kwaari, uye kuita zvisingaenzaniswi kuedza kumurume mudiki.
2017 inogona kunzi zvakachengeteka gore iro vabereki vazhinji, sezvavanotaura, vakapenga. Mazuva ese, kune mameseji matsva: vamwe amai vari kutsvaga imba yekutema yemwanakomana wemakore mashanu, mumwe anotora mwanasikana wake seimba yake uye anoisa pikicha yemwana ane gore rimwe chete nekuboora. Zuva reVakadzi rakaunganidza mune imwe ratidziro ivo vese vanamai vasina kusimba avo vanotenda kuti vanogona kuita chero chavanoda nevana vavo.
MunaEpril wegore rino, veruzhinji vakakwidziridzwa neyakavanzika posvo yeumwe amai. Akakumbira mazano pane chipo chemwanakomana wake. Kunyanya, mukadzi akatofunga nezve kushamisika pachako - "yakanaka tatoo pamusoro wenyaya wehukama pakati paamai nemwanakomana." Akangokumbira kukurudzira kwaari saloni kwaari, mavaizogona kududzira pfungwa yake muchokwadi. Vashandisi veReddit, uko kwaiiswa posvo, vakashamisika: mushure mezvose, kubva pamakore gumi nematanhatu, wechidiki anogona kuuya kusalon nevabereki vake, uye havamurambe. Zvaifungidzirwa kuti mukomana wekuzvarwa ane makore gumi nematatu kusvika gumi nemana ekuberekwa. Mune ino kesi, zviri nani chaizvo kumirira ine tattoo. Zvisinei, mhinduro yacho yakavhundutsa munhu wese: mukomana aingova mashanu chete panguva iyoyo, uye nyora yacho yaifanirwa kunge iri chipo chekuzvarwa kwake kwechitanhatu. Vashandisi vakaedza kutaurirana naamai: pazera iri, muviri uchiri kukura, uye hazvizivikanwe kuti mwana anozoita sei pakurwadziwa. Vacheche vazhinji uye jekiseni kubva kuna chiremba havakwanise kutsungirira pasina misodzi. Vamwe vakaratidza kubvumirana: "muturikiri", iyo inoshandiswa nekukurumidza uye haizokuvadze mwana. Kunyangwe amai vangu vakateerera mazano anonzwisisika hazvizivikanwe.
Asi amai vasina murume Amy Lin anga achishandisa mamatato echinguvana kumwanasikana wake kwenguva yakareba. Iye zvakare anodhaya bvudzi rake rakanakisa mavara uye anomutendera iye kuti aite makeup. Mumagariro ake, amai vangu vanoburitsa pachena mifananidzo yemusikana, iri pasi pevatsoropodzi vazhinji. Uye vanhu vazhinji vanofunga kuti kushandisa mwana sedhori hakugamuchirwe. Zvinogona kuonwa kuti musikana ari kungoteedzera amai vake vasina kurongeka: Amy Lin pachake anopfeka bvudzi repingi nematinji muviri wake wese. Asi musikana haaoni ichi sedambudziko: "Ndangorega Bella ave ini. Haatyi kutya kushoropodzwa, akashinga. Ndiri kuda kumupa rusununguko rwekutaura. Ipapo haazofaniri kutambisa nguva yehudiki hwake kuti anzwisise zvaari chaizvo. Kana iye akadzidza kutaura kwake kuburikidza nechitarisiko chake, iye anodzidza kutaura nezve izvo zvakakosha kwaari. Rusununguko rwekutaura, unonzwisisa here? Iye haazeze kutaura nezvemanzwiro ake uye zvishuwo. "Havasi vese vanogovana nzira iyi yekuva mubereki, asi kune avo vanotsigira Ann.
Dambudziko "kuve kana kusave?" mune runako nyika yakura kuita "kupenda kana kusapenda?" Uyu mubvunzo unonyanya kuomarara kana zvasvika kune vana vadiki. Vane fashoni runako mablogiki pa Instagram neYouTube vanoburitsa yakadzama mavhidhiyo ekuti ungaite sei izvi kana izvo zvigadzirwa. Heano vangori vacheche pazvitsitsinho zvavo, avo vanogadzirisa nehupfu uye miromo yemiromo kwete zvakanyanya kupfuura zvehunyanzvi hwekugadzira-maartist. Semuenzaniso, Charlie Rose. Uyu mudiki anongova namakore mashanu chete ekuberekwa, asi iye anoto shatisa zvinoratidzira, hwaro uye kupenya. Havasi vese vakuru vanoshandisa nzira dzakadai. Zvisingashamisi, vamwe vakaratidza kusagutsikana chaiko. Chokutanga pane zvose, vabereki vemusikana, avo vanobvumira Charlie Rose kuita izvi. Zvisinei, vakaedza kusimbisa vateereri: musikana ari kuita zvipoda uye vhidhiyo chete sechido chekuita, pane dzimwe nguva anotaridzika semwanawo zvake.
