12 zvinhu izvo introvert inoda kufara

"Sezvo ndiri munhu anongotaura, ndaiwanzosangana nekusagadzikana," anodaro Jen Granneman, munyori webhuku rekutanga uye mugadziri wenharaunda huru yepamhepo yevanoziva uye vanonzwira tsitsi. “Ndaida kuva seshamwari dzangu dzakanga dzisingachaitiki, nokuti dzakanga dzisina chinetso chokutaura nevanhu vavasingazivi, dzakanga dzisina kuneta nekurukurirano uye noupenyu hwose sezvandakaita.”

Gare gare, akanyura mukudzidza nezvenyaya iyi, akaziva kuti hapana chakaipa nokuva munhu asingafungi. "Kupfuura zvese, introversion iri muDNA yedu kubva pakuzvarwa, uye uropi hwedu hunoshanda zvakati siyanei pane extroverts. Pfungwa dzedu dzinoita zvinobatika zvakadzika, isu tinonyanya kugamuchira kune neurotransmitters ye dopamine, iyo "kunzwa zvakanaka" mahormone, uye isu hatiwane chikafu chimwechete kubva mukudyidzana kwevanhu kunoitwa nevatambi.

Nekuda kwehunhu uhu, vanhu vakadai vangangoda mamiriro akasiyana kuti vawane mufaro pane extroverts. Pazasi pane 12 mamiriro akadai sekureva kwaJen Granneman.

1. Nguva dzekupera kweImpression Processing

Mushure memapati ane ruzha uye zvimwe zviitiko, introverts vanoda kuzorora kuti vadzore mabhatiri avo. Nemhaka yokugadziridza kwavo kwakadzama kwamazano nezviitiko, zuva rakabatikana kubasa, kutenga muzvitoro zvakatsvikinyidzana, kana kuti kurukurirano yakakasharara inogona kutungamirira nyore nyore kuneta.

Naizvozvo, zvakakosha kuti uzvipe nguva yekuzorora, «digest» zvinoonekwa uye kuderedza nhanho yekukurudzira kune imwe yakagadzikana uye yakagadzikana. Zvikasadaro, zvinoita sekuti uropi hwatove "hwakafa", kutsamwa, kuneta kwemuviri, kana kunyange malaise ichaonekwa.

2. Kukurukurirana kune revo

"Kwanga kuri sei kupera kwevhiki?", "Chii chitsva?", "Unoda sei menyu?"… Vakanyura mukati mavo, vanhu vakanyarara vanokwanisa kuita hurukuro diki diki, asi izvi hazvireve kuti vanoda chimiro ichi. kutaurirana. Kune mimwe mibvunzo yakawanda inokosha uye inofadza iyo vangafara kukurukura: “Ndezvipi zvitsva zvawakadzidza munguva pfupi yapfuura?”, “Nhasi wakasiyana sei nezvawaiva nezuro?”, “Unotenda muna Mwari here?”.

Haisi kurukurirano yose inofanira kuva yakadzama uye ine revo. Dzimwe nguva mibvunzo yakapfava pamusoro pekuti zororo rakafamba sei uye kana waifarira bato rekambani yakakoshawo kune introverts. Asi kana "vakadyiswa" chete nekutaura kudiki kwepamusoro, vanonzwa nzara pasina kudzika, kunoreva kutaurirana.

3. Kunyarara kweushamwari

Zvingaita sekuti pfungwa iyi inopesana neyakapfuura, asi vanoda runyararo rweushamwari. Kwavari, vanhu vanokosha vaunogona kupedza maawa muimba imwe chete, mumwe nomumwe achiita zvaanoda uye asingatauri, kana pasina mafungiro ekutaura. Vanoonga avo vasingazofungi nekutya kuti vozadza sei kumbomira, uko kunodiwa padzimwe nguva kugadzirisa mifungo yavo.

4. Mukana wekunyura mune zvinokuvaraidza uye zvaunofarira

Gothic novels, Celtic mythology, vintage mota kudzoreredza. Kurima gadheni, kurukwa, kudhirowa, kubika kana calligraphy. Kana introvert achifarira chimwe chinhu, anogona kuenda ikoko nemusoro wake. Mukana uyu wekutarisa pane zvinokuvaraidza uye zvaunofarira unopa simba.

Vachitorwa nekutandara kwavo kwavanoda, vanhu vakadaro vanopinda mumamiriro e "kuyerera" - vakanyura zvachose mubasa uye vanonakidzwa nekuita. Mamiriro ekuyerera kwevazhinji vavo anowanzoitika uye anopa kunzwa kwekufara.

