Mukati
Hukama pakati pehama nehanzvadzi, hunobatsira kukura!
Vanoyemurana, vanopopotedzana, vanoyemurana, vanofuratira, vanotevedzerana, vanoitirana shanje… Hukama pakati pehama nehanzvadzi mukana wakanaka kwazvo wekukweshana mapendekete nevamwe uye kuita nzvimbo yavo muboka. Rabhoritari chaiyo yekudzidza nezvehupenyu munzanga!
“Varoyi vadiki vatatu vemwedzi 11, makore maviri uye nekukurumidza makore mana, hazvisi nyore kubata zuva nezuva, asi pandinovaona vachitamba nekuseka pamwe chete, mufaro wakadaro zvekuti ndinokanganwa kuneta kwangu! Ini, ndiri mwana mumwe chete, ndinoona chisungo chinoshamisa chinobatanidza hama nehanzvadzi. Kufanana nevabereki vose, Amélie anoshamiswa nechisungo chakatosimba chinobatanidza vana vake. Ichokwadi kuti vana vaduku vanowanzotya vakuru vavo. Unongofanira kuona kuti vacheche vanoombera tsoka dzavo nemaoko uye vachinyemwerera sezvo vanun’una vavo vanoswedera pedyo, vachinzwa kuti ava “vanhu vaduku” vakaita saivo uye vanoita sevari kuita zvinhu zvinofadza chaizvo vachavapa mikana yokunakidzwa.
A kazhinji kuwirirana
Ichokwadi kuti panowanzova nechisungo chomuzvarirwo uye chinongoerekana chaitika mumukoma. Kamwe kamwe, vabereki vanogutsikana kuti ukama hunoreva kubatana uye rudo, asi izvi hazvisi nguva dzose! Godo pakati pehama nehanzvadzi manzwiro anenge asingadzivisiki aunofanira kuziva kuziva uye kudzidza kudzikisira. Saizvozvowo, tinogona kuva hama nehanzvadzi uye tisina hukama nokuti takasiyana. Sokutsanangura kunoita muongorori wepfungwa Dina Karoubi-Pecon: “Mumukoma, mwana mumwe nomumwe ane kodzero yekusarudza mukoma kana hanzvadzi waachaita mubatanidzwa naye. Asi mwana ane kodzero yekusarudza kusaita sungano zvachose. Iine mhaka zvikuru, nokuti haidavidzi murairo wavabereki, wokuti: “Muri hama nehanzvadzi, mune musengwa wokugarisana zvakanaka nokudanana!” Hongu, vabereki vanorota vanun'una vangave vasina chinhu kunze kwerudo, asi izvi hazvina kukwana kugadzira kunzwisisa chaiko. Manzwiro uye kuwirirana hazvigoni kurairwa, kune rumwe rutivi, ruremekedzo kune rumwe, hongu! Zviri kwavari kugadza miitiro inodiwa nemitemo kuitira kuti mwana mumwe nomumwe agone kuzviisa pachake maererano nevamwe uye kudzidza kuzvidzivirira pachake pazvinenge zvakakodzera.
Kukwikwidzana pakati pevanin'ina kwakajairika!
Mukoma kana hanzvadzi mumwe munhu watinogovana naye genetic nhaka, asi pamusoro pedenga rimwechete uye vabereki vakafanana! Uye apo mukuru anoona mucheche achangoberekwa achisvika, mupambi anobva anzi “mbavha yorudo rwavabereki”. Godo regodo harinzvengeki uye riri normal. Iwe unongofanira kuverenga ngano dzechinyakare dzakadai saCinderella kuti uve nechokwadi! Asi manzwiro emakwikwi ane mativi akanaka. Chokwadi chekuva negodo rine ruzivo uye kuzvikunda zvinogona kubatsira zvikuru mukurarama munharaunda gare gare, kunyanya kuchikoro uye munyika yebhizinesi umo makwikwi ari kutekeshera ... Kukwikwidzana pakati pevezera ravo kunobvumira zviri kuvana kutarisana nemumwe, kuzviyera ivo pachavo. kurwisana naye, kumuziva somunhu ari pedyo uye akasiyana, uye kuyera simba rake kana richienzaniswa nerevamwe. Kune rumwe rutivi, idi rokutsvaka kukwezva ngwariro yavabereki vake rinosunda mwana mumwe nomumwe kutanga nzira dzokunyengera kuti asimbise chisungo chinomubatanidza kuvabereki vake uye kudiwa navo. Iyo inosimudzira yakanakisa, nekuti mwana wega wega anoedza kupfuura mumwe, asi pamusoro pezvose kuti apfuure miganhu yake kuti "avafadze".
