Dzimwe nguva zvinoratidzika kwatiri kuti tinogona kuzadzisa chinangwa chedu chete kana tikaenda kwachiri nekunakidzwa uye nekumanikidza. Ichi chimiro chinowanikwa muvarume, anodaro psychologist-acmeologist, mudzidzisi wechikadzi Ekaterina Smirnova. Uye isu, vakadzi, tine zvimwe, dzimwe nguva zvinotonyanya kushanda.
Kuti uwane zvibodzwa zvakatemerwa, zvine chinangwa enda kune chinangwa chakatarwa, shanda zvakarongeka, uve mutungamiriri akaoma - vakadzi vazhinji vanosarudza zano rakadaro mubhizinesi nehupenyu. Asi zvinogara zvichibatsira mukadzi pachake here?
“Pane imwe nguva, kunyange ndisati ndaenda kunyanzvi dzepfungwa, ndaishanda mukambani ine network, ndichitengesa zvizorwa nepefiyumu, uye ndakawana migumisiro,” anoyeuka kudaro mumwe muongorori wezvesayenzi Ekaterina Smirnova. - Zuva rangu rose rakarongwa neminiti: mangwanani ndakazvigadzirira zvinangwa, uye manheru ndakapfupisa zvigumisiro, musangano wega wega wakagadziriswa uye waifanira kuunza mhedzisiro chaiyo. Pashure penguva yakati, ndakava mutengesi akanakisisa muboka, ipapo ndakataura kuvakadzi 160 vanobereka zvikuru mukambani ndokugoverana ruzivo rwangu.
Asi hurongwa hwakadai hwakatora zviwanikwa zvangu zvese. Zvaida simba zvakanyanya. Hongu, ichi chikoro chikuru, asi pane imwe nguva iwe unoona kuti wave cog mumuchina muhombe. Uye vanongokusvina seremoni. Somugumisiro, zvinetso zvakatanga mumhuri yangu, ndaiva nezvinetso zvoutano. Ndikati mumwoyo mangu, “Mira! Zvakwana!» Uye akachinja maitiro.
Simba rehunhu hwemunhukadzi
Ekaterina anobvuma kuti akaita maererano negorgorithm yechirume. Izvi zvakashanda kune mushandirwi, asi kwete iye pachake kana vadiwa vake. Akatanga kutsvaga dzimwe nzira uye maturusi ekuzadzisa zvinangwa zvaizounza kugutsikana, kupa simba kwaari nemhuri yake, kumupfumisa.
"Tinogona kuita zvese zvatinoda, asi neimwe nzira. Ndinoda kurota uye kuita kuti zviroto zviitike semukadzi. Panguva dzakadai, ndinonzwa sen'anga.
Chii chinonzi "chikadzi" chinorevei? “Apa ndipo patinodzidza kuva mukadzi anogara kwete chete mukuwirirana naye pachake, asiwo mutsinhirano nekubatana nemhuri,” anotsanangura kudaro Ekaterina. - Mukadzi akadaro ane kutenda musimba reChisiko, Mwari, Amai Mukuru (mumwe nomumwe ane chimwe chinhu chake). Ane hukama nehunhu hwake hwechikadzi, anovimba neyakagadziridzwa yakasikwa intuition uye anonzwa maitiro ekuita kuti zviroto zviitike.
Mukufunga kwake, mukadzi anoziva kushandura, sekunge akabata kure kure nemabhatani mumaoko ake, achisarudza chiteshi chake chenhengo yeimba yega kana waanoshanda naye. Kana kuti anomira pachitofu chikuru uye anoziva nguva ipi yokuwedzera moto kune imwe yehama dzake, uye kuderedza kune imwe. Mukadzi akachenjera akadaro anounganidza simba, achizvizadza pachake pakutanga kwezvose, uye zvino anogovera zviwanikwa zvemukati kune zvakakodzera uye mazano.
Kuti uzadzise zvinangwa zvako, hauchadi kukwira bhiza rinomhanya nesaber risina kuvharwa kana kukwira bulldozer, uchitsvaira zvipingamupinyi.
Parizvino, mwanakomana anoda kutarisirwa, uye zvino zviri nani kudyisa murume uye kumuisa pamubhedha pasina kubvunza mibvunzo yakawanda, asi enda kune shamwari pachake uye taura kubva pamwoyo. Asi mangwana murume achazorora uye achifara.
