Vakadzi vazhinji, vaona kushungurudzwa kwemumwe wavo, vanopika kwavari kuti havazombosangana nemurume akadaro chero chinhu chiri munyika ... uye mushure menguva yakati vanozoona kuti vakawira mumusungo mumwe chete. Nzira yekunzwisisa sei mberi kuti une mudzvinyiriri pamberi pako?
Chokwadi, hapana mukadzi angada kuitirwa chisimba. Uye kamwe muhukama hwakadaro hune chepfu, zviri kure nekukasika kusarudza kuzvibvuma kwaari. Maererano nenhamba dzeAmerica, semuenzaniso, vakadzi chete mushure me5-7 nyaya dzechisimba vanosarudza kusiya mudiwa wavo, uye mumwe munhu haatombotyi. Uye vazhinji, mushure mechinguva, zvakare vanowira mumusungo iwoyo. Asi zvaigona kudziviswa.
Heano masaini ari pachena engozi anofanirwa kutizivisa nekukurumidza, sekureva memo yeAmerican Women's Center.
1. Pakutanga kwehukama, anomanikidza zvinhu. Hausati wava nenguva yekutarira shure, uye anotovimbisa nechido kuti: “Hapana akambondida sewe!” uye zvinokumanikidzai kuti mugare pamwe chete.
2. Anogara aine godo. Iye muridzi anotyisa, anokudana asingaperi kana usingatarisire anouya kwauri pasina yambiro.
3. Anoda kutonga zvinhu zvose. Mudiwa wako anoramba achikubvunza zvawaitaura neshamwari dzako, kwawanga uri, anotarisa maira emotokari yako, anotarisira mari yakawanda, anoda cheki yekutenga, anoda kukumbirwa mvumo yekuenda kumwe kana kuita chimwe chinhu.
4. Ane zvaanotarisira zvisingaitiki kwauri. Anotarisira kuti uve wakakwana muzvinhu zvose uye kuti ugutse zvaanoda.
5. Isu tiri toga. Anoda kukuparadzanisa neshamwari nemhuri, haakutendere kushandisa foni yako kana mota, haakuregi uchitsvaga basa.
6. Anopomera vamwe kukanganisa kwake. Mukuru wake, mhuri, shamwari - chero munhu kunze kwake ane mhosva kana chimwe chinhu chikatadza.
7. Vamwe vanhu vane mutoro nokuda kwokunzwa kwake. Anoti "Wanditsamwisa" pane kuti "ndakatsamwa". "Handingatsamwe zvakanyanya kana iwe usina ..."
8. Anonyanya kufunga. Anogumburwa nokuda kwechikonzero chipi nechipi uye anoronga zviono nokuda kwokusaruramisira kuduku uko upenyu hwakazara nako.
9. Ane utsinye kumhuka nevana. Anoranga zvisina tsitsi kana kutouraya mhuka. Kubva kuvana, anogona kurayira kuti vavakurira simba, kana kuti kuvatsvinyira, achivaunza misodzi.
10. Anofarira kutamba chisimba pamubhedha. Semuyenzaniso, kanda mudiwa kumashure kana kumubata panzvimbo nechisimba achipikisa kuda kwake. Anomutswa nefungidziro dzekubatwa chibharo. Anokumanikidza - nechisimba kana kunyengera - kuita chimwe chinhu chausina kugadzirira.
11. Anoshandisa chisimba chemashoko. Anogara achikutsoropodza kana kutaura chimwe chinhu chisingafadzi: anokuzvidza, anokutuka, anokudana mazita, anoyeuka nguva dzinorwadza kubva pane zvakaitika kare kana zvazvino, uchivimbisa kuti iwe pachako une mhosva yezvose.
12. Ndiye mutsigiri wemabasa akaomarara echikadzi muhukama. Unofanira kumushumira, nokumuteerera, nokugara mumba;
13. Chimiro chake chinochinja zvikuru. Iye zvino akanga ane rudo uye ane rudo - uye kamwe kamwe anowira mukutsamwa.
14. Aimboshandisa chisimba. Anobvuma kuti munguva yakapfuura akasimudza ruoko rwake kune mumwe mukadzi, asi anotsanangura izvi nemamiriro ezvinhu kana kuti anovimbisa kuti munhu akabatwa pachake ndiye akamuunza.
15. Anotyisidzira nechisimba. Semuenzaniso, anogona kuti: "Ndichavhuna mutsipa wako!", Asi ipapo achavimbisa kuti haana kutaura zvakanyanya.
Zvishoma, zviratidzo izvi zvinoratidza kuti mudiwa wako ane dambudziko rekushungurudzwa mupfungwa. Asi nemukana wakakwirira, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare ichakura kuva yemuviri.