Mukati
Mhosva iyi ndeimwe yeakawanda: mushure memakore akati wandei mumhuri yekurera, vana zvakare vakapedzisira vava mune imwe nherera. Vakaroorana Romanchuk nevana 7 vakagamuchirwa vakatamira kuMoscow kubva kuKaliningrad, asi, vasina kuwana mari yekubhadhara mari, vakadzorera vana kuhurumende. Hatiedzi kutsvaga chakanaka nechakaipa. Chinangwa chedu ndechekunzwisisa kuti sei izvi zviri kuitika. Takataura nenyanzvi dzakawanda pamusoro peizvi.
Iyi nyaya yakatanga makore mana apfuura: vaviri vanobva kuKaliningrad vakatora wechipiri-giredhi, gore rakatevera - munin'ina wake. Zvadaro - vamwe vana vaviri muKaliningrad uye vatatu, hama nehanzvadzi, muPetrozavodsk.
Gore nehafu rapfuura, mhuri yakatamira kuMoscow, asi vakakundikana kuwana chimiro cheguta remhuri yekurera uye yakawedzera mubhadharo pamwana (85 rubles panzvimbo yedunhu 000 rubles). Vagamuchira kurambwa, varoorani vacho vakadzorera vana kutarisiro yehurumende.
Saka vana vakapedzisira vava mumusha wenherera wokuMoscow. Vana vavo vachadzoserwa kuKaliningrad nherera, uye vana vanobva kuPetrozavodsk vanogona kutorwa munguva pfupi iri kutevera.
"UYA USIYE VANA manheru - IZVI ZVINOTAURA ZVAKAWANDA"
Vadim Menshov, mutungamiriri weNash Dom Family Education Assistance Center:
Mamiriro ezvinhu muRussia pachawo ave kuputika. Kutamiswa kwevana mumapoka makuru kumhuri idambudziko. Kazhinji vanhu vanotungamirirwa ne mercantile interests. Havasi vose, hongu, asi munyaya iyi zvakaitika chaizvo, uye vana vakapedzisira vava mumusha wedu wenherera. Ini ndakanaka kwazvo nemhuri dzenyanzvi dzekurera. Asi izwi rakakosha pano ndere "nyanzvi".
Zvose zvakasiyana pano. Zvitongere iwe: mhuri inobva kuKaliningrad inotora vana kubva munharaunda yavo, asi inofamba navo kuMoscow. Kune vana vanopa mvumo: muhuwandu hwe150 rubles. pamwedzi - asi izvi hazvina kukwana kumhuri, nokuti vanorenda imba huru. Dare rinoita chisarudzo chisingafariri vachengeti - uye vanounza vana kuMoscow nherera. Vakuru vevachengeti vanozvipira kushanyira vana, kuenda navo kumba pakupera kwevhiki kuitira kuti vasanzwa vasiyiwa, uye pashure penguva yakati voenda navo zvachose. Asi vatarisiri vanoramba kuita kudaro.
Vakomana vakashongedzwa, vane tsika dzakanaka, asi vana havana kuchema uye havana kushevedzera kuti: "Amai!" Rinotaura zvakawanda
Vana vakauyiswa kumusha wedu wenherera ndokusiiwa manheru. Ndakataura navo, vakomana vakanaka: vakashongedzwa, vane tsika, asi vana havana kuchema uye havana kushevedzera: "Amai!" Izvi zvinotaura zvakawanda. Kunyange zvazvo mukomana mukuru - ane gumi nevaviri - ari kunetseka zvikuru. Nyanzvi yepfungwa inoshanda naye. Tinowanzo taura nezvedambudziko revana vanobva kumisha yenherera: havana pfungwa yerudo. Asi vana ava vakakurira mumhuri yekurera…
"CHINHU CHIKONZERO CHEKUDZOKERA KWEVANA KUSVIRWA KWEZVINHU"
Olena Tseplik, mukuru weTsvaga Family Charitable Foundation:
Sei vana vokurera vachidzorerwa? Kazhinji, vabereki vanosangana nekukanganisa kwakakomba kwehunhu mumwana, havazive zvekuita nezvazvo, uye havagamuchiri chero rubatsiro. Kuneta kwakanyanya, kuputika kwemanzwiro kunotanga. Kukuvara kwako pachako kusina kugadziriswa nemamwe matambudziko anogona kuuya.
Mukuwedzera, hazvigoni kutaurwa kuti kurera vana vanobvumirwa nenzanga. Mhuri yekurera inozviwana yakazviparadzanisa nevamwe: kuchikoro, mwana akarerwa anomanikidzwa, hama neshamwari dzinoburitsa zvirevo zvinoshoropodza. Vabereki vanonzwa vakaneta zvisingadzivisiki, havagoni kuita chinhu ivo vamene, uye hapana kwokuwana betsero. Uye mhedzisiro ndeyekudzoka.
