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Munguva yedu, apo munhu wese anoda kukurumidza kuwana akavimbiswa maminitsi gumi nemashanu emukurumbira uye kurova nyika, blogger Mark Manson akanyora rwiyo kune mediocrity. Nei zvakaoma kusamutsigira?

Chinhu chinonakidza: hatigone kuita pasina mifananidzo yemagamba. VaGiriki nevaRoma vekare vaiva nengano pamusoro pevanhu vanofa vanokwanisa kupikisa vamwari uye kuita zvishamiso. MuEurope yeMiddle Ages kwaive nengano dzevarwi vasingatyi kana kushorwa, kuuraya madhiragoni uye kununura machinda. Tsika dzese dzine sarudzo yenyaya dzakadai.

Nhasi tinofemerwa nemagamba makuru ebhuku rekomiki. Tora Superman. Uyu ndimwari ari muchimiro chemunhu mune tight yeblue nekabudura dzvuku, akapfeka pamusoro. Haakundiki uye haafi. Mupfungwa, akakwana somumuviri. Munyika yake, zvakanaka nezvakaipa zvakasiyana sechena uye dema, uye Superman haana kumbokanganisa.

Ndingaite nharo ndichiti tinoda magamba aya kuti arwise kunzwa kwekushaya zvekuita. Pane vanhu mabhiriyoni 7,2 pasi pano, uye vanenge 1000 chete ndivo vane simba repasi rose panguva ipi zvayo. Izvi zvinoreva kuti nhoroondo dzehupenyu hwevanhu vasara vanomwe vangangoreva chinhu kunhoroondo, uye izvi hazvisi nyore kugamuchira.

Saka ndinoda kuterera kune mediocrity. Kwete sechinangwa: isu tose tinofanira kuyedza kuita zvakanaka, asi sekugona kuenderana nekuti isu ticharamba tiri vanhuwo zvavo, zvisinei nekuti tinoedza sei. Hupenyu kubvumirana. Mumwe munhu anopihwa mubairo wenjere dzedzidzo. Vamwe vakasimba mumuviri, vamwe vanogadzira. Mumwe ari sexy. Chokwadi, kubudirira kunoenderana nenhamburiko, asi isu tinozvarwa tiine hunyanzvi uye kugona kwakasiyana.

Kuti unyatsogona pane chimwe chinhu, unofanirwa kutsaurira nguva yako yese nesimba kwachiri, uye izvo zvishoma.

Munhu wose ane zvaanogona nezvaasingagoni. Asi mazhinji anoratidza avhareji mhedzisiro munzvimbo zhinji. Kunyange kana uine tarenda pachimwe chinhu—masvomhu, tambo dzokusvetuka-svetuka, kana kuti kutengeserana nezvombo zvepasi pevhu—zvikasadaro, ungangove uri pakati nepakati kana kuti uri pasi peavhareji.

Kuti ubudirire mune chimwe chinhu, iwe unofanirwa kupa nguva yako yese nesimba rako rose kwairi, uye ivo vanogumira. Naizvozvo, vashomanene chete ndivo vakatanhamara munharaunda yavo yakasarudzwa yebasa, tisingadudzi nzvimbo dzinoverengeka panguva imwe chete.

Hapana munhu mumwe chete paPasi anogona kubudirira munzvimbo dzese dzehupenyu, hazvigoneke pahuwandu. Supermen havapo. Vanamuzvinabhizinesi vanobudirira kazhinji havana hupenyu hwega, shasha dzepasirese hadzinyore mapepa esainzi. Vazhinji vanoratidza nyanzvi dzezvemabhizimisi havana nzvimbo yavo pachavo uye vanowanzopindwa muropa. Vazhinji vedu tiri vanhuwo zvavo. Tinozviziva, asi kashoma kufunga kana kutaura nezvazvo.

Vazhinji havazomboiti chero chinhu chakatanhamara. Uye zvakanaka! Vakawanda vanotya kugamuchira mediocrity yavo pachavo, nokuti vanotenda kuti nenzira iyi havazombofi vakawana chero chinhu uye hupenyu hwavo hucharasikirwa nezvahunoreva.

Kana ukavavarira kuva akakurumbira zvikuru, uchatambudzwa nokusurukirwa.

Ndinofunga iyi inzira ine ngozi yekufunga. Kana zvichiita kwauri kuti hupenyu hwakajeka uye hukuru chete ndihwo hwakakodzera kurarama, uri munzira inotsvedza. Kubva pakuona uku, munhu wese waunopfuura waunosangana naye hapana.

Zvisinei, vanhu vakawanda vanofunga zvakasiyana. Vanonetseka vachiti: “Kana ndikarega kudavira kuti handina kufanana nevamwe vose, hapana chandingakwanisa kuita. Handizove nekukurudzirwa kushanda pachangu. Zviri nani kufunga kuti ndiri mumwe wevashoma vachachinja nyika. "

Kana iwe uchida kuve wakangwara uye nekubudirira kupfuura vamwe, iwe unogara uchinzwa sekunge wakundikana. Uye kana ukavavarira kuva akakurumbira zvikuru, uchatambudzwa nokusurukirwa. Kana iwe ukarota simba risingagumi, iwe uchatambudzwa nemafungiro ekushaya simba.

Mashoko okuti “Munhu wose akangwara neimwe nzira” anonyaradza kusava namaturo kwedu. Chikafu chekukurumidza chepfungwa - chinonaka asi chisina hutano, macalorie asina chinhu anoita kuti unzwe kuzvimba mupfungwa.

Nzira yehutano hwepfungwa, pamwe chete nehutano hwepanyama, inotanga nekudya kunovaka muviri. Chiedza saladhi "Ndiri mugariwo zvake wepasi" uye broccoli shoma kune vaviri "Hupenyu hwangu hwakafanana nehwevamwe vese." Hongu, isina kunaka. Ndinoda kuisvipa pakarepo.

Asi kana iwe ukagona kuigaya, muviri unozowedzera toned uye kuonda. Kushungurudzika, kushushikana, chido chekuda kukwana zvinopera uye iwe uchakwanisa kuita zvaunoda pasina kuzvitsoropodza uye tarisiro huru.

Iwe uchanakidzwa nezvinhu zviri nyore, dzidza kuyera hupenyu pachiyero chakasiyana: kusangana neshamwari, kuverenga bhuku raunofarira, kufamba mupaki, joke rakanaka ...

Chii chibore, handiti? Pashure pezvose, mumwe nomumwe wedu anazvo. Asi pamwe icho chinhu chakanaka. Mushure mezvose, izvi zvakakosha.

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