Mukati
“Pakanga pari pazororo remhuri apo kupengeswa kwangu kwokutanga kwakamuka: pandakanga ndakabata banga rokubikira mamwe manheru, ndakazviona ndichibaya vabereki vangu nehanzvadzi yangu. Sokunge ndabatwa nechishuvo chisingadzivisiki, ndichiperekedzwa nemifananidzo ine chisimba chakanyanya, ndakagutsikana kuti ndaigona kuita chiito kana ndikateerera izwi diki iri rakandidaidza kuti ndiparadze mhuri yangu, kubva pakukwirira kwemakore gumi nematatu. Kunyange zvazvo ndakanga ndisingazvizivi panguva iyoyo, ndaingotambura nezvinonzi impulse phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, inoratidzirwa nekutya kutadza kuzvidzora uye kuita chiito chechisimba kune iwe pachako. kana vamwe.
Makore akatevera akaratidzirwa nezvikamu zvakafanana. Handina kukwanisa kusvika pachikuva kutozosvikira chitima chasvika, ndichitya kuti ndaizobatwa neshungu ndosaidzira mumwe munhu munjanji. Ndiri mumotokari, ndakafungidzira kupa chidhiraivho ndokupinda mumuti kana imwe motokari. Zvakatondinetsa kare panguva iyoyo, asi zvishoma.
Chii chinonzi impulse phobia?
Impulse phobia ndeyekupengesa kana kutya kuita zvehasha, zvechisimba uye / kana zvinonyadzisa, uye zvinorambidzwa. Semuyenzaniso, kurova mumwe munhu uine banga muruoko rwako, uchisaidzira mutakurwi pasi pechitima kana uri papuratifomu… Chirwere ichi chinogonawo kukanganisa zviito zvingaitwa nemunhu pavana vake. Mifungo iyi inotyisa haimboshanduri kuita chiito.
Impulse phobias ndeyemhuri yeOCD uye inogona kumuka mushure mekuberekwa, kunyange zvazvo vanaamai vakawanda vasina ushingi hwekutaura nezvazvo. Kutungamirirwa kwehupupuri phobias kwakavakirwa pakurapa kwepfungwa, uye kunyanya pacognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Matauriro akapfava sekufungisisa kwekurangarira kana mishonga yemakwenzi anogonawo kushanda.
“Ndakabatwa nepfungwa dzakaoma ropa rangu”
Pakanga pari pandakasununguka mwana wangu wekutanga muna 2017 apo zviitiko izvi zvakatora shanduko yekushungurudza. Ndakapindwa nepfungwa dzaipisa ropa uye kuti mwana wangu ndiye ainyanya kundikoshera.
Dzakanyura mupfungwa dzangu ndisingade, idzi pfungwa dzinotyisa dzakakonzera kutenderera kwakashata kwezvisinga peri, uye zvimiro zvemazuva ese zvehupenyu hwezuva nezuva zvakaguma zvatora hunhu hunoshungurudza zvekuti ndakange ndisisakwanise kuzviita. single. Semuenzaniso, zvaive kunze kwemubvunzo kuti ndiswedere mapanga kana mahwindo, "phobogenic" stimuli iyo yakakonzera marudzi ese ekunzwa kwemuviri, kushushikana uye yakandiisa mukutambudzika kwemanzwiro zvekuti ndaitya pane iyo pfungwa. kuti murume wangu anotisiya achienda kubasa. Ndakatadza kugezawo ndega ndichitya kumunyudza.
Kubva mumwedzi yekutanga yemwanakomana wangu uye nhanho dzangu dzekutanga saamai, ndine ndangariro dzinozadzwa nemufaro nekuzvidemba, zvekukotama pamberi pekutya kwangu kunyanya. Kuve ndakavhunduka uye nekugutsikana kuti pfungwa idzi dzaigona kuve nechinhu chechokwadi, uye kuti kuisa nzira dzekunzvenga kwaizondibvumidza kubuda mugwara. Ini ndaifanira kuona kuti ndidzo dzakaipa reflexes dzinopfutisa nzvimbo yekudyara yekutya uye inobvumira ese aya maitiro anoshungurudza kukura, kunyangwe iwo achipesana nehunhu hwedu.
Gamuchira pfungwa dzako netsitsi
Nekunzwisisa izvi, ndakakwanisa kudzidza maitiro ekuzvibata zvirinani mumwedzi mishoma, kunyanya kuburikidza nekufungisisa kwekurangarira. Ini ndinobvuma kuti ndaipokana zvakanyanya pakutanga, iyo pfungwa yekugara kwemaminetsi akati wandei nekuona kufema kwangu yaiita seyakapusa zvachose kwandiri. Ndaizotaridzika sei, ndakagara ndakachinjika-makumbo pakati pekamuri maziso angu akavharwa, kana murume wangu akangoerekana adonha?! Ndakanga ndichiri kutamba mutambo wacho, ndichifungisisa maminitsi gumi zuva nezuva kwevhiki, ipapo mwedzi, ipapo gore, dzimwe nguva ndichiita mapurogiramu akareba kupfuura awa, izvo zvaiita sezvisingabviri kwandiri pakutanga.
Zvakandibvumira kuti ndidzidze kumisa kuyerera kwemafungiro asina kunaka nokuzviratidza kwavari uye kuvagamuchira nemutsa, pasina kutonga, pane kutsvaka kudzivisa kana kurwisana navo. Kunyangwe ndakabvunzana nevarapi vepfungwa vakati wandei, ndine chokwadi chekuti kurapa kwakanyanya kwave kuri kufungisisa uye basa rawakanditungamira kuti ndiite pachangu mumwedzi yapfuura.
Kucherechedza uye kubvuma zviri kuitika mumusoro medu nomumuviri wedu, nokuvapo zvechokwadi, kunotikoka kuti tichinje ukama hwedu nemifungo yedu nemanzwiro edu, angava akanaka kana kuti akaipa.
“Kuva noushingi hwokutaura nezvazvo kunorevawo kubvuma kutya kwako”
Mushure mekuita mwana wechipiri mwedzi mishoma yapfuura, ndakaona mafambiro uye nzira yakafamba kubva pakazvarwa mukoma wake. Kunyange ndanga ndisingatyi kutaura nezvazvo kare (ndirwo rudzi rweruzivo rwatinofarira kuchengeta pasi pekuputira!), Iyi nhanho yekudzokera yakandikurudzira kuti pakupedzisira ndikurukure nezvechirwere ichi nevandinoda, uye kunyangwe kunyora bhuku pane zvese nzira dzakandibatsira kuti ndikunde. Kuva noushingi hwokutaura nezvazvo kunorevawo kubvuma zvaunotya.
Nhasi, ini handina kuporeswa kubva kune aya mafibias ekufungidzira nekuti muchokwadi, munhu haatomboarapa, asi ini ndakakwanisa kubvisa pesvedzero yavo, ndichidzikamisa pfungwa dzehasha, dzisingachamuki zvakare. Chero zvazvingava, ini handichazvipi kukosha, ikozvino ndinoziva kuti zvinhu zvose zviri kutamba mumusoro mangu uye kuti handifi ndakatora chiito. Uye ndiko kukunda chaiko kwekukura kwangu pachangu. “
Morgan Rosa