Mukati
- 1. Mushure mekurambana, unotsvaka kunzwisisa zviri nani kuti hukama hunoshanda sei.
- 2. Kana uchida rubatsiro, unoenda kunorapwa.
- 3. Hauteveri tambo yehukama hwakakundikana.
- 4. Unotambura mushure mekurambana uye zvichida kuzvipa mhosva.
- 5. Unokwanisa kukumbira ruregerero zvechokwadi.
- 6. Hauteveri hupenyu hweawaimbova wako nekuramba uchipenga.
- 7. Unoverenga chinyorwa ichi
Kune zvakawanda zvakanyorwa uye kutaurwa nezve narcissists nhasi zvekuti vamwe vedu tinoshamisika kana ivo pachavo vanogona kuverengerwa muchikamu ichi, kunyanya kana paine nhoroondo yehukama hwehupfu uye kubuda mavari. Kana chimwe chinhu chisina kumira zvakanaka muvaviri, tinowanzovhiringidzika zvokuti hatichanzwisisi kuti tiri vanaani. Heano masaini mashoma ekubatsira kuti uve nechokwadi chekuti hausi narcissist.
Ko narcissist anogara mune mumwe nemumwe wedu here? Kusvika kumwero wakati, uye muupenyu hwezuva nezuva, hungu. Uye izvi hazvina kuipa: kuzvivimba uye kuzvikudza kwepamusoro hakuna kumbopindira chero munhu. Panguva imwecheteyo, munhu anofanira kunzwisisa kuti vanhu vanotambura zvechokwadi ne narcissistic personality disorder vanogadziriswa ivo pachavo uye havakwanisi kufunga nezvemanzwiro evamwe.
Mushure mekurambana kwakaoma, zviri nyore kutanga kuzvifungira chero chinhu, kusanganisira narcissism. Kwakanga kuri pamusoro pedu chaizvoizvo here? Zvakadiniko kana tikanyanyofunga nezvedu timene ndokurega kunzwa mumwe wedu? Heano zviratidzo zvinomwe izvo, pakurambana, zvichakubatsira kuti unzwisise kuti iwe hausi narcissist uye izvi zvakanga zvisiri zvachose chikonzero chekurambana.
1. Mushure mekurambana, unotsvaka kunzwisisa zviri nani kuti hukama hunoshanda sei.
Mushure mekurambana, unoedza kufunga kuti chii chakaitika uye nei, kuti unzwisise kuti zvakatanga zvakanaka zvakaguma sei zvakashata. Unonyura mukuverenga mabhuku uye kutaura nenyanzvi. Mukuwedzera, iwe unoda kuziva chikonzero nei uri mumarwadzo akadaro uye kurwadziwa ikozvino. Narcissus, kune rumwe rutivi, haafariri zvachose kuongorora mune izvi zvose - anoziva kuti akaita zvose zvakanaka, uye dambudziko raiva mumudiwa.
2. Kana uchida rubatsiro, unoenda kunorapwa.
Paunenge uchinzwa zvakaipa, unotsvaka rubatsiro, uye narcissists kazhinji havaiti. Kana narcissist zvakadaro anotanga kuenda ku psychotherapy, saka chaizvo kusvikira aona kuti murapi "haana" akanaka zvakakwana, akachenjera, anonzwisisa. Kana kusvika anzwa kuti nyanzvi yave kuda kumufumura.
3. Hauteveri tambo yehukama hwakakundikana.
Zvingangodaro, iwe unotova neruzivo rwekuparadzana shure kwako. Makambodanana paya pane chakaipa. Kune narcissists, mamiriro akafanana anodzokororwa muhukama hwese. Sezvo ivo vasingakwanisi rudo uye panguva imwe chete vachigara vachida kuzvisimbisa uye kunamatwa, havakwanisi kuvaka hukama hwepedyo. Kwenguva yakati, dzinoputika, dzichinyepedzera kuva dzakapfava uye dzine rudo, asi dzinowanzoita mhute dzisati dzafumurwa.
4. Unotambura mushure mekurambana uye zvichida kuzvipa mhosva.
Kuwedzera kufunganya, kufuratira, kutya uye kunyange paranoia - kuparara kwakaoma kwevazhinji vedu hakuendi kusingaonekwe. Zvinotora nguva kuti upedze. Zvingangodaro, iwe unotya kumhanyira kune imwe nzvimbo netsaona newaimbova shamwari yako - kunyangwe munzvimbo dzakavhurika dzesocial network. Chero kutaurwa nezvake kunokugumbura.
Panguva imwecheteyo, uri kuedza kuongororazve maitiro ako uye basa rako muukama, kuti unzwisise zvawakakanganisa uye kana zvaikwanisika kuita zvakasiyana kuitira kuchengetedza mubatanidzwa. Idzi nguva dzakanyanya kukosha kugadzirisa kuitira kuti dzirege kukutadzisa kuvaka hukama hutsva.
Narcissists, kune rumwe rutivi, vanoona imwe yemanzwiro maviri mushure mekurambana: mufaro kana ivo pachavo vakasiya mumwe wavo mushure mokunge vasangana nemumwe munhu "zviri nani", kana kutsamwa kana vakarambana navo. Kana ego yake ikakuvadzwa, narcissist anogona kushushikana nepfungwa yekutsiva, saka mushure mekurambana, iwe unofanirwa kugara kure naye.
5. Unokwanisa kukumbira ruregerero zvechokwadi.
Kunyange kana narcissist akakumbira ruregerero, haatungamirirwi nekuzvidemba zvachose, asi nerumwe rudzi rwekuzvifarira. Asi vanobatana narcissists vanofanira kukumbira ruregerero nguva dzose - nokuda kweizvi, kune imwe, yechitatu, uye dzimwe nguva kunyange kuzviita kuitira kuchengetedza rugare mumhuri.
6. Hauteveri hupenyu hweawaimbova wako nekuramba uchipenga.
Nguva yekutanga mushure mekurambana, vazhinji vedu tinonyura mukati mehupenyu hweaimbova mudiwa, asi kune narcisists, iyi "nguva yekutanga" haiperi. Uye hakusi kuti narcissist achiri kuda munhu uyu (zvichida, haazivi kuda zvachose), inongova nzira yake yekuzvisimbisa.
Zvakakosha kuti murairi aone kuti anogona kudzosa mumwe wake kana achida. Dzimwe nguva kuedza kuita izvi kunopfuurira kwemakore. Chikonzero chega chekuramba uchisangana nemunhu akadaro kana uine vana vaainavo.
7. Unoverenga chinyorwa ichi
Zviripachena, asi zvakadaro: narcissist haaverenge zvinyorwa nezve narcissism - nekuda kwekuti anoda zvese nezvake, uye hapana chikonzero chekushanda paari. Saka, zvichida, kana iwe wakaverenga chinyorwa ichi kusvika kumagumo, muedzo wakabudirira kubudirira.