Mukati
Kuchinjana kwekugara mumibvunzo
Raiva bhiri rapasiswa pasina dambudziko. Ndakapotsa. Kuongororwa kwechinyorwa "Chiremera chevabereki uye zvinofarirwa nemwana", zvakakurudzirwa nemutevedzeri weSocialist Marie-Anne Chapdelaine, zvakafanira kumbomiswa sine die nekuda kwekuwanda kwemagadzirirwo akaiswa nevanopikisa. Chinyorwa chega chegwaro redzidzo yemazuva ese kune mubereki-wekurera ndicho chaigona kugamuchirwa. Dzimwe nyaya dzaive dzegakava rinonakidza mukati nekunze kweDare, rakadai seriya rairatidza kuti mwana aizobatsirikana nekugara vaviri, nevabereki vake mumwe nemumwe. Chiyero chacho chaiitirwa kuva chekufananidzira, kwaiva kubvisa pfungwa ye "nzvimbo huru yekugara", iyo inowanzopa mubereki asingachengetedzi kunzwa kwekukanganisika. Kune vanyori vezvinyorwa, uku kutonga kaviri kwaisareva kuita kwakarongeka, nekugadzika, kwekuchinjana kwemubatanidzwa wekuchengeta pakati pababa naamai. Asi varwisi vekare venzvimbo yekugara vane chokwadi chekuti yaive yekuyedza kuimisa senzira yekutanga yesangano mushure mekuparadzana kupi zvako. Vanopfuura nyanzvi dze5 uye masangano saka vakakwira kumusoro nechikumbiro vachishora "imwe nzvimbo yekugara yakatemerwa mazera ese". Pamusoro pavo ndiMaurice Berger, mukuru wedhipatimendi repfungwa dzevana paCHU de Saint-Étienne, Bernard Golse, mukuru wedhipatimendi pachipatara cheNecker-Enfants Malades naJacqueline Phélip, purezidhendi wesangano re“L'Enfant devant”. .
Alternate pesidency, contraindicated kune vadiki
Nyanzvi idzi dzinokumbira kuti mutemo unorambidza kuodha kweimwe nzvimbo yekugara yemwana ari pasi pemakore matanhatu, kunze kwekunge apihwa mvumo nevabereki vese, udzikwe mumutemo. Zvinoitika kuti iyi ndiyo pfungwa isingaite nharo. Nyanzvi zhinji muhudiki, kungave kana kupokana nekuwanda kwezvirongwa zvekudzidza-basa, vanotenda izvozvoinofanira kuenzaniswa nezera remwana, uye kwete hazvo kuenzana kubva pakutanga. Pamwe pamwe chete, iyo 50/50 uye 7 mazuva / 7 mwero unoonekwa seusina kurongeka kumwana ari pasi pemakore matatu. Zvino, senguva dzose, kune mhedziso "anti" uye ine mwero "pro". Zvichienderana nokuti nyanzvi yakakumbirwa inoshandisa here dzidziso yekunamatira kune tsamba uye inopfuura kana zvishoma "pro-amai", achafunga kuti mwana haafaniri kurara kunze kweimba yaamai asati asvika makore maviri, kana kuti achanzwa kuti mudiki anogona kubva kure nechimiro chaamai, asi mukati menguva inonzwisisika (kwete kupfuura maawa makumi mana nemasere).
Kutaura idi, vabereki vashomanene vanoti rudzi urwu rwokutarisira vana vaduku zvikuru, uye pasinei zvapo nechikonzero chipi nechipi, vatongi vashomanene vanokupa.. Zvinoenderana nenhamba kubva ku Ministry of Justice kubva 2012 *, 13% yevana vari pasi pemakore mashanu ekuberekwa vari mukugara pamwe chete, zvichienzaniswa ne5% yevane makore 24,2-5. Uye kune vana vari pasi pemakore mashanu, kugoverwa kunoshanduka, uye kwete yevhiki nevhiki 5/50, inosarudzwa. Gérard Poussin, purofesa wezvepfungwa dzekiriniki, anoratidzwa semutsigiri weimwe nzvimbo yekugara, akaudza mupepanhau reQuebec kuti akasiya kudhinda basa revadzidzi vake vaviri, nekuti mumuenzaniso wavo wevana makumi matatu nevatanhatu, vatanhatu chete vavo. vaiva pakati pemakore matatu ne50, uye hapana akanga ari pasi pemakore matatu. Kunyangwe kubasa rekutsvagisa, saka zvakaoma kuwana vana vadiki vari pasi peiyo bhinary rhythm!
