Vakagadzirira kutyora mutemo upi noupi kana zvichiita sezvisina musoro. Vachagara vachiwana chimwe chinhu chokupikisa. Vapanduki havagoni kumira conservatism uye kumira. Nzira yekugarisana sei nevanhu vanorarama mukuzvidza zvese?
Vazhinji vedu takasangana nevanhu vakadaro tichikura. Unoyeuka waunodzidza naye aigara achikakavadzana nomudzidzisi, achifamba pasi pedhesiki uye achifara mumifananidzo yeboka?
Kukura, vanhu vakadaro vanoramba vari vechokwadi kwavari pachavo: vanokakavadzana nehutungamiri nechikonzero kana pasina, vanotsoropodza zvose "zvakajairika" mazano uye vanovhiringidza mazano avo akajeka muhurukuro yega yega. Chero zvauchataura, vanongotaura zvakasiyana. Uhu hunhu hunenge husingabviri kuvanza.
“Kunyange zvazvo vapanduki vangazvibata nenzira imwe cheteyo, havasi vose vakafanana,” inodaro nyanzvi yendangariro yokuAmerica Robert Sternberg. - Vamwe vanhu vanotsamwiswa nekunzwanana uye hutungamiriri, vamwe vanotenda kuti mitemo yakasikirwa kutyorwa, vamwe vanofunga zvakapusa uye vanotarisa hupenyu zvakasiyana nevamwe.
Vanhu vakagadzira kazhinji kazhinji vanogara pasinei nezvose. Kunyangwe paine vapanduki vasina kusika zvachose - vanongove zvisingafadzi. Uye kuchine avo vanosimudzira kuzviremekedza kwavo kuburikidza nemaitiro ekuratidzira. "
Vanofunga zvakasiyana
ane makore makumi matatu nemanomwe ekushambadza maneja Victoria ane tarenda rakakura rekuuya nemazano ekutanga uye akashinga. Asi nzira yake yekuvasvitsa inokonzera kuvhiringidzika pakati pevaanoshanda navo, kuti vazvitaure zvinyoro.
Victoria anoti, “Patinokurukura nezvebasa idzva neboka rose pamusangano, zvinondikurudzira zvikuru. “Ndinobva ndaona kuti zvingaita sei, uye ndinonzwa kuti ndinofanira kumuudza zvandawana nokukurumidza, kunyange kana mumwe munhu ari kutaura panguva imwe chete. Uye hongu, zvakandiomera kuti ndirambe ndakadzikama kana wandinoshanda naye akauya nezano risingashande. "
Anobvuma kuti anonzwa kunyara kana atarisana nekusagadzikana kwekupindira kwake, asi zvakadaro haakwanise kuziva kuti ari kuratidza kuzvikudza uye kuzvikudza kudarika kugadzira.
“Haugoni kutaura kuti vanhu vakadaro vakasindimara uye vanotuka nemaune,” anodaro mumwe muongorori wepfungwa Sandy Mann anobva kuYunivhesiti yeCentral Lancashire. Tinogona kuona vapanduki sevamiriri vadhiabhorosi, asi ivo vanowanzoita kutonga kwavo kwakajeka nekuperera kwakazara, uye kwete kupikisa maonero emumwe munhu.
Vane tarenda - kuona zvinhu kubva pakona isingatarisirwi, kukurumidza kuita zvisarudzo zvinoshamisa, pasina kutya kutonga kwevamwe vanhu.
Vapanduki havawanzogona kutaura pfungwa dzavo kune vamwe
Asi kana vapanduki vasingadi kutsausa vamwe, vanofanira kunangidzira ngwariro pakushanda pamwe chete, kunangidzira nhamburiko dzavo zvakananga kupedza zvinetso uye kudzivisa kurwisana nokungwarira.
"Kuve" gwai dema "munzanga ine kufunga kwechinyakare inyanzvi. Avo vanofunga zvinokatyamadza vanowanzokanganisa muhukama hwevanhu, anodaro mupi wezano webhizinesi Karl Albrecht. "Havawanzoziva nzira yekunyatso taura mazano avo kune vamwe: vanowanzoaburitsa sekupokana mukupokana, vachidzivirira vamwe vanhu kuti vazvione nemazvo, nekuti vanozviita nehutsinye uye nekungwara."
Karl Albrecht anobvuma kuti iye pachake aimbova "gwai dema", asi akakwanisa kukudziridza unyanzvi hunodiwa hwemagariro evanhu, kunyanya, kukwanisa kuziva manzwiro, mafungiro, mamiriro epfungwa dzevamwe vanhu.
“Chinetso chikuru hachisi chokuti munhu anofunga zvakasiyana, asi matauriro aanoita maonero ake,” anodaro. "Maitiro ake anogona kutyisa."
Ko kana uri mupanduki?
Nzira yekuratidza kufunga kwako kwakakasharara pasina kutsamwisa uye pasina kupokana nevamwe? Chokutanga pane zvose, kana uine pfungwa isina kujairika, itaure zvakajeka, uye wozoiudzawo vamwe.
Edza kushandisa izwi rimwechete, kutendeuka kwekutaura uye mamwe masosi eruzivo sevatauri vako. Uye dzidza kuzvitora nyore kana vanhu vachishoropodza pfungwa dzako.
“Kurarama nevapanduki nemakwai matema kunoda kushivirira kukuru kubva kune vavanoda, nokuti kwakazara nemakakatanwa,” inodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Robert Sternberg wekuYunivhesiti yeOklahoma. - Asi kune vamwe, hukama hwakadaro hunosimudzira uye hunosimudzira - vanotoona mukurwisana nguva dzose kuratidzwa kwerudo.
Chinongodiwa nemupanduki kutarisisa chinzvimbo chake
Kana vaviri vakaroorana vakada kukakavara uye vachifarira zvakaenzana kune idzi nharo, hukama hwavo hunongobatsira chete. Asi chenjerera kupinda mudenderedzwa remuromo nemupanduki kana iwe uchingoda chinhu chimwe chete: kumuvhara nekukurumidza sezvinobvira.
Dzimwe nguva tinotanga kukakavara mukupindura, tichifunga kuti nenzira iyi tichadzivirira kodzero dzedu uye kuwana mugumisiro wakanakisisa kwatiri. Asi chinongoda mupanduki kufunga nezvechinzvimbo chake. Kunyange mukabvumirana naye pamapoinzi A naB, mapoinzi C naD achatevera.
Sarudza kuti chii chinonyanya kukosha kwauri: vhara musoro kana kuenderera mberi nekurwa. Pane nzira imwe chete yekudzikamisa mupanduki - kusava nehanya nezvaakataura, uye kusanamatira pazviri, uchizvikonzera moto.
Chimurenga mukati memunhu wese
Uye zvakadaro, kutaurirana nevapanduki kunobatsira kune mumwe nemumwe wedu. Patinoramba kurwisana nevamwe uye tongwarira kudzivisa kunetsana, tinowanzoita zvinhu zvinokuvadza isu pachedu, saka zvingava zvakanaka kuti tigamuchire humwe unhu hwekupandukira.
Dzimwe nguva hazvigoneke kutaura chinzvimbo chako uye kudhirowa miganhu pasina kupinda mukupokana. Apo patinotsunga kutaura kana kuita chimwe chinhu chinopesana, tinosimbisa kwete isu pachedu chete, asiwo unhu hweumwe: "Handina kufanana newe, uye iwe hauna kufanana neni." Mune zvimwe zviitiko, iyi ndiyo nzira chete yekuve iwe pachako.