5. Utiziro hwakanyarara

An introvert, senge pasina mumwe munhu, anoda nzvimbo yakanyarara, yakadzikama inova yake chete. Ikoko iwe unogona kuhwanda kwechinguva apo nyika inoratidzika seine ruzha. Zvakanaka, iyi ikamuri iyo munhu anogona kugadzirira nekushongedza nenzira yake. Kuve wega pasina kutya kupindirwa mukana uyo kwaari wakafanana nekuita zvemweya.

6. Nguva yekufungisisa

Maererano naDr. Marty Olsen Laney, munyori weThe Invincible Introvert, vanhu vane unhu uhwu vanogona kuvimba zvakanyanya nekuyeuka kwenguva refu pane kuyeuka kwenguva pfupi - nenzira, zvinopesana ndezvechokwadi kune vanyengeri. Izvi zvinogona kutsanangura kuti nei vazivisi vanowanzoedza kuisa pfungwa dzavo mumashoko.

Vanowanzoda nhamburiko yakawedzerwa uye nguva yokufunga vasati vapindura, nguva refu zvikuru kupfuura vanyori vanorangarira zvinetso zvakakomba. Pasina ino nguva yekugadzirisa uye kufungisisa, introverts vanoona kushushikana.

7. Kugona kugara pamba

Introverts inoda kumbomira mukushamwaridzana: kutaurirana kunoda kungwarira dosi. Izvi zvinoreva kuti kukwanisa kuramba kubuda "pachena" kwakakosha, pamwe nekunzwisisa kwechido chakadaro kune chikamu chemudiwa, nhengo dzemhuri neshamwari. Kunzwisisa kusingasanganisire kumanikidzwa uye mhosva.

8. Chinangwa chinokosha muupenyu nebasa

Wese munhu anofanira kubhadhara mabhiri uye kuenda kunotenga, uye kune vakawanda imari inowanikwa inova kukurudzira kuenda kubasa. Kune vanhu vanofara nazvo. Zvisinei, kune vakawanda vanozivisa izvi hazvina kukwana - vakagadzirira kushanda nekuzvipira, asi chete kana pane kufarira uye zvinoreva mubasa racho. Vanoda zvinopfuura kungoshandira mubhadharo.

Pasina chinangwa uye chinangwa muhupenyu - ringave basa kana chimwewo chinhu - vanozonzwa kusafara zvakanyanya.

9. Mvumo yekuramba wakanyarara

Dzimwe nguva introverts havana simba rekubatana nevamwe. Kana kuti vanotendeukira mukati, vachiongorora zviitiko uye zvinoonekwa. Inoda "kusanyarara zvakadaro" uye nudges yekutaura inoita kuti vanhu ava vasagadzikana. "Ngatinyarare - izvi ndizvo zvatinoda kuti tifare," munyori anotaura nezve extroverts. "Mushure menguva inodiwa kugadzirisa ruzivo uye kubhadharisa, isu tichazodzokera kwauri kuti hurukuro ienderere mberi."

10. Kuzvimirira

Vekutanga uye vakazvimiririra zvakanyanya, vazivisi vanowanzorega zviwanikwa zvavo zvemukati zvivatungamirire pane kutevera mhomho. Vanoshanda zvakanyanya uye vanonzwa kufara kana vaine rusununguko. Vanoda kuzvimiririra uye kuzvimiririra uye kuita zvinhu zvavo.

11. Upenyu huri nyore

Jen Granneman anotsanangura hupenyu hwakabatikana hweshamwari yake yaaida — anozvipira pachikoro, anotarisira mhuri yake, anoronga kuungana, zvese mukuwedzera kubasa rake rezuva. “Somunhu anozivisa, handisati ndaizotongorarama murudungwe rwakadaro,” iye anotsinhira kudaro, “upenyu hwakasiana hunondikodzera zviri nani: bhuku rakanaka, kupera kwevhiki kwousimbe, kurukurirano ine revo neshamwari—ndizvo zvinondifadza.”

12. Rudo uye kugamuchirwa kubva kune vadiwa

An introvert haazombove anonyanya kufarirwa munhu mumba. Muboka guru ravanhu, angasatongocherekedzwa, sezvo anokombamira kuramba ari shure. Nekudaro, sevamwe vese, vazivisi vanoda vanhu vepedyo uye vane rudo - avo vanoona kukosha kwavo, vanovatarisira uye vanovagamuchira nezvose zvavo quirks.

"Tinoziva kuti dzimwe nguva zvakaoma nesu - hapana akakwana. Pamunotida uye muchitigamuchira sezvatiri, unoita kuti upenyu hwedu hufadze zvikuru,” anopedzisa kudaro Jen Granneman.

Nezve Munyori: Jen Granneman ndiye munyori weChakavanzika Hupenyu hweIntroverts.