Mukati
Vazhinji vedu takakura tichifunga kuti varume vane barika uye kuti vakadzi vane murume mumwe chete. Zvakadaro, fungidziro iyi yezvepabonde haichakoshi, nyanzvi dzedu dzezvepabonde dzinodaro. Asi chii chanyanyozivikanwa nhasi - barika revarume nevakadzi kana kutendeka kwavo?
"Varume nevakadzi vane barika nemasikirwo"
Alain Eril, psychoanalyst, sexologist:
Dzidziso ye psychoanalysis inotidzidzisa kuti isu tose, varume nevakadzi, takasikwa tine barika, ndiko kuti, panguva imwe chete tinokwanisa kusangana nezvido zvakasiyana-siyana. Kunyange kana tichida uye tichishuva mumwe wedu kana mudiwa wedu, libido yedu inoda zvinhu zvakawanda.
Musiyano chete ndewekuti tinoenda kuzviito zvakakodzera here kana kuti tikaita sarudzo uye tinowana simba matiri pachedu kuti tizvirege. Kare, mutsika dzedu, murume aiva nekodzero yakadaro, asi mukadzi akanga asina.
Nhasi, varoorani vaduku vanowanzoda kuvimbika kwakakwana.
Kune rumwe rutivi, zvinogona kutaurwa kuti kuvimbika kunotimanikidza kune imwe kangaidziko, iyo pane dzimwe nguva yakaoma kutsungirira, asi kune rumwe rutivi, kuora mwoyo inhambo yekuyeuka kuti isu hatisi vane simba rose uye hatifaniri kufunga kuti nyika. inosungirwa kuteerera zvido zvedu.
Muchidimbu, nyaya yekuvimbika inogadziriswa mukati memurume nemukadzi nenzira dzakasiyana, zvichienderana neruzivo rwemunhu uye zera revakaroorana.
“Pakutanga, varume vaiva nebarika rakawanda”
Mireille Bonierbal, chiremba wepfungwa, nyanzvi yezvepabonde
Kana tikacherekedza mhuka, tinoona kuti kazhinji mukono unobereka hadzi dzinoverengeka, pashure pacho hauchatori rutivi, toti, kufukura mazai kana kurera vana. Nokudaro, barika revarume rinoratidzika zvechokwadi kuva rakagadzirirwa biologically, kunyanya mumhuka.
Asi mhuka nevanhu vanoparadzaniswa nemaitiro akareba ekushamwaridzana. Zvinogona kufungidzirwa kuti pakutanga varume vaive nebarika zvakanyanya.
Nekukudziridza kugona kuzvipira, zvishoma nezvishoma vakachinja hunhu hwepabonde.
Panguva imwecheteyo, varwere vangu vanogara vachienda kune dzimwe nzvimbo dze "kutengesa zvepabonde" vanosimbisa kuti pane mutsauko pakati pemaitiro evarume nevakadzi mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro.
Murume, sekutonga, ari kutsvaga hukama hwakakwana, husina kusunga hwezuva rimwe chete. Pane zvinopesana, chirevo chekuita zvepabonde chinobva kumukadzi chinowanzova chikonzero, chaizvoizvo, anotarisira kuzovaka hukama hwechokwadi nemumwe wake.