Mukati
Sergi Rufi: "Pfungwa yakafanana nebanga: inoshandisa zvakasiyana siyana, zvimwe zvinobatsira uye zvimwe zvinokuvadza"
Psychology
Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Sergi Rufi anoburitsa "A chaiyo psychology", maanotaurira maitiro aakashandura kutambura kwake kuita hutano
Sergi rufi Akatenderera nekutenderera kusvika awana zvaaida kuita. Chiremba, Tenzi uye BA muPsychology, Rufi anoshandisa imwe psychology, yaanoti "psychology chaiyo." Nekudaro, kuburikidza nekudzidziswa kwake uye neruzivo, anoedza kubatsira vamwe kuita zvakanaka vasina kuramba vari pamusoro.
Kungoburitswa "Psychology chaiyo" (Dome Mabhuku), bhuku, rinenge riine biography, asi pamwe zvakare iri gwara, maanotaurira nzira yake yekusiya kutambura kumashure. Mune yakasarudzika-yakabatana nzanga, mune wese munhu isu tiri kunge tichifara pasocial media, apo patiri kuwedzera kukurirwa neruzivo rwese rwatinogashira uye isu tinoziva zvishoma nezve isu zvakakosha,
sezvavanotaura, vachiziva "kupatsanura gorosi nehundi." Takataura naSergi Rufi kuABC Bienestar nezve ichi chinhu chaicho: kuiswa kwerufaro, simba renhau uye zvakawanda zvekutya zvinotinetsa zuva nezuva.
Sei iwe uchiti iyo pfungwa inogona kuve chishandiso chehupenyu hwakanaka, asi zvakare yekutambudza?
Zvinogona kuve, kana kuti zvirinani, zviripo, nekuti hapana munhu akatidzidzisa chaizvo mashandiro anoita pfungwa, zvazviri, zviripi, zvatinogona kutarisira kubva kwazviri. Kwatiri, pfungwa chinhu chakavanzirwa isu uye chakavakwa zvoga, asi muchokwadi icho chinhu chakaomarara kwazvo. Tinogona kutaura kuti pfungwa yakafanana nebanga: ine zvinoshandiswa zvakasiyana, zvimwe zvinobatsira uye zvimwe zvinokuvadza zvakanyanya. Pfungwa ndiyo yekusingaperi isingazivikanwe.
Sei tichitya kusurukirwa? Icho chiratidzo chenguva dzazvino here?
Ini ndinofunga kusurukirwa chinhu chakambogara chichivhundutsa isu, padanho retsinga uye padanho rehupenyu; takagadzirwa kuti tigare mudzinza, mumombe. Icho chinhu chakaomarara, uye izvozvi vezvenhau vari kusimudzira hupenyu sevakaroora uye semhuri. Hatisi kuona kushambadzira kwevanhu vega, vanonyemwerera. Kune chivakwa chezvemagariro nemagariro icho chatinoona zuva rega rega chinopomera mhosva yekuve wega.
Saka pane kuvengwa pakusurukirwa, pakuve usina kuroora…
Chaizvoizvo, munguva pfupi yapfuura ndakaona mumagazini nyaya yemunhu ane mukurumbira, mavakati aifara, asi chimwe chinhu chakange chisipo, nekuti aive achiri asina kuroora. Kusaroora kunowanzo kubatwa sekunge kwaive mutongo, uye kwete sarudzo.
Anoti mubhuku kuti kufunga zvine musoro hakutibatsire kuwana hutano hwakanaka hwepfungwa. Isu tinokanganisa kufunga pamwe nekuporesa?
Kuzvidzora ndezvese izvo isu takadzidziswa: kufunga, kusahadzika uye kubvunza, asi neimwe nzira gare gare hatisi kukwanisa kuziva kuti takadii, kana tagwinya, kuti tiri sei. Aya marudzi emibvunzo ane ruzivo, uye nguva zhinji hatizive kuigadzirisa. Kufunga kwedu kunoitika otomatiki 80% yenguva, uye mune izvi chiitiko chedu chinopindira, icho kakawanda, tisingazvizive icho, chinotinonokera. Hatigone kunge tiri nguva dzese takamirira izvo zvinotifungwa nezvatino funga: isu tiri musanganiswa wezvinhu zvakawanda, uye kazhinji kwete zvinhu zvese zvine musoro uye zvine musoro. Hushamwari, rudo, zvandinofarira zvemumhanzi, chikafu, bonde… zvinhu izvo zvatisingakwanise kuzviruramisa.
Iwe unorevei kana iwe ukataura mubhuku kuti vadzidzisi vawanda muhupenyu hwedu, asi kwete vadzidzisi?
