Mukati
Shoko rinotyisa - kupandukira! Nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare, "inonzwika" muhupenyu hwe25% yevakaroorana vaionekwa sevakasimba. Uye vaongorori vanotenda kuti fungidziro iyi ingangove isingatarisirwe zvakanyanya. Asi kutengesa kwakasiyana. Kubva mukutsiva, kusavimbika kwe serial, uye vamwe "vagari" venyika yehupombwe - vese havaregererwi zvakaenzana here?
Kazhinji vadikani havazivi nezve adventures yehafu yechipiri, dzimwe nguva ivo vanoziva nezvemitambo iri kumashure kwavo, dzimwe nguva vari kukahadzika kana vachitenda nzeve dzavo, maziso uye intuition. Asi patinowana ufakazi hwakaoma hwokusavimbika, tinofanira kuzvibvunza timene, kuti: “Ndinogona kukanganwira mumwe munhu akanditengesa here? Uye chii chandinofanira kuita ikozvino, kana ichirwadza zvisingatsungiririki mukati uye tariro yese yadonha?
Usati wasarudza chero chinhu, unofanirwa kunzwisisa kuti rudzii rwekusavimbika rwauri kutarisana narwo. Karin naRobert Sternberg, nyanzvi dzepfungwa kubva kuCornell University (USA), vane chokwadi chekuti kubiridzira kwakasiyana. Uye iwe uchagara uine nguva yekupararira - kunyanya kana paine chikonzero cheizvi.
Seri cheaters
Munhu akadaro anogara akarinda, anogara achitsvaga chiitiko. Pamisangano muhofisi, parwendo rwebhizimisi, pabhawa neshamwari, uye kunyange munzira yekuenda kuchitoro - achawana nzira yekusiyanisa tsika yacho nechinhu chiduku (kana kunyange hutsinye).
Dzimwe nguva zvinoita sekunge serial cheaters vanenge vatora. Chete ivo havatore zvitambi nemari, asi moyo. Iwe unogona kuvatyisidzira nekurambana, kuvaranga nenzira ipi zvayo, kuita mhirizhonga paruzhinji - zvinosuruvarisa, izvi hazvigoneki kutungamirira kune chero chinhu. Zvakaoma zvikuru kuti vanhu vakadaro vachinje maitiro avo. Pane nzira mbiri dzekubuda: jaira kuti hausi iwe wega kwaari, kana kugumisa hukama.
Kuwana "nyanzvi" yakadaro haisi nyore, asi kuchine zviratidzo zvekuti uri kutungamirirwa nemhino. Chekutanga, serial cheaters chengetedza mhinduro yakagadzirira chero yemibvunzo yako yakaoma. Nguva nenguva vanovhiringidzika muuchapupu, uye nezuro iyi mhinduro yaiva imwe ("Ndakafamba imbwa yaamai vangu!"), Uye nhasi zvakasiyana zvachose ("Ndakadyisa katsi yemuvakidzani wedu!").
Uyezve, vanhu vakadaro vanoshandurwa zvinoshamisa kana mutorwa anoyevedza akaonekwa mukambani: vanoedza kukwezva kutarisa, kuratidza hunyanzvi uye hunyanzvi. Uye kazhinji vanononoka kubasa. Kungoti shefu vanongogara vachikanda mareport apo vanhu vese vave kuda kuenda kumba.
Zvinowanzoitika kuti munhu wese akatenderedza anoziva kuti mumwe wako ari kufamba kuruboshwe, uye iwe chete hausi kurara kana mweya. Kana usina chokwadi, bvunza pamusoro pekufungira kwako kune vaanoshanda navo kana vaanozivana navo: pamwe ruzivo rutsva ruchavhura maziso ako.
One night stand vadikani
Vanyengeri vakadaro havakwanisi kushamwaridzana kwenguva refu kune rumwe rutivi, asi ivo vachafara kutora mukana wekurara nemunhu aripo. Ndiani wavakasangana naye pamutambo, kana kunwa zvakanyanya pamutambo wekambani.
Vanhu ava havasi kunyatsotsvaga adventure. Asi kana vapiwa mukana wekuchinja, havanyatsopikisa uye vanokurumidza kurega pasi pekumanikidzwa kwe "aggressor". Vanoshandura vakadaro havasi nyore kubata pane "zvinopisa". Asi zvirokwazvo haufanirwe kutarisira kutendeka kusingagumi kubva kwavari.
