Vadyidzani vanovaregerera manomano akashata. Zviremera zvinogara zviri kurutivi rwavo. Kunyange vaya vavakatengesa vakagadzirira kuvamirira negomo. Chii chakavanzika che "brilliant bastards"?
Munguva ichangopfuura, tiri kuwedzera kuverenga nyaya dzenyeredzi dzedu pamusoro pevaimbova varume vakavaseka, vachinyadzisa uye vakavarova. Izvi zvinokumbira mubvunzo: mukadzi akabudirira uye akanaka angasarudza sei munhu akadaro semudiwa? Nei asina kuona mafungiro ake?
Zvichida, varume vekare vane hunhu hunoti nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinotaura nezve "dark triad" - narcissism, Machiavellianism (katsika kekushandisa vamwe) uye psychopathy. Ongororo yazvino uno inojekesa kuti sei huri hunhu uhwu, zvisinei nehunhu hwahwo hunoparadza, hunoita kuti vanahwo vakwezve.
Nicholas Holtzman naMichael Strube vanobva kuYunivhesiti yeWashington (USA)1 yakatsvaga chinongedzo pakati pekukwezva kwemuviri uye propensity ye narcissism, psychopathy, uye Machiavellianism. Vakakoka vadzidzi 111 kurabhoritari. Kutanga, vakatorwa mifananidzo, uye vakakumbirwa kuti vachinje zvipfeko zvavo kune zvakagadzirirwa-zvakareruka uye zvisina kwazvakarerekera sezvinobvira.
Vakadzi vakakumbirwawo kuti vageze make-up ese, zvishongo, uye kuchengeta vhudzi ravo mumuswe wepony. Vakabva vatorwa mifananidzo zvakare nemufananidzo mutsva. Holtzman naStrube vakaratidza mifananidzo yakatorwa kuboka revasingazivi, vachivakumbira kuti vazviyere maererano nekukwezva kwemuviri. Vaida kunzwisisa kuti ndeupi wevadzidzi vakakwanisa kuzviita vasingadzivisiki nerubatsiro rwembatya, zvizorwa uye zvishongedzo.
Covert narcissists uye manipulators haana kunaka kupfuura vamwe, asi ivo vari nani pakuzviratidza ivo pachavo.
Vatsvakurudzi vakabva vaita mufananidzo wepfungwa wevatori vechikamu, uye vakabvunzurudza vavanozivana navo neshamwari nefoni uye e-mail. Nekuwedzera pamwe chete giredhi ravo uye magiredhi evamwe vanhu, vakagadzira chimiro chemudzidzi wega wega.
Vamwe vavo vakaratidza maitiro echinyakare e "black triad": kunzwira tsitsi kwakaderera, tsika yekutyora miganhu uye kushandisa vamwe kuzadzisa chinangwa chavo, chido chechimiro uye mukurumbira. Zvakazoitika kuti vanhu ava vaionekwa sevanonyanya kukwezva nevanhu vavasingazivi.
Zvaida kuziva kuti gap pakati pezviyero zvemifananidzo yavo yepamberi neshure yaive yakanyanya. Zvichireva kuti, vanohwanda narcissists uye manipulators havana kukunda vamwe mukukwezva apo vaive vakapfeka maT-shirt nema sweatpants. Saka, pfungwa ndeyokuti ivo vanokwanisa zviri nani kuzviratidza ivo pachavo. Iyi data inoenderana nemhedzisiro yezvidzidzo zvakapfuura: narcissists inoyevedza kupfuura vamwe pakutanga kuona - chaiko.
Masayendisiti anoratidza kuti zvinhu zviviri zvakabatanidzwa pano: "njere" dzemagariro dzakagadzirwa dzevanonyengedza uye kukanganisa kwedu pachedu. Narcissists vanoita sevanokwezva kwatiri nekuda kwekugona kwavo kufadza: vanotaridzika zvinoshamisa, kunyemwerera zvakanyanya, neunyanzvi kushandisa mutauro wemuviri. Tinogona kutaura kuti inyanzvi dzekuzvipa. Vanonyatsoziva nzira yokuwana nayo ngwariro uye kunyandura fariro mavari vamene.
Kana mumwe munhu achiita seakanaka uye achiyevedza kwatiri, tinongoerekana tafunga kuti vane mutsa, vakangwara uye vane chivimbo.
Kukwezva kwemunhu kunowanzo kubatanidzwa nehuwandu hwehumwe hunhu hwakanaka, chiitiko chinozivikanwa se "halo effect." Kana mumwe munhu achiita seakanaka uye achiyevedza kwatiri, tinongoerekana tafunga kuti ane mutsa, akangwara, uye ane chivimbo. Izvi, kunyanya, zvinobatsira vanonyengerera kuti vazvidavirire kune vavakabatwa, kutora zvinzvimbo zvehutungamiriri uye kutsvaga vatsigiri vakavimbika.
Narcissists uye sociopaths havanzwisise kukosha kwehukama, saka vanoisa simba rakawanda mukugadzira mufananidzo unoshamisa. Uye izvi zvinosimbisa: mhedzisiro yechiratidzo chekutanga haigari nekusingaperi. Guruva ravanokanda mumaziso avo richapera nokukurumidza. Huroyi huchatsemuka. Sezvineiwo, kazhinji vadyidzani neshamwari vanobatanidzwa kwavari zvekuti havawani simba rekuparadzana.
Asi kazhinji, intuition inobata chimwe chinhu chisingawirirane nemufananidzo wakakodzera mumusoro medu: kutaridzika kutonhora, kukurumidza kushanduka kwenzwi, kusinganzwisisiki kubata kumeso ... Teerera manzwiro ako: kana vakapa maalarm zviratidzo, pamwe unofanira kugara kure nemunhu uyu.
1 Social Psychological and Personality Science, 2013, vol. 4, №4.