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Vanoedza kuva pakati pengwariro. Usakoshesa mibairo yevamwe, uchirumbidza yavo. Vanosimbisa kukanganisa kwevamwe vanhu kuitira kuti vataridzike vakajeka maererano nemamiriro avo ezvinhu. Ndeapi mamwe maitiro emunhu anonyengedza anofanirwa kuziva, anodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Christine Hammond.
Mumwe nemumwe wedu akambosangana nerudzi urwu munharaunda yedu. Nzira yekuziva sei narcissist uye kwete kuva nyajambwa wekunyengera kwake? Rangarira mitemo inokosha yomufambiro.
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"Own" shanduro yekubudirira kweumwe munhu
A classic narcissist trick ndeye "kuzadzisa" uye "kururamisa" nyaya yezvakabudirira zvevamwe vanhu. Anogona kuvanda seri kwevavariro dzakanaka, achivimbisa kuti anongofarira kutamba kwakanaka. Asi kutaura zvazviri, kurongeka uku kunobatsira kwaari: nenzira iyi panguva imwe chete anonyadzisa muvengi uye anozviratidza semurwi wechokwadi.
- Ivan Ivanovich akadzivirira dzidziso yake yezvechiremba pazera re30!
- Zvakanaka, hongu, nokuti vashandi vose vevadzidzi uye vabatsiri verabhoritari vakamushandira.
Ndaona waunodzidza naye paTV. Anoita chirongwa panguva yekutanga.
— Akaombera maziso ake pamberi pemugadziri — vakamutora. Zvaive zvakakodzera here kupedza chikoro chekurapa?
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Narcissists vanounganidza ruzivo nezve vamwe vashandi, vakwikwidzi, vatungamiriri, kuti vashandise panguva chaiyo. Vanogona kushandisa runako rwavo, kunyepedzera kuva shamwari kuitira kuti vakupomere kutaura pachena. Kana vangoziva zvavanogona kushandisa pauri, havazotadza kushandisa ruzivo urwu kukukanganisa. Iyo narcissist ichaita nguva nenguva - kazhinji nenzira isiri yechisimba, sekunge nzira yekuseka - kukuyeuchidza nezve "chakavanzika chidiki" chako kuti uve nesimba pamusoro pako.
"Mune chero hukama, narcissist anotsvaga kutonga"
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Kungofungidzira kukwana
Vanhu vakakwana havapo. Ichokwadi, pane nguva dzose kusarudzika kune narcissist: iye pachake. Mukutsvaga kukanganisa kwevamwe vanhu, narcissists havana vakaenzana. Kutonyanya nounyanzvi vanokwanisa kuvanza fariro yomunhu oga muna ikoku. Kana munyarikani achipomerwa mhosva yekunyanya kusarudza, anonyemwerera chaizvo ndokuti, “Aa, iri ijoke. Iwe haugone kana kuseka zvakare. Chii nekuseka kwako, shamwari?"
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Kutsvaga ane mhosva
Kana chimwe chinhu chikatadza, narcissist anogara achiwana mumwe munhu anozoratidza kuve "akanyanya". Ruzivo rwakanaka rwepfungwa runomubatsira kuti asarudze basa iri munhu asingazopokane uye azvidzivirire. Hazvishamisi kuti narcissist asarudze pachine nguva semufambidzani munhu anogona kupomerwa mhosva yekutadza kana kuratidzwa kwemanomano ake.
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Hurukuro yemwana
Mune chero hukama, narcissist inotsvaga kutonga. Imwe nzira ndeyekugonesa mudiwa nezvekusakura kwake uye hunhu hwake hwemwana. Narcissist inodudzira chero mamiriro ezvinhu mumamiriro ehukama hweVakuru-Mwana. Mukukurukurirana, anowanzo shandisa kuratidzira, kutarisira uye tsitsi. “Ko, wakatsamwirei, somwana muduku? Haiwa, ndakakutadzira here? Zvakanaka, usachema. Unoda kuti ndikutengere zvihwitsi here?"
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Batanidza nechitendero
Narcissist anonyatsoziva kuti zvinotendwa uye zvitendero zvitsigiro zvine simba zvekumanikidza vamwe vanhu. Hana haitibvumiri kutsungirira zvakadzikama kupokana kuri pakati pehunhu hwedu nezviito zvinotsauka kubva pazviri. Kunyangwe kana kutsauka kuri kudiki kwazvo, narcissist inoedza kuiputira, kuisimudza kusvika kune mhedziso. Somuenzaniso, anowanzoshandisa mashoko okuti: “Ungavimbwa sei kana uchigara uchiita unyengeri?”; “Tarirai muri kundipomera, asi uyu haasi muKristu”; “Hazvinetse sei izvozvo? Iyi ndiyo nzira iyo tsika munharaunda yedu inoparara. "
"Zano raanofarira remunhu narcissist nderokupopotera mutauri, wozomushora nekupisa zvakanyanya."
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"Jupiter akatsamwa, saka haana kururama"
Nzira yaanofarira yenarcissist ndeyekupopotera mutauri, wozomuzvidza nekupisa zvakanyanya. Chekutanga, kuomerwa kwemanzwiro kunopesana zvakanaka nekutonhora kweruremekedzo rwenarcissist pachake. Chechipiri, narcissist anowana mukana wekududzira kuita uku achifarira: “Hekani! Unotsamwa. Saka hapana utsi pasina moto.
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Kuzvideredza kwekufungidzira
Kusiyana nekutaura kwemucheche, pano mutauriri anoedza munzira dzese kuratidza kuti ari pamusoro pako, anonzwisisa mamiriro acho zviri nani, uye anogona kutsanangura zvaunoita uye kukurudzira kwako. Anoshandisa mashoko okuti “akachenjera” (kazhinji mataurirwo echiLatin, echiLatin), zviito zvounyanzvi (kutenderedza maziso ake, kunyemwerera), anochinjana kutarisisa kune avo vakamupoteredza. Kuridzira veruzhinji kunoita kuti mamiriro acho atonyanya kubatsira kune narcissist: runako rwake harubvumidze vamwe kuti vaone demagogue.
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Kuenzanisa nezvakakwana
Hazvina mhosva kuti chii chawakaita uye kuti wakaedza zvakadini, akazviita kaviri nekukurumidza uye zviri nani kupfuura iwe. Iye narcissist anoshandisa hukuru hwake kuti adzikise mibairo yako. Panguva imwe cheteyo, kazhinji inofuratira mashoko anogona kuva anokosha.
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Impression manipulation
Sutu dzake dzinogara dzakakwana zvakakwana. Hapana kana bvudzi rimwe chete rinobviswa kubva mubvudzi. Narcissist haataridzike seizvi nekuda kwekuti anofarira kuve mutsva. Inzirawo yekudzikisira vamwe. Mashoko aya angangove akajairwa kwauri: "Ingozvitarisa iwe - zvakaoma here"; "Ungatora sei zvakanyanya munhu anoita senge bum."
Kuti uwane mamwe mashoko, Mukadzi Apererwa.