Chii chaunofanira kuita kana kuvharirwa kwakakushamisa iwe panguva yekurambana? Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Ann Bouchot anokurudzira zvakasimba kufunga kuti denda rinoshungurudza munhu wese, uye anopa kurudziro yekuti ungapona sei, kunyangwe kuve pasi pedenga rimwechete neanenge atove "ex".
Pakaitika dambudziko, vamwe vaive nechiitiko chakakosha chakarongwa - semuenzaniso, muchato kana ... kurambana. Mamiriro acho pachawo anonetsa, uye iko zvino kushushikana kwedenda nezvese zviitiko zvinoperekedza kwakawedzerwa kwairi. Iwe haunganzwe sei wakarasika zvachose pano?
Kuvharirwa kune kukanganisa kukuru pahutano hwepfungwa, anodaro chiremba wepfungwa uye nyanzvi muhukama hwemhuri uye kurambana Anne Bouchot. Pakutanga, vazhinji vanonzwa kushatirwa, kuvhiringidzika, kutsamwa, uye kuramba. Kana nguva iyi ikareba, kutya kwechirwere uye dambudziko rezvemari, manzwiro ekusurukirwa, kuora mwoyo uye kufinhikana kunowedzera.
Wedzera huni kumoto uye nhau dzinopokana uye kunetseka kune vadikani, uye isu tese tinoita zvakasiyana. Vamwe vanochengeta, vamwe vanowana nyaradzo mukuzvipira kubatsira vakura uye vanotambura vavakidzani uye vanozivana. Vaya vanoshanda pamba vanomanikidzwa kutarisira vana panguva imwe chete, uye pane dzimwe nguva vanonyatsopinda navo muzvidzidzo zvechikoro. Varidzi vemabhizinesi madiki vanotya kurasikirwa kukuru. Kunyange vana vanoerekana vasiya muitiro wavo wenguva dzose vanovhiringika uye vanonzwa makakatanwa evakuru vavo. General stress inowedzera.
Asi zvakadiniko naavo vari mumugariro wokurambana? Ndiani nguva pfupi yadarika akaisa magwaro kana kuti anga ave kuda kutora chitambi mupasipoti yavo, kana kuti zvimwe kuenda nenzira yedare? Nguva yemberi zvino inoratidzika kuva isina chokwadi zvikuru. Matare akavharwa, mukana wekusangana wega nemupi wezano wako - chiremba wepfungwa, gweta kana gweta, kana pamwe shamwari yaitsigira kana kubatsira nemazano - yakanga yaenda. Kunyangwe kubata vhidhiyo kufona hakusi nyore, nekuti mhuri yese yakakiyiwa kumba. Zvinonyanya kuoma kana vaviri vakaroorana vari muimba imwe chete.
Kusagadzikana kwehupfumi kunoita kuti zvisakwanisika kuuya kune chero chibvumirano chemari. Kushaikwa kwekujekesa pamusoro pemari uye basa pacharo kunoita kuti chero nhaurirano uye zvirongwa zvekufamba zviome.
Misa sarudzo dzese dzepasi rose. Dambudziko haisi nguva yakanakira ivo
Achishandisa ruzivo rwake mukupa mazano kune vakaroorana, Anne Bouchaud anopa mamwe mazano kune avo vakabatwa mumamiriro ekurambana nedenda.
1. Zvichengete iwe pachako. Tsvaga nzira dzekutaurirana neshamwari - nerunhare kana mutumwa. Tora nguva yekudzikisa uye kufema. Bvisa kubva kuzvinyorwa zvenhau zvakanyanya sezvinobvira.
2. Kana uine vana, taura navo, tsanangura zviri kuitika mumutauro wavanogona kunzwisisa. Taura kuti zvose zvichapfuura. Kunyange kana uchitya zvikuru, edza kusapfuudza chirwere chako kuvana vako.
3. Nyora pasi zvinhu zvinofadza wotanga kuzviita. Rongedza makabati, verenga mabhuku, tarisa mafirimu, kubika.
4. Usaite zvisarudzo zvechimbichimbi. Usaite madhiri makuru. Kufinhwa kunogona kutanga kuita zvinhu zvisina kunaka, zvakadai sekuda kudyisa kana kudhakwa. Edza kushanda zvakanyanya, fonera shamwari dzako, tanga dhayari, pedza nguva yakawanda nevana vako, isa nguva yekuzorora, kuchenesa uye mamwe mabasa epamba. Ungakwanisa kukudziridza ukama hwokuvimbana uye hwoushamwari zvikuru nomukwanyina wako kana ukawana nzira dzokuratidzira nadzo tsitsi dzako nokuonga kwaari.
5. Imbomira zvisarudzo zvose zvepasi rose. Dambudziko haisi nguva yakanakira ivo. Zvichida zvichave zvichibvira kubvumirana newawakaroorana naye pakumiswa kwekutongwa, kumisa kugadzirisa nyaya dzemari.
Nekutevera zvibvumirano, mese muchawana mukana mushoma wekutsamwisana.
6. Kana zvakakosha kuenderera mberi nehurongwa hwekurambana, munogona kukurukura kuti ndeapi matanho chaiwo anogona kutorwa - semuenzaniso, kurukurai kusawirirana pamwe chete nemagweta mumusangano wevhidhiyo.
7. Kana musati maonana nemazvikokota ekurambana, zvingava zvakafanira kuti muite kudaro uye muwane mazano panyaya dzemitemo nehupfumi.
8. Wana rubatsiro. Mumwe mutengi weBouchot, semuenzaniso, aive nechikamu neanorapa wepfungwa kubva mukati memota, nekuti aisakwanisa kuenda kumba.
9. Kana uchiri kugara muimba imwe chete nomumwe wako, purogiramu yakajeka yokurera vana uye yenhandaro inogona kutangwa. Zvichienderana nezvibvumirano, vese vachange vaine mukana mushoma wekutsamwisana kana kutsamwisana.
10. Kana tichigara takaparadzana, zvakakodzera kuti tikurukure kuti vana vachagara vari voga mumba maani. Kana mamiriro acho achibvumira, unogona kuchinjana kugara kwavo nemumwe uye nemumwe mubereki, uchicherechedza mamiriro ekuchengetedza.
"Tese tiri kuita izvi izvozvi," anonyora Anne Bouchot nezvedenda iri. “Tinofanira kubvuma kuti iri idambudziko remunhu wese. Panguva ino inoshungurudza, yeuka kuti wawakaroorana naye kana kuti wawakarambana naye ari kunetsekawo zvakanyanya.” Nyanzvi inoti, kana zvichibvira, batsiranai kufema uye kurarama panguva iyi. Uye ipapo vaviri vachawana nzira dzekugadzirisa uye kurarama neichi chokwadi chitsva.
Nezve Nyanzvi: Ann Gold Boucheau ikiriniki yepfungwa nyanzvi yekurambana uye kuva mubereki.