Mukati
“Hamusi amai vangu! Hauna chekundiudza! “ Izvi zvinowanzoita hutsinye kune murairo unopiwa kumwana weshamwari yake, apo hukama hunenge hwanetsa.
Usati wapindira mukurerwa kwake (chipfeko chetafura, kugerwa, kushandisa foni, nguva yokurara, nezvimwewo), ziva uye umude mwana wacho. Usarambe usina kutaura futi. “Kana muchigara pasi pedenga rimwe chete, mutsanangurire zvakadzikama kuti mitemo yepamba penyu ndeipi. Zvikasadaro, kunetsana kwacho kwaizomuka uye kupedzisira kwaputika kamwe kamwe ”, anotsanangura kudaro chiremba wepfungwa dzemwana Edwige Antier.
Munhu wese ane basa rake. Zano kubva kuna Marie-Dominique Linder, psychoanalyst *
Basa revabereki nderekuisa nheyo dzinokosha: padzidzo (nhungamiro, kuonana nevadzidzisi, zvichingodaro), tsika (mipimo yetsika, zvichingodaro) kana kuti utano (kusarudza marapirwo, zvichingodaro).
Vatezvara, vanogona kukwanisa kudzorera kushandiswa kwezuva nezuva kwemitemo yetsika dzakanaka, vachiwira pasi "The Local Authority" : upenyu hune utano (zvekudya, nguva yokurara …), basa rechikoro rinoitirwa kumba (mazano, macheki …), maitiro munzanga (ruremekedzo, maitiro epatafura …) Chenjera kuti usabvunza zvaakarovererwa nemumwe mubereki paari.
Kana pane kukakavara kwakanyanya, regai mubereki anochengeta mwana atore mwana wake. Izvi zvinokutendera kuti urege kuenda.
Apo Oedipus complex inozvikoka
Anenge makore mashanu, mumoyo wechikamu cheoedipal, musikana mudiki haazeze kudzinga vamwene vake. Zviri pachena, achakukumbira kuti umusiye oga nababa vake. Zviripachena, achauya kuzotsvedza pakati penyu muri vaviri pasofa…
Muzviitiko zvakanyanyisa, izvi zvinogona kuenda kusvika pakugadzirisa. Mamylavand, paInfobebes.com forum, inotakura dambudziko. “Akanaka pamberi pababa vake. Paanenge asipo, anondituka, asingandiremekedzi, haateereri… Ndinoedza kutaura neshamwari yangu nezvazvo, asi anofunga kuti ndiri kuwedzeredza…”
Asi iva nechokwadi, nekuremekedza mwana uye nyaya yake, godo rake kwauri richazopera. Kutsungirira uye kutsungirira ...
* Munyori weDzidziso Dzakadzokororwa Mhuri - Inoshanda Gwaro, rakabudiswa naHachette Pratique