Alternate pekugara, kudziviswa mumamiriro ezvinhu anopokana
Iyi ndiyo imwe yambiro yakapihwa ne5 petition. Muchiitiko chekukonana pakati pevabereki, nzira yekugara kune imwe nzvimbo inofanira kurambidzwa.. Yambiro iyi inoita kuti zvikwata zvemadzibaba zvisvetuke. ” Zviri nyore! », Vanopikisa. Zvakakwana kuti amai vataure kusawirirana kwavo kuti vadzoke kwavari. Iyi igakava mukati megakava. Vanababa vanonzwa vakanganisa nemutemo vanowanzoisa pamberi pe "parental alienation syndrome", maererano neiyo mubereki (munyaya iyi amai) vanobata mwana wavo uye anoita kuti anzwe kurambwa kune mumwe. mubereki. Nyanzvi dzakasaina chikumbiro chekupokana nekuvepo kwechirwere ichi uye vanoshoropodza chimwe chikamu chebhiri: kugadzwa kwemuripo wehurumende wakatemerwa mubereki izvo zvingatadzisa kushandiswa kwechiremera chevabereki kune waakamboroora. Chinyorwa chacho chiri pachena: vanaamai vanogara vaine kutenda kwakanaka kana vakaramba kuendesa mwana kune waakamboroorana naye kuti vamubvumire kushandisa kodzero yake yekugara. Zvisinei, mamejasitiriti mazhinji namagweta anoziva kuti zvirokwazvo pane muedzo pakati pavamwe vavo woku“bata” mwana ndokuparadza chimiro chababa.. Kunzwisisa kwakashata pakati pevabereki mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu akafambira mberi mu35% yezvisarudzo zvekuramba imwe nzvimbo yekugara.. Asi, zvinonakidza, kana paine kusawirirana pakati pevabereki, imba huru yekugara haiwanzo kunzi kuna amai (63% vachipokana ne71% muzvibvumirano zvine hukama) uye kaviri kakawanda kuna baba (24% vachipesana ne12% muzvibvumirano zvine hushamwari). Vanababa naizvozvo havasi, nguva imwe neimwe, vanorasikirwa zvikuru muchiitiko chacho, zvinopesana nezvinogara zvichitaurwa nemafambiro emadzibaba.
Mwedzi gumi nemisere yapfuura, vanababa ava pavakakwira pama crane vachida kuwana mukana wakaenzana kuvana vavo, nyanzvi dzakarangarira chokwadi chenhamba idzi: 10% chete yekuparadzana inopokana, varume vazhinji havatsvage kuchengetwa kwevana vavo, uye 40% yearimoni haibhadharwe.. Mushure mokuparadzana, muitiro ungada kuva kuparadzaniswa kwapashoma napashoma, kwakawanda kana kuti kushoma kwokuzvidira kwababa, ipapo kuparadzaniswa nokusangwarira kwaamai.. Takatarisana nemamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo uye anotyisa aya, vacheri vashanu zvakadaro vakasarudza kurwisa njodzi yekufungidzira, iyo yekurongeka kwekuchinjana pekugara kwevana vari pasi pemakore mazana mashanu.
* Civil Justice assessment Center, “Kugara kwevana vevabereki vakaparadzana, Kubva pakukumbira kwevabereki kuenda kumutongo wemutongi”, Chikumi 2012.