Mukati
Patinosangana nemunhu watingagona kufambidzana naye uye tikatanga hukama naye, zvingaita sekuti isu takasangana "munhu mumwechete", magumo edu. Uyo watakagadzirira kupedza naye upenyu hwedu hwose. Asi nekufamba kwenguva, zvinogona kuitika kuti mudiwa wacho haana kukodzera zvachose kwatiri. Isu takararama muhusungwa hwekunyepa uye zvirongwa zveramangwana rakanaka, asi muchokwadi isu tiri vanhu vakasiyana zvachose. Nzira yekunzwisisa sei kuti izvi ndizvo chaizvo?
Kana kuedza kwose kuvandudza ukama hwemhuri kukakundikana, zvibvunze umene mubvunzo: zvakakodzera here kuponesa muchato? Hongu, isu takajaira kufunga kuti zvakakosha kuita chero zvipi, asi chii chinogona kutungamira kune? Zvichida - kune chokwadi chokuti kutambura uye kusagutsikana nehupenyu hwemhuri zvichakura chete. Hedzino dzimwe nguva dzaunofanirwa kunge uchifunga zvakakomba kurambana.
1. Upenyu munhandare yehondo “nokuchengetedza mhuri nokuda kwomwana”
Mamiriro ezvinhu umo kuroorana kwakavakirwa chete pakurerwa kwemwana wakabatanidzwa, uye ukama hwevabereki hunosiya zvakawanda zvingadiwa. Kusawirirana kuri kuramba kuchikura, kupomerana, kushaikwa kwezvido zvakajairika zuva nezuva zvinopisa mamiriro epamba uye zvinoita kuti vagare vachipopotedzana uye kunyombana. Vakaroorana vose vari vaviri vanotambura nokusagutsikana muukama hwemhuri uye havanzwi vachidiwa uye havanzwi vachidiwa.
Mwana pachake anokura munharaunda isina kunaka yekukakavadzana nguva dzose pakati pevanoda. Nekuda kweizvi, mukuyaruka, anogona kusangana nematambudziko epfungwa uye kugadzira muenzaniso wakashata wekuvaka hukama mune ramangwana.
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, zvakakosha zvikuru kuzvibvunza mubvunzo wekuti zvakakosha here kuchengetedza imba, uye zvakanyanya kukosha, nei. Kana kukurudzira kuri mwana chete, saka kazhinji hazvina kukodzera: pakupedzisira, anotambura chete. Kana vabereki vose vachida kuvaka hukama, zvakakosha kutama kubva kune baba-amai vemuenzaniso wemhuri kuenda kumurume-mukadzi muenzaniso. Kana makakatanwa apera, pangava nenzvimbo yokufara uye kunzwa kutsva nokuda kwomumwe nomumwe.
2. Kusurukirwa mune vakaroorana
Mamiriro ezvinhu apo mumwe mudiwa asingagoni kuvimba nechechipiri, nokuti mumwe, mumwe, aneye chete "mumufaro nehupfumi", asi kwete mu "chirwere nehurombo". Nezvinetso zvose zvakakomba unofanira kurarama uri woga. Nokufamba kwenguva, mudiwa anodzivisa matambudziko anotanga kuomesa hupenyu hwechipiri chechipiri, sekunge kumuedza simba. Manzwiro ari kubuda outera anomutsa hasha nechishuvo chokuratidzira ukuru hwake amene, uye nokuda kwaikoku kuri madikanwa kuti mudiwa akundikane.
Zvakakodzera here kugara muhukama uhwu? Mumhuri zvakakosha kubatanidza zviwanikwa kuti muzadzise zvinangwa zvakafanana, uye kwete kutora mukana weumwe neumwe, kusimuka kana pane chakaipa.
3. Kunzwa kuti kusiya kuchaita kuti zvinhu zvitonyanya kuipa.
Zvinoitika kuti mudiwa - kazhinji mukadzi - anotungamirirwa nekutya kuti kusiya kunongowedzera mamiriro acho ezvinhu, kumutsa hasha uye kutambudzwa. Uye kutya uku kwakakura kwazvo zvokuti nyakubatwa chibharo anoramba ari muukama nemubati chibharo, achiedza kuzadzisa zvose zvinodiwa kuti asashatirisa mukwanyina anokurumidza kutsamwa.
Kubuda mumamiriro emhirizhonga mudzimba kwakakosha, asi zvakakosha kuti uchengetedze kuchengetedzwa kwako pachine nguva.
4. Gasi jetting
Mamiriro ezvinhu apo mumwe mudiwa anoita kuti mumwe asava nechokwadi nezvehutano hwavo hwepfungwa. Zvishoma nezvishoma, kudzvinyirirwa kunowedzera, uye munhu anenge atambudzwa anotanga kunzwa kuti chokwadi "hachizi mache", uye murwi anopfuudza zviito zvake zvisina kukwana sechinyakare. Semuenzaniso, mudzimai anogona kuona kuti murume wake ane mhuri yakasiyana - ine vana, zvirongwa zvekubatana uye zviroto. Haisi iyo chete mamiriro ezvinhu pachayo asingafadzi, asiwo mudiwa anogona kuvimbisa mudzimai wake kuti zviri kuitika ndezvechokwadi.
5. Mhosva uye manzwiro ekuti unogara uine chikwereti kune mumwe wako
Hupenyu hunokanda miyedzo yakasiyana siyana pamhuri. Vamwe vadyidzani vanokunda zvakatsiga chero matambudziko uye matambudziko, vanokura uye vova vakasimba. Asi zvinoitikawo kuti mamiriro ezvinhu anosuruvarisa anova nzira yekunyengera: “Dai pasina iwe, ndaizo … ” Munhu anoitwa kuti afunge kuti mumwe wake nokuda kwake akasiya chimwe chinhu chinokosha uye iye zvino ane chikwereti chakadzika.
Kutsungirira kuva nemhaka kunoderedza kuzviremekedza, uye upenyu zvishoma nezvishoma hunova husingatsungiririki zvachose. Sezvakaitika kare, kurambana mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro inova nzira chete yekubuda nayo, asi zviri nani kugadzirira nzira yako yekudzokera mberi, pasina kumirira nguva iyo mukombe wekushivirira unoputika uye iwe unofanira kuenda "pasina".
Anna Nine
Psychologist
Nyanzvi yepfungwa dzemhuri, psychotherapist.
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