Panodiwa zvivakwa zvichabatsira mhuri dzekurera mukutsiviwa kwemwana. Tinoda masevhisi erutsigiro anowanikwa nevanochengeta mhuri dzemhuri, nyanzvi dzepfungwa, magweta, vadzidzisi vanozove vakagadzirira "kutora" chero dambudziko, kutsigira amai nababa, kutsanangura kwavari kuti matambudziko avo akajairika uye anogadziriswa, uye kubatsira nemhinduro.
Pane imwe "systemic kukundikana": chero mamiriro ehurumende anozove kwete nharaunda inotsigira, asi chiremera chinodzora. Zviri pachena kuti kuperekedza mhuri, hunyoro hunodiwa hunodiwa, izvo zvakaoma zvikuru kuti zvibudirire padanho rehurumende.
Kana vakadzorera muchengeti, zvino izvi, chaizvoizvo, chiitiko chinogoneka - mwana weropa anofunga
Zvinofanira kunzwisiswa kuti kudzoka kwemwana wekurera kunzvimbo inochengeterwa nherera kunokonzera kushungurudzika kunhengo dzese dzemhuri. Kune mwana pachake, kudzoka kune chimwe chikonzero chekurasikirwa nekuvimba nemunhu mukuru, kuvhara uye kurarama ari oga. Kutsauka kwemaitiro muvana vakagamuchirwa hakukonzerwi nemararamiro avo asina kunaka, sezvatinowanzo funga, asi nekushungurudzika uko mwana akagamuchira mumhuri yekuzvarwa kweasocial, panguva yekurasikirwa kwayo uye panguva yekurerwa pamwe chete mune imwe nherera. Nokudaro, maitiro akaipa chiratidzo chekurwadziwa kukuru kwemukati. Mwana ari kutsvaga nzira yekutaurira vanhu vakuru kuti zvakaipa uye zvakaoma sei, netariro yekunzwisisa uye kurapwa. Uye kana pane kudzoka, kumwana iko chaizvoizvo kuzivikanwa kuti hakuna munhu achazombokwanisa kunzwa uye kumubatsira.
Panewo migumisiro yemagariro evanhu: mwana akadzorerwa kumusha wenherera ane mikana mishoma yekuwana mhuri zvakare. Vanoda kuvabereki vanorerwa nevabereki vasiri vavo vanoona chiratidzo chekudzoka mufaira remwana uye fungidzira mamiriro ezvinhu asina kunaka.
Kuvabereki vokurera vakakundikana, kudzoka kwomwana kunzvimbo inochengeterwa nherera idzvinyiriro huruwo. Kutanga, munhu mukuru anosaina kukundikana kwake amene. Chechipiri, anonzwisisa kuti ari kutengesa mwana, uye anokudziridza pfungwa yakagadzikana yekuva nemhosva. Sezvo mutemo, avo vakapfuura nekudzoka kwemwana akagamuchirwa zvino vanoda kudzorerwa kwenguva refu.
Zvechokwadi, kune dzimwe nyaya apo vabereki, vachizvidzivirira, vanoisa mhosva yekudzoka kumwana pachake (akazvibata zvakaipa, asingadi kugara nesu, haana kutida, haana kuteerera), asi izvi ndizvo chete. kudzivirirwa, uye kukuvadzwa kubva mukutadza kwake hakuperi.
Uye, chokwadika, kwakaomera zvikuru vana veropa kusangana nemamiriro ezvinhu akadaro kana vachengeti vavo vanawo. Kana mwana wekurera akadzorerwa, zvino izvi, chaizvoizvo, chiitiko chinobvira - iyi ndiyo nzira iyo mwana wepanyama anofunga apo "hama" yake yezuro kana "hanzvadzi" inonyangarika kubva muupenyu hwemhuri uye kudzokera kumusha wenherera.
"NYAYA iri mukusakwana kweiyo SYSTEM pachayo"
Elena Alshanskaya, mukuru weCharitable Foundation "Vazvipiri kubatsira nherera":
Zvinosuruvarisa, kudzoka kwevana kumisha yenherera hakusi kwega: kune vanopfuura 5 vavo pagore. Iri idambudziko rakaoma. Iko hakuna kuwirirana mune yemhuri mudziyo system, ndine hurombo kune iyo tautology. Kubva pakutanga, sarudzo dzese dzekudzoreredza mhuri yekuzvarwa kana kuchengetwa kwehama hadzina kuitwa zvakakwana, nhanho yekusarudza vabereki kumwana wega wega, nehunhu hwayo hwese, hukasha, matambudziko, haana kuiswa pasi, hapana kuongororwa zvemhuri zvichibva pane zvinodiwa nemwana.
