Ndiina Christophe Martail, psychologist-psychoanalyst munzvimbo yaamai uye imba yevana ine hunhu hwemagariro.
“Ndakasangana nemumwe wangu ndiine makore 14, aiva nemakore 17 nehafu. Le grand Amour… Nekukasika, ndaida kutanga mhuri, ndicho chaive chekutanga changu! I was not feeling well, I had feeling yekuti pane chandaive ndarasikirwa nacho. Kubva pazera ramakore 15, ndakakumbira mudiwa wangu mwana. Asi akanga asina kugadzirira uye akandiwana ndiri muduku zvikuru: akanga asina kukanganisa. Makore akafamba, ndakawana Baccalaureate yangu S. Pandakangosunungurwa kubva pachinangwa ichi, ndakazviudza kuti yakanga iri nguva yekuti mwana uyu ashungudzwe zvakanyanya. Ndakawedzera kufunga nezvazvo. Mukomana wangu aiva nebasa, saka takaritsvaga! Mwedzi wechipiri wekuedzwa waive wakanaka.
Ndinoona sekuti hupenyu hwangu hwakatanga zuva rakazvarwa mwanakomana wangu. Kushaikwa kwandaiita kwemakore akawanda uku kwakazadzwa, ndinomuraramira iye zvino. Ndinomuvigira zvose zvandinogona kumupa. Munhu wangu achiripo. Tinodanana zvikuru. ” Elodie, ane makore 20, amai vaRafael, vane mwedzi gumi nemitatu.
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Maonero eShrink : Pandinobvunza vasikana vaduku pachavo kuti vapindure mubvunzo uyu, vanowanzonditsanangurira kuti vaida kuti mwana “agadzirise” uduku hwake. Kushaikwa kunomutswa naElodie ndiko kwaakanzwa achiri mudiki. Ndinowanzonzwa kubva kune pwere dzine pamuviri dzandinobvunzurudza kuti: “Mwana uyu, pakupedzisira ndaigona kumupa rudo rwose rwandakanga ndisina. Vasingazive, vanoda kuti mwana "aite zvirinani" kupfuura vabereki vake chaivo.
Chibvumirano chinoshamisa chevachiri kuyaruka gumi nemasere vekuAmerica! Muna June 2008, vezvenhau vakatumira mashoko aya anonakidza: 18 vasikana vechikoro chesekondari vanobva kuMassachusetts, vose vane makore ari pasi pe16, vakazvidira kuita pamuviri panguva imwe cheteyo ndokuzorera vana vavo pamwe chete! Nzira "yekupedzisira kuve nemunhu anovada zvisina magumo", akange ataura, akafara zvikuru, akati wandei. |