Mukati
Ko chiremba wepfungwa angashandura sei maitiro ekunamatira atakakura nawo? Kuneta mupfungwa kungadziviswa sei? Nzira yekuwana sei mutauro wakafanana nevana vari kukura uye vabereki vakwegura? Mhinduro kumibvunzo iyi nemimwe inogona kuwanikwa mumabhuku kubva pakusarudza kwedu kutsva.
"The Sandwich Generation"
Svetlana Komissaruk, Bombay
“Pakati pemabhuku anotaura nezveukama hwevakuru nevana, pane zvishoma zvinobudisa zvizvarwa zvakawanda panguva imwe chete, zvine maonero azvo akasiyana uye maonero azvinoita upenyu,” inodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Olga Shaveko. - Iro bhuku renyanzvi yezvepfungwa uye mudzidzisi weboka Svetlana Komissaruk rakanakira muono wakakura kudaro.
Anotsanangura kuti vaverengi vechizvarwa cheSandwich (avo vava nemakore 45–60) vanogona sei kunzwisisa vabereki vakura, kutaurirana nevaduku, uye panguva imwe cheteyo kusakanganwa nezvavo. Zvizvarwa zvinotsanangurwa zvakajeka kubva kumakona akasiyana: maererano nedzidziso yekunamatira, kukurudzira, mhosva, kukwana, uye impostor syndrome. Asi kuwedzera kune ruzivo rwezvinyorwa, bhuku racho rinosanganisira zvidhori zvehupenyu uye maitiro anowanikwa achakubatsira iwe kukanganwira vabereki vako, kurega kutya vana vako uye kudzidza kuvimba navo, kugamuchira mumwe nomumwe pasina kuregeredza kana kuderedza.
Ndakafadzwa nehunyanzvi hwemunyori "#kokwa kukuyedza" - iyi irubhuriki inotsanangura zvidzidzo zvakasiyana. Zvinobvumira muverengi kuti amire ofungisisa zvaanenge averenga. Semuenzaniso, chiedzo chakaitwa nenyanzvi yepfungwa Carol Dweck anoita basa guru rekujekesa musiyano pakati pekurumbidza kunoshanda uye kurumbidza kusina maturo. Uye bvunzo kubva muchitsauko "Nyika mbiri, Vaviri Vadiki" ichabatsira kuona kana iwe nevabereki vako muri vega kana tsika yemubatanidzwa. Nzira yakanaka yekuzviona iwe pachako kana mamiriro akajairwa kubva kudivi risingatarisirwi.
Bhuku richabatsira kwete chete kune vamiririri ve "sandwich" chizvarwa, asiwo kuvana vavo vakura. Anofumura nzvimbo dzisina njodzi muhukama nevabereki, vanasekuru uye anopa zano rekuchinja kutaurirana kana kungofunga nezve ruzivo rwevakuru. Zvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana zvehupenyu hwezuva nezuva zvinoratidzwa nenzira itsva uye zvinoumba mufananidzo wakakwana - hwindo regirazi rakasvibiswa rinowanikwa, iro rinozopedzisira rava stereoscopic.
"Kubatanidzwa mu Psychotherapy"
Davis J. Wallin, Sayenzi World
Maitiro ekunamatira atinokura muhudiki anoratidzwa muhupenyu hwedu hwese. Asi pesvedzero iyi haina kuzara: modhi yekusachengeteka yakanamatira inogona kuchinja pasi pesimba rechiitiko chitsva - semuenzaniso, hukama hwakasiyana pakati pemurwere nemurapi. Clinical psychologist David J. Wallin anoratidza kuti varapi vanogona sei kubatsirwa nekufambira mberi mumunda wekutsvaga kwekunamatira.
"Ini"
Renata Daniel, Cogito Center
Iyo pachayo haisi iyo chete pakati pehupenyu hwepfungwa uye hwemweya hwemunhu, asi hunhu pachahwo mukuperera kwayo kose, mukubatana kwevanoziva uye vasingazive. Gangaidzo iri rakaoma kunzwisisa zvine musoro. Uye ndicho chikonzero muongorori weJungian Renata Daniel, achizviongorora pachake, anotendeukira kumifananidzo kubva kungano, zvirongwa kubva mumafirimu uye hupenyu. Ndirwo rwendo rwunonakidza mauri.
"Zvakanaka"
Daria Varlamova, Alpina Publisher
Chengetedza diary yemanzwiro, kugovera masimba kuti udzivise kuneta kwepfungwa; kunzwisisa maitiro asingavaki… Bhuku-wekishopu yakanyorwa naDaria Varlamova ine zvishandiso zvakabatsira Darya pachake kuti ararame zvine pundutso nebipolar disorder. Izvo zvinobatsirawo kune kutarisisa kushomeka uye kushanduka kwemafungiro.
"Vanhu vane Toxic"
Shahida Arabi, Mann, Ivanov naFerber
Shahida Arabi anga achitsvaga nyaya yekushungurudzwa kwepfungwa kwemakore mazhinji. Anotsanangura nzira yekuziva manipulator (pamwe chete narcissist uye psychopath) uye kubuda muukama hunoshungurudza nekurasikirwa kudiki. Behavioral therapy mabasa uye maekisesaizi achakubatsira iwe kuvaka miganhu ine hutano uye kutanga kuzvivimba.
"Sayenzi yeKuda Mwana"
Yakarongedzwa naZhanna Glozman, Meaning
Vashandi veResearch Center for Child Neuropsychology yakatumidzwa zita reA. Luria vanoudza vabereki nzira yekugadzirisa matambudziko anomuka mwana paanokura, ingave (kusateerera, kunyepa, kuwedzera kunetseka kana zvidzidzo zvekuchikoro. Zvinyorwa zvacho zvine akawanda chaiwo mamiriro kubva muupenyu.
"Zvakakosha zveExistential Analysis"
Alfried Lenglet, Peter
Nguva ndicho chimwe chezvinodiwa kuti munhu ave noupenyu hunogutsa. Asi pane zvimwe: nzvimbo, mabatirwo akanaka, uye kutariswa zvine ruremekedzo… Gwaro iri renongedzo rinotsanangura kuti nzira yekuongorora iripo inoshanda sei uye kuti inosiyana sei nedzimwe nzvimbo dzekurapa.
“Kuwana nguva yokuva nomumwe munhu kunoreva kuwedzera kukosha kwake, nokuti nguva yomunhu inogara iri nguva youpenyu hwake … Kuzvitorera nguva yako pachako kunoreva kukudziridza ukama newe pachako.”