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Kuda mwana kunobvepi?
Chido chemwana chakadzika midzi - muchikamu - muhuduku, kuburikidza nekutevedzera uye kuburikidza nekutamba kwechidhori. Mangwanani kwazvo, themusikana mudiki anofananidzira naamai vake kana kuti pamwe nebasa raamai vanopfuura nekudziya, unyoro uye kuzvipira.. Anenge makore matatu, zvinhu zvinochinja. Musikana mudiki anoswedera pedyo nababa vake, anobva ashuvira kutora nzvimbo yaamai vake uye kuita saiye mwana wababa vake: ndiye Oedipus. Ehe, mukomana mudiki arikusanganawo neizvi zvese zvepfungwa kusagadzikana. Chido chomwana chinoratidzwa zvishoma kwaari nezvidhori, vacheche, kupfuura nezvinodzima moto, ndege… Zvishongo zvaanoshamwaridzana nesimba rababa asingazivi. Anoda kuva baba sababa vake, kuenzana naye uye kumubvisa pachigaro nokunyengera amai vake. Chido chemwana chinobva chabatwa nehope kuti amuke zviri nani pakuyaruka, apo musikana anozvara.. Nokudaro, "kuchinja kwehupenyu kuchaperekedzwa nekukura kwepfungwa izvo, zvishoma nezvishoma, zvichamuunza kumusangano werudo uye kune chido chekubereka", anotsanangura kudaro Myriam Szejer, chiremba wepfungwa dzevana, psychoanalyst, pachipatara chekuberekwa. Foch hospital muSuresnes.
Chido chemucheche: chishuwo chisina kujeka
Sei mune vamwe vakadzi chido chemwana chinoratidzwa kare kare asi vamwe vachiramba, vachidzvinyirira pfungwa yekuva amai kwemakore akawanda, uye vosarudza nguva isati yasvika? Iwe unogona kufunga kuti kufunga nezvekuita pamuviri inzira yekuziva uye yakajeka inotanga nekumisa nemaune kudzivirira kubata pamuviri. Izvo, zvisinei, zvakanyanya kuoma. Chishuvo chemwana kunzwa kusinganzwisisiki kwakabatana nenhoroondo yemunhu wese, kumhuri yekare, kumwana iyeye, kuukama naamai, kumamiriro ezvinhu ebasa. Mumwe anogona kuva nemafungiro ekuda mwana, asi mumwe haaiti nokuti imwe manzwiro anotora nzvimbo: "Ndinoda uye handidi panguva imwe chete". Mamiriro ezvinhu muvaviri ndiwo anesarudzo nekuti sarudzo ye kutanga mhuri zvinotora maviri. Kuti mwana aberekwe, “chishuvo chomukadzi nechomufambidzani wake chinofanira kusangana panguva imwe chete uye iyi rwisano haisati iri pachena nguva dzose”, inosimbisa Myriam Szejer. Izvo zvinodiwawo kuti pane physiological level zvese zvinoshanda.
Usavhiringa chido chemimba uye chido chemwana
Vamwe vakadzi, dzimwe nguva vaduku zvikuru, vanoratidza chishuvo chisingadzivisiki kuvana. Vakadaro kuda kuita mimba vasingade mwana, kana kuti vanoda mwana pachake, kuti vazadze gap. Kubata pamuviri kwemwana, kana kusina kutaurwa nechishuwo cheumwe, kunogona kuva nzira yekugutsa chishuwo chenarcissistic chete. "Vakadzi ava vanofunga kuti vanozoshanda chete kana vari vanaamai", anotsanangura kudaro psychoanalyst. ” Chimiro chemagariro chinopfuura kuburikidza nechimiro chaamai nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakanyorwa munhoroondo yevanhu vose. Izvi hazvizovatadzisi kuva vanaamai vakanaka kwazvo. Nyaya dzembereko dzinogonawo kutungamirira kuhavi yemwana. Madzimai mazhinji anoshaya tariro yekusave nepamuviri pavanenge vachienda kunorapwa. Psychic blockages iyo inowanzodzika midzi muhukama hwaamai-mwanasikana inogona kutsanangura izvi zvinodzokororwa kutadza. Tinoda mwana kupfuura chero chinhu, asi zvinoshamisa kuti chikamu chisina ruzivo chedu hachidi, muviri unobva waramba kubata pamuviri. Kuedza kubvisa zvipingamupinyi izvi zvekusaziva, basa re psychoanalytic rinowanzodikanwa.
Chii chinomutsa chido chemwana
Chishuvo chemwana chikamuwo chemagariro evanhu. Vanosvika makore makumi matatu, vakadzi vazhinji vanobata pamuviri uye vanokonzera kufarira kwakafanana kune avo vakavapoteredza. Pazera rino rinokosha, vanaamai vakawanda vakatotanga basa ravo reunyanzvi zvakanaka uye mamiriro ezvemari anokweretesa zvakanyanya kurota pamusoro peprojekti yekuzvarwa. Nokufamba kwemakore, mubvunzo wokuva amai unowedzera kunetsa uye wachi yebhaibheri inoita kuti inzwi rayo duku rinzwike patinoziva kuti kubereka ndiko kwakanakisisa pakati pemakore 20 ne35. Chido chomwana chinogonawo kukurudzirwa nechido chokupa. mukoma kana hanzvadzi kumwana wekutanga kana kugadzira mhuri huru.
Nguva yekusiya mwana wekupedzisira
Chishuvo chokuva amai chakabatana zvikuru nendangariro yokubereka nayo. Kufanana nemhuka ipi neipi inoyamwisa, takagadzirirwa kuberekana kwenguva yakareba sezvatingagona. Mwana anoberekwa apo pfungwa yokubereka inopindirana nechishuvo chomwana. Kuna Myriam Szejer, “mukadzi anogara achida vana. Izvi zvinotsanangura chikonzero nei mudiki paanotanga kukura uye akanzwa kuti ari kutsvedza, mwana mutsva anogadzikwa,” anosimbisa kudaro. Pane imwe nzvimbo,” chisarudzo chekurega kubereka chinowanikwa sekuramba mwana anotevera. Nhamba yakanaka yevakadzi vakamanikidzwa kubvisa pamuviri pakukumbirwa kwevarume vavo vanorarama zvakashata zvikuru mumamiriro ezvinhu aya nokuti, mukati mavo, chimwe chinhu chakatyorwa zvikuru. Kuenda kumwedzi, kunomiririra kupera kwembereko, dzimwe nguva kunoitikawo zvinorwadza zvikuru nekuti vakadzi vanomanikidzwa kusiya mwana zvachose. Vanorasikirwa nesimba rekusarudza.
Hapana chido chemwana: sei?
Zvinoitika hazvo izvozvo vamwe vakadzi havanzwi kuda mwana. Izvi zvinogona kuva nekuda kwemaronda emhuri, kusavapo kwehupenyu hwewanano hunogutsa kana kuti nechido nemaune uye zvizere. Munzanga inokudza humai, sarudzo iyi dzimwe nguva inogona kuva yakaoma kufunga mupfungwa. Zvisinei, kushayikwa kwechido kumwana hakuzodzivisi kuti mukadzi ararame zvakakwana chikadzi chake uye kuti atange dzimwe nzira mukusununguka kwakakwana.