Kana shamwari yakangoerekana yasimuka: 10 marudzi evanozivana vane chepfu

Hushamwari hune mavambo akanaka. Mharadzano dzetsaona dzinoita kuti pave nekurukurirano inoshanduka kuva kuungana pakapu yekofi uye kukurukurirana kwepedyo kusvika mangwanani. Makafanana mune zvamunoda nezvamusingade, mawana shamwari dzepedyo uye pedza nguva muri pamwe muzviitiko zvakasiyana.

Uye zvakadaro chimwe chinhu chakaipa. Zvinoita sokuti kukurukurirana uku ndiko kutanga kwoushamwari hwakanaka, saka dambudziko nderei?

“Dzimwe nguva chinhu chikuru chinoita kuti pave noukama hwakanaka kunzwisisa kuti ndeupi unhu hwatinofanira kudzivisa,” anodaro mazvikokota wepfungwa uye nyanzvi yokusawirirana kwemhuri Christine Hammond.

Shamwari isina kururama munhu angangotanga ushamwari hunoparadza kana kuti huri kutokura. Asi tingaziva sei kuti ndiani ari pamberi pedu? Heano marudzi gumi eshamwari dzekudzivisa, maererano nenyanzvi.

1. Vachuchisi

Peter haasi kufara nekutengwa kwemudzimai wake. Mumakore mashoma apfuura, mamiriro avo emari akawedzera kuipa, uye anodana mudzimai wake kuti anodya mari. Panguva imwecheteyo, achangobva kutenga chikepe chitsva kuti atsive chekare, asi haasi kuzotora mutoro wemari yake. Pane kudaro, anopomera mudzimai wake mhosva.

"Vachuchisi havafarire kutora mutoro wekukanganisa nekuti vanonzwa zvichivaita kuti vashaye simba kana panjodzi," anoyeuka kudaro Hammond.

2. Vanyori

Unenge musangano uri wose, Lisa anonyunyuta nezvebasa rake. Uye kazhinji anonyunyuta. Nguva iyoyo yakanga isiri yechokwadi. Iyo yekugezera ine tsvina. Zvakatonyanya, anoshoropodza chero zano idzva kana zano kare risati raedzwa kana kuitwa. Kungova pedyo naye kunonetesa.

Seri kwokunyunyuta chaizvoizvo nyota yengwariro nechishuvo chokuva pakati pekurukurirano.

3. Misers

Vlad akadzidza nezvemaitiro matsva anoita kuti maekisesaizi ake awedzere kushanda. Asi angave haagoverani ruzivo neshamwari zvachose, kana kuti anongotaura chikamu chidiki. Kuunganidzwa kweruzivo inzira isina utsinye yekukunda makwikwi.

“Chaizvoizvo,” anonyora kudaro Christine Hammond, “makaro akadaro kuratidzirwa kwehasha.” Vlad iye zvino anokwanisa kunzwisisa chimwe chinhu icho shamwari dzake dzisingakwanisi, saka iye chete anofanira kubatsirwa nezivo. Mukuwedzera, kushayikwa kwemashoko anokosha kunoita kuti vamwe vavimbe naye senyanzvi.

4. Vatsoropodzi

Havasi vanaamai vedu chete vanoda kutipa mhosva. Hammond anopa mumwe muenzaniso chaiwoiwo: Anna ari kuedza kukurudzira shamwari dzevavakidzani vake kutora rutivi mumakwikwi ezororo. Nekunyengetedza, anoita nharo: kana vakasakunda dzimwe nzvimbo, ipapo kukosha kwezvivakwa mumugwagwa wavo kunogona kuderera.

Anotoenda kure, achidana mumwe muvakidzani parutivi nemashoko okuti kushongedzwa kwake kwezororo riri kuuya kuchazvidza nzvimbo yose. Kushandisa mhosva sekurudziro inzira yake ine usimbe yekukurudzira shamwari dzake.

5. Smarties

Panguva yekudya kwemanheru, Alexander haakwanisi kuramba mukana wekuratidza ruzivo rwake nekuvhara vamwe uye kupa maonero ake panyaya yezvematongerwo enyika. Iye anozivikanwa kuva anoziva-izvo-zvose anowanzotsamwisa avo vakamupoteredza nemashoko asina maturo uye yakaoma chokwadi.

