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Mukuwasha: basa redzidzo yezuva nezuva
Kuparadzanisa hakusi nyore. Kuti avakezve hupenyu hwake. Nhasi, vana vanoda kusvika mamiriyoni 1,5 vanokurira mumhuri dzokurera. Pamwe chete, vana mazana mashanu negumi vanogara nemubereki wokurera. Kuchengeta tsinhirano inobudirira mumusha menyu, kunyange pashure pechatanuro yakaoma, kazhinji kazhinji idenho yavabereki vakaparadzana. Mufambidzani mutsva anofanira kutora nzvimbo yake uye kutora chinzvimbo chemubereki wekurera. Chii chichaita kuti dzidzo yezuva nezuva yevana-nhanho-nababa-baba vashanduke chaizvo? Vana vachawana sei chiyero chitsva ichi?
Mutemo wemhuri: chirevo chedzidzo yezuva nezuva mukuita
Kana mutemo weFIPA usingape "chimiro chepamutemo" kune vamwene, inobvumira kugadzwa kwe "zuva nezuva dzidzo yekuraira", nechibvumirano chevabereki vose. Chisungo ichi chinoita kuti vamwene kana tezvara vagare vakagadzikana nemumwe wevabereki, vakwanise kuita zvinhu zvinogaroitika zvemwana zuva nezuva muhupenyu hwavo vese. Kunyanya, mubereki wenhanho anogona kusaina zviri pamutemo bhuku rekodhi rechikoro, kutora chikamu mumisangano nevadzidzisi, kuendesa mwana kuna chiremba kana kune rimwe basa rechikoro. Gwaro iri, rinogona kudhirowewa kumba kana pamberi pemunyori, simbisa kodzero dzemunhu wechitatu dzekuchengeta mwana muhupenyu hwemazuva ese. Chisungo ichi chinogona kukanzurwa chero nguva nemubereki uye chinozopera kana vaguma kugara kwavo vese kana kufa kwemubereki.
Nzvimbo itsva yemubereki-mubereki?
Kugadzwa kwechisungo chakadaro kuchave netapuro chaiyo paupenyu hwezuva nezuva hwemhuri dzakasanganiswa here? Kuna Elodie Cingal, chiremba wepfungwa uye chipangamazano mukurambana, anotsanangura "kana zvese zvichifamba zvakanaka mumhuri yakasanganiswa, hazvifanirwe kutora chinzvimbo chakakosha". Zvamazvirokwazvo, vana vakawanda, vanogara mumhuri dzakaumbwa patsva navabereki vokurera uye vana vakabva kuroorano yakapfuura, vanokura nomubereki wokurera, uye wepashure nguva dzose anomuperekedza kumibato yapashure pechikoro kana kuti kumusha. chiremba. Sekureva kwake, zvingave zvakanyanya kufadza kupa chinzvimbo chepamutemo kune "wechitatu bato" pane kusarudza iyi hafu yemoyo yekurayira. Anotowedzera kuti “ apo ukama hwakaoma pakati pavamwene kana kuti tezvara nomumwe mubereki, ikoku kunogona kuwedzera kusawirirana. Zvinogoneka kuti mubereki wenhanho anotora nzvimbo yakawanda anotora zvakatowanda uye anoti chirevo ichi, semhando yesimba. "Pamusoro pezvo, Agnès de Viaris, chiremba wepfungwa anorapa nyaya dzemhuri, anoti" mwana achave nemhando mbiri dzechirume dzakasiyana, izvo zvine hutano kwaari. ” Kune rumwe rutivi, muchiitiko apo kuchengetwa kukuru kunopiwa kuna amai, uye apo baba vokubereka vanoona vana vavo kupera kwevhiki kumwe chete muviri, uye naizvozvo, de facto, vanopedza nguva shoma nevana vavo kupfuura baba vokurera.. "Ichi chirevo chitsva chichasimbisa kusaenzana uku pakati pababa nababa vekurera" sekureva kwechiremba wepfungwa Elodie Cingali. Céline, amai vakarambana vanogara mumhuri yakasanganiswa, anotsanangura kuti "kune aimbova murume wangu, zvichange zvakaoma zvikuru, atova nechinetso chekuva neukama hwakagadzikana nevana vake". Amai ava vanotenda kuti hatifanire kupa imwe nzvimbo kune mubereki mubereki. “Kune misangano yechikoro chiremba, handidi kuti vave tezvara vanochengeta. Vana vangu vana amai nababa uye isu tine mutoro wezvinhu izvi "zvakakosha" muhupenyu hwavo hwezuva nezuva. Hapana chikonzero chekupinza mumwe munhu mune izvi. Saizvozvo, ini handidi kuita nevana vemumwe wangu mutsva kupfuura izvozvo, ndinoda kuvapa nyaradzo, kuvachengeta, asi matambudziko ekurapa uye / kana echikoro anobata chete vabereki vekubereka. ”
Zvisineyi, kodzero itsva iyi yakapihwa, vhezheni yakadiridzwa yeinogona kunge iri yechokwadi "yechitatu bato" chimiro, inopa rimwe basa, rinodiwa uye rinodanwa, kune vanatezvara. Aya ndiwo mafungiro aAgnès de Viaris uyo anotsanangura kuti “kufambira mberi uku chinhu chakanaka kuitira kuti mubereki wokurera awane nzvimbo yake uye asanzwa akanganwika mumhuri yakasanganiswa. "Amai vanobva kuInfobebes.com forum, vanogara mumhuri yakaumbwa patsva, vanopa pfungwa iyi uye vanofara nebasa idzva iri:" vanatezvara vane mabasa mazhinji uye havana kodzero, zvinovadzikisira. Kamwe kamwe, kunyangwe zviri zvezvinhu zvidiki zviri kutoitwa navatezvara vakawanda, zvinovatendera kuti vazivikanwe ”.
Uye kumwana, chii chinochinja?
Saka zvakasiyana kunaani? Mwana wacho? Elodie Cingal anotsanangura: kana kukwikwidzana kana kukakavara kuripo pakati pevabereki, vekare-vabereki uye mubereki-mubereki, izvi zvichavasimbisa uye mwana achatambura zvakare mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Achabvaruka pakati pezviviri. Mwana akaparadzaniswa kubva pakutanga zvakadaro. Kune psychotherapist, ndiye mwana anokurudzira kubudirira kwemhuri yakasanganiswa. Ndiye mubatanidzwa wemhuri mbiri idzi. Kwaari, zvakakosha kuti mubereki wokurera anoramba ari “mudiwa” mugore rokutanga. Haafanire kuzvimanikidza nekukurumidza, izvi zvinosiyawo nzvimbo yekuti mumwe mubereki avepo. Zvino, nekufamba kwenguva, zviri kwaari kuti atorerwe nemwana. Uyezve, ndiye anogadza "mubereki-mubereki" uye panguva ino iyo wechitatu anova "mubereki-mubereki".