Ropa reropa
Zvinoitika zvakare kuti kupandukira kunova chombo chaicho chekutsiva. Muchiitiko ichi, hazvina basa kana uyo asina kutendeka ane manzwiro kune wechitatu: anonyanya kutungamirirwa nehasha kune mumwe wake. Mukunzwisisa kwake, nheyo yokuti “ziso neziso, zino nezino” ndeyechokwadi paukama hworudo.
Chinangwa chevanhu vanotsiva pahafu yavo nerubatsiro rwekusavimbika ndechokupa chiyero (mukunzwisisa kwavo, hongu!) Mhinduro kune zviito zvehafu iyoyo.
Ivo nokudaro vanogona “kudzorera” nokuda kwenovhero, asi chipi nechipi chigumbuso chichavasundira kuupombwe. Zvinoshamisa, asi hazvisi zvekumwe kukuvara chaiko: dzimwe nguva vanobatana vanotsiva zvichemo zvekunyepedzera. Kana kuti vanongozviita nekuti, mukuona kwavo, "vanokodzera zvirinani".
Zvakakomba uye kwenguva refu
Vamwe vanodanana zvinotora mwedzi kana makore. Zvechokwadi, vanowana chimwe chinhu kubva muukama uhwu - uye chero chii chiri, nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero vane chokwadi chokuti iwe, mudiwa wavo, haungakwanisi kuvapa.
Neiko avo vane “spare” mhuri iri parutivi kwenguva refu vasingaendi? Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda. Iyi ndiyo njodzi yekubhadhara alimony yakakura, uye zvitendero zvechitendero (izvo, zvisinei, hazvidzivise kuchinja). Vanhu vakawanda vanofunga kuti kana vakarambana, “vacharasikirwa” nevana vavo.
Vamwe vavo vane chokwadi chokuti vanogona kuda vanhu vaviri panguva imwe chete. Mumwe munhu haatendi kuti hukama hwepadivi kazhinji hunounza imwe mhando yekutyisidzira kuhukama hukuru. Nyaya iripo ndeyekuti isu vamwe vavo tingasatenderane nazvo.
Ukuwo, vakawanda vanobatsirwa no“kusaziva” kuti mumwe wavo ari kurarama upenyu huviri. Kana iwe usingadi kuisa pangozi ropafadzo, unogona kurarama nemhando iyi yekubiridzira mudiwa kwenguva yakareba.
Vakabatwa nemamiriro ezvinhu
Nehurombo, dzimwe nguva vatinoshanda navo vanova vanyajambwa vemhirizhonga kana hunhu husina kunaka hwenhengo yechitatu yetatu. Zvinoitika kuti ivo, nechishuwo chavo chose, havagoni kuramba bonde. Zvichida vanotyiswa nechimwe chinhu, havana simba rokudzivisa. Kana vasina kubvuma nokuzvidira kuita zvepabonde, vanoda kutsigirwa, kwete kupiwa mhosva.
kusavimbika mupfungwa
Asi kupandukira hakutarisirwi nebonde chete. Zvinoitika kuti vatinonamata navo havabatane nemumwe munhu zvachose, vachisarudza kugara kure. Manzwiro anogona kukurumidza kusimuka uye nekukasira kupera - kana anogona kupfungaira kwemakore, achitsigira moto wekupengeswa mupfungwa.
Uyo anobata pfungwa nezviroto zvemudikanwi arikubvisa zvishoma nezvishoma kubva mune ramangwana rake. Zvinoitika kuti kana mumwe wako ari pedyo newe, chaizvoizvo, haasi pedyo zvachose. Uye kunyangwe kana kudanana kukaitika paInternet, mumakamuri ekutaura kana mumutambo wepamhepo, pasina kuyerera muchokwadi, zvinogona kukonzera kurwadziwa chaiko.
Chokwadika, hatigoni kudzora zvizere mirangariro, mifungo, uye zviito zvomumwe. Asi iwe unogona kutaura pakutanga kwehukama chii chaizvo chaunofunga kubiridzira. Zvinoita here kuti mumwe wako ataure nemumwe waunoshanda naye? Unogona kutyaira shamwari kumba pashure pemusangano here? Chii chauchaita kana iwe uchinzwa sokuda mumwe munhu zvakanyanya?
Nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare, anenge munhu wose ari muukama hwenguva refu anowana mukana wekuchinja. Uye kuzvishandisa kana kusazvisarudzira munhu wese.