Murume weshamwari yake ari kubiridzira, mwanakomana wake ari kuyaruka ari kusvuta munyengeri, iye pachake achangobva kunaya zvinooneka … ” Asi chokwadi ichi chakanaka nguva dzose here? Uye ndizvo zvakanaka here zvatinoita, tichizivisa shamwari dzake?
“Rimwe zuva tiri papati, mukomana weshamwari yangu yepamwoyo akatanga kundirova. Ndakamuudza nezvazvo zuva rakatevera chairo - mushure mezvose, isu hatifanirwe kuva zvakavanzika kubva kune mumwe nemumwe, kunyanya muzvinhu zvakakosha zvakadaro. Mashoko aya akamukatyamadza. Akanditenda nekuvhura maziso ake ... Zvino zuva rakatevera akafona achindiudza kuti ndisaswedere pedyo nemukomana wake. Husiku, ndakakwanisa kuita manyemwe kwaari ndokuva muvengi akapika, "anodaro Marina ane makore 28.
Aya mamiriro akajairika anoita kuti munhu ashamise: zvakakodzera here kuudza shamwari zvese zvatinoziva? Vanoda kuti “tivhure maziso avo” here? Tichakanganisa ukama hwedu navo here? Uye chii chingavanzwa chaizvoizvo shure kwevakuru vane ushamwari?
Isu tinoratidza "vanosunungura"
“Api naapi amashoko edu, kunyange ayo anotaurwa nomwoyo wose, anonangidzirwa zvikurukuru pakugadzirisa zvinetso zvedu zvomunhu oga,” anodaro chiremba wepfungwa Catherine Emle-Perissol. — Kuudza shamwari nezve kusavimbika kwemumwe wake, tinogona kuenderera kubva pakuti panzvimbo yake isu tingada kuziva nezveizvi. Pamusoro pezvo, zvinoita sekunge isu tinozvipa isu nesimba, isu tinowoneka munzvimbo ye "musununguri". Chero zvazvingava, uyo anotsunga kutaura chokwadi ane mutoro.”
Usati waudza shamwari chokwadi chisingamufadzi, zvibvunze kana akagadzirira kuchigamuchira. Ushamwari hunofanira kuremekedza rusununguko rwemunhu wese. Uye rusununguko runogonawo kurara mukusada kuziva nezvekusavimbika kwemudiwa, nhema dzevana, kana uremu hwavo.
Isu tinomanikidza chokwadi
Kunyange tsika dzerudo, sezvakataurwa nemuzivi weRussia Semyon Frank, achidzokorora mashoko emudetembi wekuGermany Rilke, anobva pa "kudzivirirwa kwekusurukirwa kwemudiwa." Izvi ndezvechokwadi kunyanya kune ushamwari.
Nokurasa ruzivo rwakawanda pamusoro pedu pane mumwe, tinomuita nhapwa yemanzwiro edu.
Basa redu guru kushamwari nderokunyatsoidzivirira, uye kwete kutarisana nechokwadi chaanofuratira nemaune. Unogona kumubatsira kuwana chokwadi ari ega nokubvunza mibvunzo uye kuda kuteerera.
Kubvunza shamwari kana murume wake akanonoka kubasa nguva pfupi yapfuura uye kutaura zvakananga kuti ari kubiridzirwa zvinhu zviviri zvakasiyana.
Mukuwedzera, isu pachedu tinogona kugadzira imwe nzvimbo muhukama neshamwari kuitira kuti imutungamirire kumubvunzo wezvakaitika. Saka isu hatingozvibvisi isu pachedu pamutoro wemutoro weruzivo rwaasingazivi nezvarwo, asi zvakare kumubatsira kusvika pasi pechokwadi pachake, kana achida.
Tinotaura chokwadi pachedu
Muushamwari, tinotsvaka kuvimba uye kuchinjana kwepfungwa, uye dzimwe nguva tinoshandisa shamwari se psychoanalyst, izvo zvingasava kunyanya nyore kana kufadza kwaari.
"Nokukanda ruzivo rwakawanda pamusoro pedu pane mumwe, tinomuita mubati wemanzwiro edu," anotsanangura kudaro Catherine Emle-Perissol, achirayira munhu wose kuti azvibvunze mubvunzo: chii chatinotarisira chaizvo kubva kune ushamwari.
Nezve Nyanzvi: Catherine Emle-Perissol chiremba wepfungwa.