Maitiro ekuita neshamwari dzinogumbura

“Vakachenjera vakadaro vanowanzova vanhu vasina kuchengeteka zvikuru. Vanotenda kuti ruzivo rwavo ndiyo chete nzira yekusiyana neruzhinji,” anodaro Hammond.

6. Bouncers

Maria anodzoka kubva kuzororo, achifarira rwendo uye rwendo. Asi paanoyedza kugovera nyaya yerwendo rwake nevamwe, shamwari inomuvhiringidza nenhau dzezororo rake - dzinotyisa, muhotera inodhura uye iri nani, uye nerunako rwakanyanya.

Maria anoodzwa mwoyo nekushoropodzwa kwake, kwaanonzwa achimuratidza mapikicha. Mabhaunzi haangokwanise kugara kure uye kazhinji anoshandisa kunyadzisa vamwe.

7. Vanyengeri

Kuvimbika kwaIvan uye kunyemwerera kwake kunogona kukanganisa chero munhu. Anoratidzika kuva anokwanisa kunzvenga mhosva, kunzvenga mutoro, uye kushandisa vamwe zviri nyore zvikuru.

Apo kunyengera kwekukwana kunotanga kupera uye shamwari dzinotanga kunzwisisa zvaari chaizvo, zvinoitika kuti akatokwanisa kukwira nhanho inotevera pamanera ehushamwari.

Uyu murume anoita seakanyanya kunaka kuti ave chokwadi. Pashure pezvose, vanyengeri vanofarira kuvanza vavariro dzavo dzechokwadi.

8. Vanhu vakanyarara

Kunyarara hakusi kwegoridhe nguva dzose. Lena anoramba akanyarara pamapati, achiramba kugovera kuhurukuro huru, kunyange apo anokokwa kuita kudaro. Pane kudaro, anotarisa shamwari dzake sengwe iri kuongorora mhuka yayabata.

Anomirira nemoyo murefu nguva yakakodzera yekurwisa uye anorova nemaune, panguva iyo vamwe vasingatarisiri. Kukurukurirana naye kunodzidzisa kuti kunyarara kunogona kungodzora sezvakaita kudheerera nemashoko.

9. Bhaudhi

Kusiyana kwemunhu akanyarara kutaura. Valentin verbosely uye nekureba anoudza shamwari dzake kukosha kwaanoita basa rake munharaunda uye mumubatanidzwa waanoshanda. Rondedzero yake yekukunda iri kukura miniti yega yega, nhamba dzese dzakawedzeredzwa.

Chero kuedza kumudzosa kuchokwadi kunosangana nekupomerwa kwegodo. Muchokwadi, anonyora Hammond, vatauri vanotya kuonekwa kuti ndivanaani chaizvo, uye vanoshandisa mazwi nenhamba kutyisidzira vangangokwikwidza.

10. Vakashata

Vekupedzisira pakurongwa, asi kwete zvishoma, ndivo vakaipa. Tonya anoshatirwa uye anonyara kuti shamwari yake yakanetsana naye ari oga pamusana pemashoko asina kunaka. Saka akashandura hasha dzake kune dzimwe shamwari, achituka anenge munhu wose aiuya kuzomubata.

Haana miganhu mukuburitsa hasha dzake: acharangarira zvakaitika gore rapfuura, azviwanire wega uye aende nemaitiro ekupfeka. Tony ane hunyanzvi hwekudzora hasha, izvo zvinowanzovhara zvakadzama nyaya dzemunhu.

"Kugona kukurumidza kuziva rudzi urwu rwevanhu vari muboka reshamwari dzako uye kunzwisisa nzira yekuvadzivisa kunogona kukuponesa kubva paukama hune chepfu," anodaro Christine Hammond. Shamwari dzakanaka iropafadzo, asi shamwari dzakaipa dzinogona kuva chituko chaicho.

Nezve Munyori: Kristin Hammond inyanzvi yezvepfungwa, nyanzvi yekugadzirisa kusawirirana, uye munyori webhuku reThe Exhausted Woman's Handbook (Xulon Press, 2014).