Mukuru, mudiki… tinozvivaka pamwechete
Hwakasimba uye hune shungu, hukama pakati pehama nehanzvadzi irabhoritari inotyisa yekushamwaridzana. Kuburikidza nemapendekete nekusiyana kwehama nehanzvadzi ndiko kunoita kuti munhu azvivake! Mukuru, mudiki, mudiki, munhu wese achawana nzvimbo yake! Vakuru, vasingadi chaizvoizvo, vanobvumira vaduku kudya chinhu chiri chose chavasati vava kuziva maitirwe. MaCadets anocherekedza, anoyemura, anotevedzera uye pakupedzisira anokura kuti aenderane kana kutopfuura muenzaniso wavo. Kuvaka pamwe chete uku hakusi nzira imwe chete nekuti vadiki vanodzidzisawo vakuru. Izvi ndizvo zvatinoudzwa naJuliette, amai vaHugo naMaxime, kuti: “Hugo agara ari mukomana akadzikama, akadzikama, aifarira kutamba ari oga. Zviri pachena kuti Maxime paakasvika akakurumidza kugumbura tsika dzemukoma wake nekuti Maxime chamupupuri chaicho. Anofarira kumhanya, kutamba bhora, heckle, kukwira miti. Rutivi rwake rwe hyperactive rwakabva pamukoma wake mukuru uyo akavhura kumitambo yevatambi vakawanda. Hugo muchengeti wepagedhi akanaka, Maxime mutambi akanaka uye munhu wese anovada muchikwata chavo! “
Kufanana naHugo naMaxime, hama nehanzvadzi dzinoziva kuti pane zvakawanda zvokudzidza kune mumwe nomumwe uye kuti mukoma nomunun’una vanoshanda sokukurumidzisa kukura. “Pfungwa dzepfungwa dzichiri kusimbirira padzidzo yevabereki… Asi dzidzo inoitwa nevanin’ina inovapo, kunyangwe isingazivikanwe! », Inosimbisa nyanzvi yepfungwa Daniel Coum.
Kune mumwe nemumwe maitiro ake
Kana hama nehanzvadzi dzichivakwa nokuzivikanwa kwakanaka, ichokwadiwo kuti dzakavakwa mukupikisa. Sezvo psychoanalyst Dina Karoubi-Pecon anosimbisa: "Vana vanoshandisa vamwe semuenzaniso uye sevanopikisa". Ivo vanotsvaga kufanana, asiwo kumira kunze nekuzvisiyanisa kuti vavepo mumwe nemumwe mukusiyana kwavo. Tese tinoziva hama dzisina chinhu chakaenzana, hanzvadzi dzakanyatsopesana. Izvi ndizvo zvinotaurwa naPaul, baba vaPrune naRose, kuti: “Vanasikana vangu vaviri vakasiyana nemakore matatu chete uye havana kumbofanana. Kunze kwekuti imwe blonde uye imwe ndeye brunette, ivo vanenge vakapesana. Prune akanyanya musikana, anoda madhirezi ane ruffles nemachinda. Rose i tomboy chaiyo, anongoda kupfeka bhurugwa chete uye afunga kuve mutyairi wendege kana mutambi wetsiva! Zvinovafadza zvikuru amai vavo, avo vasingamboshayi mukana wokundiyeuchidza kuti ndingadai ndakada kusarudzwa namambo uye kuti ndakafanotaura kuuya kwekakomana kaduku Rose asati aberekwa! ”
Tinokoshesa mwana wese
Pasinei nemaitiro avo uye hunhu, mutezo wega wega wemukoma kana munin'ina unofanirwa kuzivikanwa uye kukosheswa nezvaari. Zvichavabatsira zvikuru kukunda makwikwi avo. Usazengure kuudza vana vako zvawakasangana nazvo senguva dzisingakanganwiki, kukakavadzana nevakoma vako nevanin’ina vako, zvinhu zvisina musoro, kuseka-seka, maitikiro azvakaita, tumashoko tuduku twairatidza nhoroondo yemhuri. “Munoziva, ndainetsanawo nehanzvadzi yangu. Unoda kuti ndikuudze here nezvenguva yaandisundidzira nemujuru? Zvakadini nenguva yandakanamira chingamu mubvudzi rake? Sekuru naambuya vakatiranga, asi nhasi tinozviseka tose. Vachakuteerera vakashaya remuromo vonzwisisa kuti kunetsana kwevanin'ina hakuperi uye tinopedzisira tave kuseka.