Kugovera simba uye kukurudzira vadikanwa ndiro basa guru remukadzi, mudzidzisi anogutsikana. Uye anogona kuita izvi nesimba, intuitively achimanikidza zvese kuti zvitenderere pabasa rake uye hope. Zvose zvinogadziriswa pachazvo, nokuda kwemabasa aya "nzvimbo iri kuchinja", vanhu vakarurama vanowanikwa vanozova vadzidzisi vedu kana kutibatsira kuzadzisa zvirongwa zvedu.
"Kana mukadzi akaita zvese nerudo, anoziva nemoyo wake maitiro akanaka ekuita, kuzadza chiroto chake nesimba rake uye vanhu vanodziya vaanoda kwaari. Kuti uzadzise zvinangwa zvako, hauchadi kukwira bhiza rinomhanya nebakatwa rakavhomorwa kana kukwira bhurudhoza, uchitsvaira zvipingamupinyi munzira, sezvinoita vakadzi vazhinji vanofarira mazano echirume.
Zvishandiso zvevakadzi zvakapfava zvakafanana netsamba yeVIP, kuendesa ruzivo rwakakosha kune Universe nekukurumidza uye nekuvimbika. Mukadzi ane unyanzvi uhwu anongoziva uye anoita. Kufanana naVasilisa akanaka, achizunguza ruoko rwake. Uye iyi haisi dimikira, asi manzwiro chaiwo ayo vakadzi, kamwechete kamwe mukuyerera, vakawana.
Wise Woman's Toolkit
Chimwe chezviridzwa zvechikadzi izvi zvakapfava zvinodaidzwa kuti “Seven times three minutes”. Nheyo yebasa rake ndeyekufamba nematanho manomwe kubva pakugamuchira basa kusvika pakurigadzirisa. “Ngatitii ndine hope: ndinoda kuti mhuri yangu itamire kune imwe imba yakanaka. Ndinoudza murume wangu nezvazvo. Chii chichatanga kuita? Mu99% yezviitiko tinosangana nekupikisa. “Tiri kunzwa zvakanakawo pano!”, Kana kuti “Iye zvino hatichazvikwanisi!”, Kana kuti “Izvozvi hazvisi izvo—ndichapedza chirongwa…”.
Mukadziwo zvake achagumburwa kana kuti acharatidza zvehasha mhosva yake. Mukadzi akachenjera anoziva kuti ane dzimwe katanhatu dzemaminitsi matatu. Achakwanisa kumuyeuchidza zvakare nezvechiroto chake, asi neimwe nzira.
Mukadzi achazadzisa kuti panguva yechinomwe murume achafunga pfungwa iyi kwete chete inofadza, asiwo yake.
Kechipiri, anoisa zvine hunyoro bhuku redzimba nyowani munzvimbo inoonekera, achipopota kuti kwakareruka sei uye kuti murume wake anozopedzisira ave nehofisi yake, uye mumwe nemumwe wevana ane kamuri yake. Hazvigoneki kuti panguva ino murume achabvuma, asi iye achamirira kechitatu. Muhurukuro naamai vake kana vamwene, achagovera pfungwa. "Zvakanaka ... unofanira kufunga nezvazvo," murume achadaro.
Uye saka zvishoma nezvishoma, kakawanda, nekubatanidzwa kwezvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana, mabhuku, shamwari, nzendo dzekushanyira imba huru, kukurukurirana kwakabatana, achazadzisa kuti panguva yechinomwe murume wacho achafunga pfungwa iyi kwete chete inofadza, asiwo. zvake. "Ndanga ndichitaura nezveizvi kwenguva yakareba, handizvo here, mudiwa?" "Chokwadi, mudiwa, zano rakanaka!" Uye munhu wose anofara, nokuti chisarudzo chakaitwa nerudo.
“Mumwe nomumwe wedu, somucheki, anokwenenzvera mipendero yedhaimani kwoupenyu hwake hwose. Isu tiri kudzidza kugadzira, kusanganisa, kwakabatana nehukadzi hwedu uye simba rayo, kuti tinzwe senge varoyi chaivo vanogadzira runako, kudziya uye rudo, "anodaro Ekaterina Smirnova. Saka pamwe zvakakodzera kuedza?