"Ini ndiri munhu akarasika", "Handina hukama hwemazuva ose", "Ndicharasikirwa zvakare". Kunyange vanhu vanozvivimba, kwete, kwete, hongu, uye vanozvibata ivo pachavo pamifungo yakadaro. Nzira yekukurumidza uye zvinobudirira kupikisa pfungwa dzako pamusoro pako? Psychotherapist Robert Leahy anopa chishandiso chiri nyore asi chine simba.
Chii chingakubatsira kukunda manzwiro anorwadza uye kuzadzisa zvinangwa zvako? Zvakadini nekuongorora maitiro emunhu ekufunga? Zvese izvi zvinodzidziswa neinonyorwa nyowani na psychotherapist, mukuru weAmerican Institute of Cognitive Therapy Robert Leahy. Bhuku rinonzi "Techniques of Cognitive Psychotherapy" rakagadzirirwa vadzidzisi vepfungwa uye vadzidzi vezvidzidzo zvepfungwa uye basa ravo rinoshanda nevatengi, asi vasiri nyanzvi vanogonawo kushandisa chimwe chinhu. Semuenzaniso, iyo nzira, iyo iyo munyori akadana kuti «180 Degree Turn — Confirmation of the Negative», inoratidzwa mukudhindwa sebasa remumba kune mutengi.
Zvakaoma zvikuru kuti tibvume kusakwana kwedu pachedu, tinoisa pfungwa dzedu, “kurembera” pazvikanganiso zvedu, tichiita mhedziso huru pamusoro pedu kubva kwadziri. Asi mumwe nomumwe wedu ane zvaanokanganisa zvechokwadi.
“Tese tine maitiro kana hunhu hwatinoona sehusina kunaka. Ndizvo zvakaita munhu. Pakati pevatinozivana hapana kana munhu mumwe chete akakodzera, saka kuedza kukwana hakugoneki, psychotherapist inotarisira basa rake. — Ngationei zvaunozvishora, zvausingade pauri. Funga nezveunhu husina kunaka. Uye zvino fungidzira kuti zvingave zvakaita sei kana iwe ukavaona seizvo zvaunofanirwa nazvo. Unogona kuzvitora sechikamu chako - munhu asina kukwana ane hupenyu huzere nekukwira nekudzika.
Bata nzira iyi kwete sechombo chekuzvishora, asi sechombo chekuzivikanwa, kunzwira tsitsi uye kuzvinzwisisa.
Leahy anobva akumbira muverengi kuti afungidzire kuti ane humwe hunhu husina kunaka. Somuenzaniso, kuti iye anorasika, ari kunze, anopenga, akaipa. Ngatiti iwe unofungidzira kuti dzimwe nguva uri mutauriri anofinha. Panzvimbo pokuirwisa, wadii kuigamuchira? “Hongu, ndinogona kufinha vamwe, asi pane zvinhu zvakawanda zvinofadza muupenyu hwangu.”
Kuti udzidzire izvi, shandisa tafura, iyo yakanzi nemunyori: "Ndaizoita sei kana zvikazoitika kuti ndine unhu husina kunaka."
Muchikamu chekuruboshwe, nyora zvaunofunga nezveunhu hwako uye maitiro. Muchikamu chepakati, cherechedza kana paine chokwadi mune idzi pfungwa. Muchikamu chekurudyi, nyora zvikonzero nei hunhu nehunhu uhu husati hwave dambudziko rakakomba kwauri - shure kwezvose, une humwe hunhu hwakawanda uye unogona kuita zviitiko zvakasiyana.
Unogona kusangana nematambudziko panguva yekuzadza. Vamwe vanhu vanofunga kuti kubvuma unhu hwedu husina kunaka kwakafanana nekuzvishora, uye tafura yakapedzwa ichava chisimbiso chakajeka chokuti tinozvifunga isu nenzira isina kunaka. Asi tinofanira kuyeuka kuti hatina kukwana uye kuti munhu wose ane unhu husina kunaka.
Uye chimwezve chinhu: bata nzira iyi kwete sechombo chekuzvishora, asi sechombo chekuzivikanwa, kunzwira tsitsi uye kuzvinzwisisa. Pashure pezvose, kana tichida mwana, tinoziva uye tinobvuma zvikanganiso zvake. Ngatimbotii, kwekanguva, tive vana vakadaro isu pachedu. Yasvika nguva yekuzvichengeta.
Kwakabva: Robert Leahy "Matekinoroji eCognitive Psychotherapy" (Peter, 2020).