Hapana anoshanda nemumwe mwana, nekukuvara kwake, nekuona mafambiro ehupenyu aanoda: zviri nani here kuti adzokere kumba, kumhuri yakakura kana kune imwe nyowani, uye kuti ndeipi iyo inofanirwa kuve yakarongeka. kumukodzera. Mwana kazhinji anenge asina kugadzirira kutamira kumhuri, uye mhuri pachayo haina kugadzirira kusangana nouyu mwana chaiye.
Kutsigirwa kwemhuri nenyanzvi kwakakosha, asi haisi kuwanikwa. Pane kutonga, asi marongerwo aanoitwa haana maturo. Nerutsigiro rwenguva dzose, mhuri yaisazoerekana yatama, mumamiriro ezvinhu ekusava nechokwadi, kuti ichagara kupi uye pamusoro pei nevana vokurera mune imwe nharaunda.
Zvisungo hazvisi zvemhuri yekurera chete maererano nemwana, asiwo yehurumende maererano nevana.
Kunyange kana zvikasarudzwa kuti, somuenzaniso, nokuda kwezvinodiwa zvokurapa zvomwana, anoda kuendeswa kune imwe nharaunda uko kune kiriniki yakakodzera, mhuri yacho inofanira kutamiswa kubva muruoko kuenda kune ruoko kuvakuru vanoperekedza vari mundima. , mafambiro ese anofanira kubvumirana pachine nguva.
Imwe nyaya ndeyekubhadhara. Kupararira kwakanyanya kwazvo: mune dzimwe nzvimbo, mubairo wemhuri yekurera inogona kuva muhuwandu hwe2-000 rubles, mune dzimwe - 3 rubles. Uye izvi, chokwadika, zvinomutsa mhuri kuti dzitame. Izvo zvinodikanwa kugadzira hurongwa umo kubhadhara kuchave kwakanyanya kana kushoma kuenzana - hongu, tichifunga nezvehunhu hwematunhu.
Sezvingatarisirwa, panofanira kuva nemari inobhadharwa mundima inosvika mhuri yacho. Zvisungo hazvisi zvemhuri yekurera chete maererano nemwana, asiwo yehurumende maererano nevana iyo pachayo yakaendesa kuchikoro. Kunyangwe mhuri ikafamba kubva mudunhu kuenda kune dunhu, zvisungo izvi hazvigone kubviswa kubva kuhurumende.
"VANA VAKAPONA VAKUKURA ZVAKAIPA"
Irina Mlodik, chiremba wepfungwa, gestalt therapist:
Murungano urwu, isu tingangoona chete muromo wechando. Uye, kumuona chete, zviri nyore kupomera vabereki kukara uye chido chekuita mari kuvana (kunyange kurera vana vokurera haisi nzira iri nyore yekuwana mari). Nekuda kwekushaiwa ruzivo, munhu anogona chete kuisa mberi shanduro. Ndine vatatu.
- Chido chekuzvida, kuvaka kusanganiswa kwakaoma, pawns ayo ari vana uye hurumende yeMoscow.
— Kutadza kuita basa revabereki. Nekunetsekana kwese uye matambudziko, izvi zvakakonzera psychosis uye kusiiwa kwevana.
- Zvinorwadza kuparadzana nevana uye kuputsika kwekubatana - zvichida vachengeti vakanzwisisa kuti havagoni kutarisira vana, uye vaitarisira kuti imwe mhuri yaizoita zviri nani.
Unogona kuudza vana kuti vanhu vakuru ava vakanga vasati vagadzirira kuva vabereki vavo. Vakazama asi zvakashaya basa
Muchiitiko chekutanga, zvakakosha kuita tsvakurudzo kuitira kuti pave pasina mamwe maitiro akadaro. Mune yechipiri neyechitatu, basa revakaroorana nenyanzvi yepfungwa kana psychotherapist rinogona kubatsira.
Kana, kunyanguvezvo, vachengeti vakaramba bedzi nevavariro dzoudyire, munhu anogona kuudza vana kuti ava vanhu vakuru vakanga vasina kugadzirira kuva vabereki vavo. Vakaedza, asi havana kubudirira.
Muchinoitika chipi nechipi, vana vakakuvadzwa zvakakomba, kurambwa kunochinja upenyu, kugurwa kwezvisungo zvine revo, kurasikirwa nechivimbo munyika yavakuru. Zvakakosha zvikuru kunzwisisa kuti chii chaizvo chakaitika. Nemhaka yokuti chinhu chimwe kurarama noruzivo rwokuti “waishandiswa namatsotsi,” uye zvakatosiyana kurarama noruzivo rwokuzviwanira rwa“vabereki vako vakakundikana” kana kuti “vabereki vako vakaedza kukupa chinhu chiri chose, asi vakakundikana ndokufunga kuti vamwe vanhu vakuru. zvingaite zviri nani."
Chinyorwa: Dina Babaeva, Marina Velikanova, Yulia Tarasenko.