Mudzidzisi ane chekuita nemunhu anozvipira kune basa ravanobhadharirwa, iri rekufambisa chinyorwa kana pepa, uye zvakadaro mudzidzisi ane chekuita nechimwe chinhu chakazara. Mudzidzisi ane chekuita nechakanyanya kufunga chikamu, kuruboshwe hemisphere, uye mudzidzisi nechimwe chinhu chakakwana, nemumwe munhu anofunga nezvose zvikamu zvehuropi, uyo anotaura nezvehunhu nerudo neruremekedzo. Mudzidzisi anonyanya kuita robhoti uye mudzidzisi munhu.
Kurovedza kune ngozi here?
El coaching Kwete pachayo, asi bhizinesi rakatenderedza iri. Makosi emwedzi mumwe kana maviri anoita kuti iwe ufunge kuti uri nyanzvi… Kana paine kushomeka kwekodhi yetsika, kune vanhu vanoita mumabasa avasingatonge uye mune ino kesi, unogona kuenda kunotsvaga uye kupedza kumusoro zvakanyanya. Kuseri kwemafashoni ese iwe unofanirwa kuve unofungira. Kana chimwe chinhu chakadai chikaitika, kazhinji pane kudiwa kwehupfumi, kwete kukurudzira kwevanhu. Uye mune iyo kesi ye coaching… Kwandiri mumwe munhu anonzi hupenyu murairidzi nemakore makumi maviri nemana, zvakanaka uye nemakumi matanhatu, tisina kupfuura nenzira dzakawanda uye nemukati basa nedambudziko, zvakaoma. Ini ndinofunga kuti iyo hupenyu murairidzi inofanira kunge iri munhu nguva yeguva risati rasvika (Nyaya). Iyo nguva yekuve nebasa kekutanga, vaviri vekutanga, kuti vanokusiya, isu tinofanirwa kuve neruzivo uye kwete kungorarama zvinhu izvi, asi tobva tazvishandira.
Instagram iri kushandura masimba ehukama hwehukama?
Instagram ipuratifomu inosimudzira kushamwaridzana kupfupi, kuzvida uye kumberi. Ini ndinotaura mubhuku kuti kune mhando mbiri dzevanhu vanoshandisa pasocial network iyi: vanhu vanogara vachizviratidza kuti vapora uye avo vane basa zvakanyanya. Zvakafanana nemufananidzo wemudzidzisi nemudzidzisi uyo akataura: wekutanga ane nzira-imwechete yekushandisa Instagram, anotsvaga kumutsa godo uye kuhwina vazhinji likes; yechipiri ine kutaurirana kwakanyanya uye kwakaderera. Iyi yekuratidzira pakupedzisira inoguma ichikurudzira, hongu.
Tsika dzinotiumba sevanhu here?
Chaizvoizvo, isu tiri tsika tsika. Semuenzaniso, vanhu vanogara vachihwihwidza nziyo, uye isu tinofanirwa kuziva kuti mimhanzi haisi rwiyo chete, iwo mazwi, it is a sad and timbre fun and this is building us. Iko kune tsika yevatengi umo mune imwe tsika, inogara iri yakati fananei, asi isu tinonzwa kuti kune chigadzirwa chatinokwana nacho. Semuenzaniso, mazwi enziyo dzechiLatin; Vanonzwikwa zvakanyanya uye zviri kutivaka isu sevanhu, zvinokanganisa zvatiri.
Zvakadaro, kutaura kwehunyanzvi kunogona kutibatsira kuti tinzwe zvirinani, nerunyararo nesu pachedu?
Hongu zvinoita, kunyangwe kana ichiita kuti tive nerunyararo nesu, handizive… Asi imota yekutaurirana, kubatana uye catharsis, yekutaura. Kunyangwe ipapo iwe ukavhura redhiyo uye rwiyo rwumwe chete rwunogara ruchiridza, uye kazhinji mune iyi mhando yehunyanzvi yepakati zvine chepfu rudo runodzokororwa, iro tsime remukati, uye kudzoka kwariri kakawanda ... zvinonetsa kubuda mariri kana isu vadzokorore mazuva ese.
Anotaura mubhuku renhambo itsva Disney, inonzi nevazhinji "Mr. Anoshamisa maitiro ”… Kunamata kwakanyanyisa kwemufaro kunotiremedza here?
Ehe, iko kutsvagisa pachako kunowedzera kuda chaiko; Kana ndiri kutsvaga icho, ini handina icho. Zvinotaridza kuti kudzamara taenderera mberi nekukwana, kumisikidza runako rwekunaka, kugara uchinyemwerera, hatizofara. Ini handishandisi izwi rekuti mufaro, nekuti iro rinoenderana neichi, icho pakupedzisira chinova chigadzirwa.
Muchokwadi, mufaro ungasave wakanyanyisa kuomarara, pamwe chinhu chiri nyore, uye ndosaka uchitipunyuka, nekuti izvo zvatakadzidziswa kuomarara nekutsvaga kwese.