Zviri pasi rose: kubva paudiki vana vanoda kudhirowa. “Tikangovapa mukana, vangave pajecha netsvimbo kana kuti pabepa rine matinji, vanodhirowa.” Uye nechikonzero chakanaka, "ndicho chikamu chakakosha chekukura kwavo kwepfungwa", anotsanangura kudaro Roseline Davido. Iriwo “nzira ine ropafadzo uye youshamwari yokukurukura nevamwe. Pane zvakawanda zveaffectivity mudhirowa », Inotsanangura iyo psychoanalyst. Sezvaanotsanangura, “kudhirowa harisi basa roga. Nekupa mufananidzo wake kuvabereki vake, ari kuita chipo. Mwana haazvikweveri asi kugovera kugara kwake zvakanaka, kuratidza kuti anogona kuita chimwe chinhu ”. Uyezve, kana mwana muduku aine katsika kekubvarura mifananidzo yake, “izvi zvinogona kuratidza kurega kana kuti zvinetso mukukurukurirana. », Inowedzera nyanzvi.
Kuna Roseline Davido, zvakakosha kuti tiratidze kuti tinofarira mifananidzo yemwana wake mudiki, nekumutenda, kumukorokotedza. Usazengure kuratidza kana kuendesa chinyorwa chake chehunyanzvi kuhofisi kunochiwedzera. "Inzira yekuonana nemwana wako, kumusimbisa, kumuratidza kuti haana kuita masaini aya pasina". Uyewo yeuka kupa mwana wako machira nemapenzura mune imwe nzvimbo mumba.
Mhuri mufananidzo
Paanotanga kudhirowa, kureva kubva padanho rekunyora, "mudiki anoita fungidziro yekukura kwake", anosimbisa Roseline Davido. Uye kana angoita manhamba, kazhinji, anotanga nekumiririra mhuri yake. Kubatanidzwa kwevabereki kunoratidzwa mumifananidzo yake. Uyezve, mukuwirirana nenyanzvi, papepa, “kuruboshwe kunofananidzira kunamatira kuna amai, kunguva yakapfuura, pakati, yazvino, kurudyi, kunamatira kuna baba, ndiko kuti kufambira mberi. Nguva yeOedipus complex inonzwisisikawo mumifananidzo yevana vaduku. Somuenzaniso, “musikana muduku, anonzwa ane mhaka zvishoma nokuda kwokuda baba vake panzvimbo paamai vake, anomuzivisa ndokumuita sezvaari mumifananidzo yake. Vamwe vasikana vanozvipa hunhu hwakafanana nehwaamai vavo: mhete, dhirezi… Pateni imwechete sezviri pachena inowanikwa mumukomana mudiki, uyo anoda kudzima kana kufanana nababa vake nepaanogona napo, ”anodaro Roseline Davido.
Kudhirowa kwemwana, kuburitsa matambudziko?
“Dudziro yekudhirowa ibasa renyanzvi,” anotsanangura kudaro Roseline Davido. ” Kubva panguva iyo mwana anodhirowa, hazvisi kuvabereki kuzvidudzira », Anotsanangura. Uye ipapo dhirowa chete haigone kuburitsa zvese, unofanirwa kufunga nezve mamiriro acho, ”anowedzera. Sekureva kwe psychoanalyst, zvinotonyanya kukosha kuti uteerere maitiro emwana wako paanenge achikwevera, kuteerera nyaya yaari kutaura, pasina kumubvunza mibvunzo yakawandisa. Mwana anofanira kubvumirwa kutaura, kumubvunza nenzira isina kwaakarerekera kuitira kuti asamufurira. "Dzimwe nguva tinoona vana vane makore 6-7 vanoramba kudhirowa nekuti vanonzwisisa kuti mifananidzo yavo inogona kuva nezvakavanzika kana kuti inobvumira kunyura muhupenyu hwavo".
Kana mifananidzo ichibvumira nyanzvi kuona kusagadzikana kwepfungwa kana kukakavara kwemhuri, nekuda kwemavara, kusiiwa kwemavara kana zvikamu zvemuviri, zvinogonawo kuita kuti zvikwanise kuona matambudziko emuviri. Chokwadi,” kana mwana akadhirowa mifananidzo yegrey, hazvirevi hazvo kuti akaora mwoyo. Anogona kunge ari bofu », Anosimbisa Roseline Davido. Uye kana pazera remakore 4-5, mwana anopedza nguva yake achiita doodling, zvinokosha kuti atariswe kunzwa kwake kana kuona kwake asati afunga zvakananga pamusoro pekukanganiswa kwepfungwa. Kuna Roseline Davido, unongofanira kuteerera kumwana wako sezvo "madhirowa anotipa ruzivo rwechinyararire nezvekukura kwemwana wako".