Mukati
Sei tichidhakwa nevanhu vanotikuvadza?
Psychology
Hudiki hwedu chinhu chinotaridza kuti mukukura kwatinoita uye kuchengetedza hukama hwedu
Kubhejera kunonzi ndiko kupindwa muropa kwezana ramakore rechi XNUMX. Kufanana neiyi, iyo inowanzoita misoro yenhau, tinogara tichitaura nezvezvimwe zvinotsamira zvinogara mumikaha yenzanga: kudhakwa, zvinodhaka kana zvepabonde. Asi, pane kumwe kupindwa muropa kunowanikwa nesu tose uye kakawanda tinofuratira; the kutsamira pamunhu, kudiwa kwatinoita uye kunzwa kune vamwe vanhu.
Hukama hwevanhu ndiyo mbiru yehupenyu hwedu, asi nguva zhinji tinobatanidzwa chepfu pairings, rudo, mhuri kana ushamwari, izvo zvinotirambidza sevanhu uye hazvitibvumiri kukudziridza kana kufara.
Aya ndiwo maitiro Manuel Hernández Pacheco, akapedza kudzidza muBiology uye Psychology kubva kuYunivhesiti yeMalaga uye munyori webhuku "Nei vanhu vandinoda vachindirwadzisa?" Anotsanangura. "Kushanda kutsamira pamanzwiro senzira yekubhejera, panguva iyo I Ndinonzwa mubairo nemunhu, kuti pane imwe nguva akandibata zvakanaka kana kuti akaita kuti ndinzwe ndichidiwa, ndichabatwa nemanzwiro iwayo », anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi. Chinetso chinomuka apo munhu iyeye watino“tsamira” paari anovamba kutikuvadza. Izvi zvinogona kuva nezvikonzero zviviri; Kune rumwe rutivi, pane kudzidza kunowanwa muuduku uye kunokombamira kudzokororwa; pane imwe, sezvo pakanga pane imwe nguva rudzi rwemubayiro, vanhu vanova vakapindwa muropa nechinodikanwa ichocho. Zvakangofanana nevaya vanosvuta, kana vaya vanobhejera: kana pane imwe nguva vainzwa zvakanaka nezvazvo, iye zvino havagoni kurega kuzviita,” anotsanangura kudaro Manuel Hernández.
“Maronda ekare”
Uye chii icho kudzidza icho nyanzvi inotaura nezvayo? Ndiwo hwaro hwemanzwiro edu, ehunhu hwedu, hunoumbwa panguva makore ekutanga ehupenyu hwedu, tichiri vadiki. Dambudziko rinouya kana tisina budiriro “yakajairika” uye tinotakura “maronda ekare” nesu.
“80% yezvatichaziva muupenyu hwedu hwose zvatinodzidza mumakore mana kana mashanu okutanga,” inodaro nyanzvi yacho uye inoenderera mberi ichiti: “Pandinova nemanzwiro akasimba pamusana pechimwe chinhu chinoitika kwandiri, dhonza ndangariroZvino kana baba vangu vachigara vachida zvakawanda kwandiri, pandinenge ndiine sabhuku vangangoda zvakawanda neniwo.
Zvadaro, kuendeswa kune ndege yehukama, kana mwana akatambura izvo zvinonzi a "Attachment trauma"Nemhaka yokuti, apo takanga tiri vaduku, vabereki vedu vakatiregeredza apo takatsvaka ngwariro nenzira yomuzvarirwo, uku kukuvadzwa kunovapo, uko “kunodzivisa kukura, kukura kwomuzvarirwo muuropi hwomwana, uko kunofanira kuitika. zvinorehwa nehupenyu hwake hwese ”, sekutsanangura kunoita nyanzvi yepfungwa.
Dzokorora usingadi
Chimwe chipingamupinyi chinoita kuti vanhu vanyudzwe muhukama hwehupfu ndiyo inonzi procedural memory. "Huropi hunowanzo dzokorora mapuroteni kuchengetedza simba, saka, mune psychogenealogy, apo uropi hunoita chimwe chinhu kakawanda, panouya nguva haazivi kuti angazviita sei neimwe nzira», Anotsanangura Manuel Hernández. "Pakupedzisira tinopindwa muropa nemaitiro atinozvidzora, asi icho chinhu chaibatsira pane imwe nguva uye chingave chakashata," anowedzera kudaro.
Zvakare, iyi midzi yatinayo kubva paudiki, idzo tsika uye nzira dzekuzvibata, dzinotikanda padyo nehukama hune chepfu. "Kana isu tiri vadiki takanzwa kuti tine hurema, ndicho chinhu icho tinofunga kuti imhosva yedu, saka tine simba pamusoro pazvo “, anotsanangura kudaro Manuel Hernández uye anoenderera mberi achiti: “Ndosaka vanhu vakawanda vachizvirova uye vanogara nevanhu vane muchetura, nokuti vanonzwa kuti havakodzeri zvakawanda, nokuti ndiyo nzira chete yavanoziva kuva nayo. kukwanisa kurarama.
Kutsigira mune imwe
Kana munhu akanyura muukama hune chepfu, umo "munhu waanoda anomukuvadza", anofanira kuzvidzora kuti akunde. Asi, izvi zvinogona kuva basa rakaoma kune vakawanda. “Kana kutya kukuru muuduku, kudzidza kunova kwakaoma zvikuru, ndiko kunonyanya kuoma kuchinja,” anodaro Manuel Hernández.
"Kana paine kutsamira, kungave pamunhu kana pane chinhu, izvo zvazvinoda kwatiri isu kuzvitonga, kupfuudza iyo withdrawal syndrome, asi izvo hazviitwe nezuva rimwe, zvinouya zvishoma nezvishoma», Anotsanangura nyanzvi. Kuti uwane mutemo uyu, chinonyanya kukosha kazhinji kutsamira kune mumwe munhu, kwete chete nyanzvi, shamwari yakanaka, mudzidzisi kana waunoshanda naye anogona kubatsira zvikuru kubuda munzvimbo ine rima.