Chii chekutora kubva kuna amai vadiki avo pachavo munguva pfupi yapfuura vaive vana uye vasati vava nenguva yekukura. Asi kana mukadzi akanaka uye amai vevana vatanhatu vatanga kuseka mwana, ruzhinji rwuri mukutenderera kuzere. Saka zvakaitika naEnedina Vance, uyo akatumira mufananidzo wemwanasikana wake ane gore rimwe chete. Uye pikicha yainyatso kumutsa hunyoro, kana zvisiri zvekamwe kadiki diki - kuboora kwakakwenenzverwa pachiso chemwana. “Ndiri amai, ndiye mwanasikana wangu, saka ndakasununguka kuita chero zvandinoda naye! Ndichamusarudzira kusvikira asvitsa makore gumi nemasere, nekuti ndakamubereka, ndewangu, ”Enedin akasaina kadhi iri. Ehe, kuwanda kwemashoko asina kunaka kwakabva kwadira amai vangu. Mumwe munhu akapokana hutano hwepfungwa, vazhinji vakavimbisa kutendeukira mukuchengeta uye kunyima amai vasina hanya kodzero dzevabereki. Zvisinei, hazvina kuuya pakuziva kwekutyisidzira. Mushure mekunge Enedina Vance achangobva kutsanangura kuti pikicha iri montage, uye iwo mameseji akatsamwisa chaiwo. Mukadzi aida kukwevera kutarisa kune dambudziko rekuvimbika kwevana. Vabereki havafanirwe kusarudzira mwana wavo kuti anogona here kutora tattoo, kuboora nzeve dzake, kana kudzingisa. Zvinonzwisa tsitsi sei kuti havasi vese amai vanonzwisisa izvi. Uye ivo vanoramba vachishandisa vana vavo kuti vazvifadze ivo pachavo, vasina hanya neimwe nzira nezve kugara zvakanaka uye chishuwo chemwana.
Andrea Dalzell anofara kugovana mifananidzo yekushandurwa kwake
Kwete, ikozvino hatichataura nezvekuti vanamai vanoseka sei vasikana nekuda kwekuhwina makwikwi erunako. Hapana munhu anobaya Botox zvakare, kunyangwe zvipenga zvekupenga uye make-up zvichine nzvimbo yekuve. Nekudaro, zvinhu hazvisi nani kana amai vakabhadhara kuwedzerwa kutaridzika kuchitarisiko chake uye nekuda kwerunako rwake akagadzirira kufa nenzara yevana. Izvi ndizvo zvakaitwa nemukadzi wechiRungu Andrea Dalzell. Mukadzi uyu aitya zvekukwegura zvekuti akatanga kusendeka oparesheni yepurasitiki makore gumi nemashanu apfuura. Uye zvinoita kunge pasina chakaipa. Asi Andrea pachake aisashanda, uye akaunganidza mari yekuvhiya kubva kubhenefiti yevana vana. Sezvo mapurasitiki ari anodhura mafaro, nguva yese iyi mhuri yaigara mumamiriro ehupfumi hwakanyanya. Vaidya kamwe chete pazuva kuitira kuti pondo imwe neimwe yekuwedzera iiswe mubhangi renguruve rakakosheswa. Andrea akapotsa asvika pachinangwa chake, akatove nekusimudza matama, kusimudza tsiye, mammoplasty. Mukadzi haasi kuzomira, asi zvichatonyanya kumununura: iye zvino anogamuchira mabhenefiti chete kumwana mumwe chete. Kunyangwe, pamwe, haazoone mari iyi futi. Mubatanidzwa weVateresi, uyo unoongorora kubhadhara kwevanhu, wakatsamwa pawakaziva kuti mari iyi yaishandiswa pai. Uye pakurota kutsva, Andrea achafanirwa kutora kwenguva yakareba kwazvo.