Kugeza mapfupa evanhu vane mukurumbira ibasa risina maturo uye rinotonyadzisa. Asi zvishoma nezvishoma munhu wose anozviita. Chii icho - chiratidzo chemucheche psyche kana kuratidzwa kwezvido zvakadzika?
Vakarambana nemhaka yekunwa uye kushandisa zvinodhaka. Uye iyewo mushe!
— Hungu, akamupedza! Pamwe achacheka chipfuva chake, obva atora mumwe mwana - chero munhu achatiza zvinhu zvakadaro.
- Zvakanaka, hapana, asi isu tina Mambokadzi naTarzan. Uye Pugacheva pamwe Galkin. Varume, bata! Tariro yose iri mamuri.
Mumazuva matatu apfuura, takakwanisa kukurukura nezvese zvine chekuita nekurambana kuri kuuya kwaBrad Pitt naAngelina: ndiani anonyanya kubatwa, ndiani ane mhosva, chii chichaitika kuvana. Mapoka ese ekushanda akaungana mumakamuri ekusvuta uye masocial network akazvipira kuongororwa hukama pakati pevatambi vaviri. Nharaunda yevateveri yakakamurwa kuita "pittists" uye "jolists", uye vamwe vakaroorana vakakwanisa kupopotedzana kune vapfumbamwe nekuda kwekuti mumwe wevabatsiri akatsigira Pitt uye mumwe achitsigira Jolie. Sei manzwiro akawanda kudaro?
Vatorwa asi hama
Kubva pamaonero epfungwa, manzwiro atinonzwa pamusoro pevanhu vatisingazivi anotaura nezvehukama hweparasocial. Chivakamberi chokuti "vaviri" apa chinoreva kutsauka: uku hakusi hukama nenzira yakajairika, asi mumiriri wavo. Kare kuma1950, nyanzvi dzepfungwa Donald Horton naRichard Wohl vakaona kuti hatingonzwiri tsitsi vatambi vatinoda pascreen—tinovaita chikamu chehupenyu hwedu. Asi kubatana kunoshanduka kuve kune rimwe divi: isu tinobata mhuka dzedu dzinovaraidza nenzira imwechete iyo vana vadiki vanobata zvidhori. Kunze kwekuti mwana ane simba rakakwana pamusoro pechidhori, kusiyana negamba remufirimu.
Nyika dzekufungidzira dzinotitendera kuongorora isu pachedu, kunzwisisa kwedu kwehukama
Hutano uhu hune hutano hwakadii? Zvinogona kufungidzirwa kuti avo vanoita shamwari dzekufungidzira uye vadikani havagutsikani zvachose nehukama hwavo muhupenyu chaihwo. Zvechokwadi, hukama hweparasocial hunowanzopindwa nevaya vasina chivimbo zvakakwana mavari uye vane dambudziko rokukurukura nevanhu chaivo. Kutanga, zvakachengeteka: shamwari kubva kuTV haizotisiyi, uye kana izvi zvikaitika, tine zvinyorwa zvekare uye fungidziro yedu yatiinayo. Chechipiri, zviito zvegamba zvinogara zvichinyanya kushamisa: haapindi muhomwe yake neshoko, haaiti basa renguva dzose, uye anogara achitaridzika zvakanaka.
Angelina Akanaka uye Brad Wemasimbaose
Haasi munhu wese anobvumirana kuti kuvapo kwezviratidzo zvehukama hweparasocial matiri chikonzero chekutendeukira kune nyanzvi. Kunyange kana ukama husiri hwechokwadi, manzwiro ari shure kwayo anogona kubatsira. “Nyika dzekufungidzira dzinoita kuti tiongorore zvatiri pachedu, manzwisisiro atinoita ukama, tsika dzedu, uye manzwisisiro atinoita chinangwa choupenyu,” anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa dzinobudisa nhau Karen Dill-Shackleford.
Pano zvakakodzera kuyeuka kuti shoko rokuti "chidhori" pakutanga raireva vanamwari vechihedheni. Chokwadi, kune vazhinji vedu, vanhu vane mukurumbira vari pachinhanho chisingasvikiki zvekuti vanowana hunhu hunenge humwari. Naizvozvo, vazhinji vanoshingairira kudzivirira zvipfuwo zvavo kubva pakurwiswa. Tinoda mienzaniso yekutevedzera. Tinoda kuve pamberi pemeso edu embodiment yeKubudirira, Mutsa, Kusika uye Nobility. Inogona kunge isiri chete nyeredzi dzepop, asiwo vezvematongerwo enyika, vanoita zvemagariro kana vadzidzisi vemweya. Munhu wose anoda mesiya wavakagadzirira kuenda kwaari, waanogona kutendeukira kwaari mupfungwa kuti awane tsigiro uye kurudziro.
KwaJenny here kana kuti kwaAngie?
Pakupedzisira, pane hukama hwemagariro kune rudo rwedu kune vane mukurumbira. Tinoda kuva chikamu cheboka rimwechete rakabatana, "rudzi" apo munhu wese anotaura mutauro wakafanana, kuzivana nezviratidzo zvinozivikanwa kwavari chete, vane kwaziso dzavo dzepachivande, mazororo, majee. Izwi reChirungu fandom (fan base) rakatopinda mumutauro wedu pamwe chete nechiitiko chacho pachacho: nharaunda dzevateveri vanosvika mamiriyoni evanhu. Vanogara vachichinjana nhau, vanonyora nyaya dzezvidhori zvavo, vanodhirowa mapikicha nemakomiki, vachitevedzera chitarisiko chavo. Iwe unogona kuita "basa" rinonakidza mavari, uchive nyanzvi pane biography kana chimiro cheaunofarira mutambi.
Tinoda kuva chikamu cheboka rimwechete rakabatana, "dzinza", apo munhu wose anotaura mutauro wakafanana, anozivana nezviratidzo zvinozivikanwa kwavari chete.
Nharaunda dzevateveri dzakafanana nemakirabhu evateveri vemitambo munzira dzakawanda: vanoona kukunda uye kukundwa kwe "shampion" yavo seyavo. Mupfungwa iyi, kurambana kwaAngelina Jolie kunogona kuve kurova chaiko kune vateveri vake, asi panguva imwechete kupa chikonzero chekufara kune vateveri vaJennifer Aniston. Mushure mezvose, akanga ari Angelina uyo akambo "kugumbura" vavaida, vachirova Brad Pitt kubva kwaari. Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Rick Grieve anoti manzwiro eboka anowanikwa zvakanyanya uye anoita kuti tigutsikane. “Kana munhu wose akakupoteredza achiimba zvakafanana, zvinopa simba uye kuzvivimba,” anotsanangura kudaro.
Pane zvakanaka muhukama hwekufungidzira nenyeredzi, uye mativi asina kunaka. Isu tinofemerwa nehunhu hwavo, mararamiro uye maitiro kune akasiyana nyaya dzehupenyu. Izvo zvinongodiwa kuve nechokwadi kuti kubatanidzwa hakugadzirire kuve kutsamira, uye ekufungidzira interlocutors haatsive chaiwo.
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