Chishuvo chemumwe wevadyidzani kupedza mazororo avo zvakasiyana chinogona kukonzera kutsamwa uye kusanzwisisana mune imwe. Asi chiitiko chakadaro chinogona kubatsira kumutsiridza hukama, inodaro nyanzvi yeBritish Psychologies Sylvia Tenenbaum.
Linda anogara achitarisira vhiki yake yezororo. Mazuva masere ari oga, asina vana, asina murume waagara naye kwemakore makumi matatu. Mune zvirongwa: masaja, rwendo kuenda kumuseum, kufamba mumakomo. “Chii chinoita kuti ufare,” anodaro.
Vachitevedzera muenzaniso waLinda, vakaroorana vakawanda vanosarudza kupedza mazororo avo vakaparadzana. Mazuva mashoma, vhiki, pamwe akawanda. Uyu mukana wekutora nguva uye uve wega newe.
Siyana netsika
“Zvakanaka chaizvo kuva pakati pevarume, tisina upenyu tose,” anotsanangura kudaro Sebastian ane makore 30 okukura. Kana mukana ukangovapo, anoenda kwevhiki aine shamwari. Iye nemudzimai wake Florence vave nemakore maviri vari pamwe chete, asi zvakamupoteredza uye maitiro anoita seakadzikama uye ane mwero kwaari.
Kuparadzana nemaitiro akajairwa, vaviri vacho vanoita sevanodzokera padanho rekutanga rehukama: kufona, tsamba.
Mumwe nemumwe ane zvaanoda. Hazvifanirwe kugovaniswa pakati pevadikani. Ndiko kunaka kwekusarurana. Asi kunewo ukoshi hukuru, anodaro chiremba wendangariro Sylvia Tenenbaum: “Patinogara pamwe chete, tinovamba kuzvikanganwa timene. Tinodzidza kupatsanura zvinhu zvose zviviri. Asi mumwe wacho haagoni kutipa zvose zvatinoda. Zvimwe zvishuwo zvinoramba zvisingagutsikane. " Kuparadzana nemaitiro anowanzoitwa, vaviri vacho vanoita sevanodzokera padanho rekutanga rehukama: kufona, tsamba, kunyange zvakanyorwa nemaoko - nei? Kana mudiwa asipo, zvinoita kuti tinzwe nguva dzehushamwari zvakanyanya.
Tora
Pamakore makumi mana, Jeanne anoda kufamba ega. Ave akaroorwa kwemakore 40, uye muhafu yenguva yaakaenda kuzororo ari oga. “Pandinenge ndiine murume wangu, ndinonzwa hukama hwakadzama naye. Asi pandinoenda kuzororo, ndinofanira kusiya nyika yangu, basa, uye kunyange kwaari. Ndinofanira kuzorora uye kupora." Murume wake anoomerwa nokubvuma. "Aive makore asati aona kuti ndakanga ndisiri kuedza kutiza."
Kazhinji mazororo nemazororo ndiyo nguva yatinopira kune mumwe nemumwe. Asi Sylvia Tenenbaum anodavira kuti zvakafanira kuparadzana nguva nenguva: “Kufema kwemhepo. Hazvirevi hazvo chikonzero chekuti mhepo iri muvaviri yave inokachidza. Inongobvumira iwe kuti uzorore uye upedze nguva uri wega iwe pachako. Pakupedzisira, tinozviwana tava kudzidza kukoshesa upenyu pamwe chete zvikuru.”
Tsvaga izwi rako zvakare
Kune vamwe vakaroorana, iyi sarudzo haibvumirwi. Ko kana iye (iye) akawana mumwe munhu ari nani, vanofunga. Chii chinonzi kusavimbana? “Zvinosuruvarisa,” anodaro Sylvia Tenenbaum. "Muvaviri, zvakakosha kuti munhu wese azvide, azvizive uye akwanise kurarama zvakasiyana, kunze kwekunge nehukama hwepedyo nemudiwa."
Zororo rakapatsanurwa - mukana wekuzviona patsva
Mafungiro aya anotsinhirwawo naSarah ane makore makumi maviri nematatu. Ave nemakore matanhatu ari murudo. Zhizha rino, ari kuenda neshamwari kwemavhiki maviri, apo mudiwa wake anoenda kuEurope neshamwari. “Pandinoenda ndisina murume wangu, ndinonzwa ndakasunungukaSara anobvuma. - Ndinovimba neni chete uye ndinochengeta account kwandiri chete. Ndinowedzera kushinga."
Zororo rakasiyana ndiyo mukana wekuzvibvisa zvishoma kubva kune mumwe nemumwe, chaizvoizvo uye nenzira yekufananidzira. Mukana wokuzviwana zvakare, chiyeuchidzo chokuti hatidi mumwe munhu kuti aone kukwana kwedu. “Hatidi nemhaka yokuti tinoda,” anogumisa kudaro Sylvia Tenenbaum. Tinoda nokuti tinoda.