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Ungave sei vamwene usati wava amai?
Kana yasvika nguva yekurara nemudiwa wake, Jessica anofanira kumuka kuti agadzirire vana vake vatsva. Kufanana naye, vasikana vakawanda vanodanana nomurume anotova baba. Vanowanzosiya upenyu hwomutambarakede “vasina vana” kunyange zvazvo ivo pachavo vasati vava amai. Mukuita, vanogara mumhuri yakasanganiswa uye vanofanirwa kugamuchirwa nevana. Hazvisi nyore nguva dzose.
Kuve mudiwa mutsva uye mai vekurera panguva imwe chete
“Ndini ‘vamwene’, sekutaura kwavanoita mwana wemukomana ane makore maviri nechidimbu. Hukama hwangu naye huri kufamba zvakanaka, anoyevedza. Ndakakurumidza kuwana nzvimbo yangu nekuchengeta rimwe basa rinonakidza: Ndinomuudza nyaya, tinobika pamwe chete. Zvakaoma kugara naye kuziva kuti, kunyangwe achindida, kana akasuruvara, anondiramba uye anodana baba vake, "anopupura Emilie, 2 makore. Kune nyanzvi Catherine Audibert, zvese mubvunzo wekushivirira. Vatatu vakaumbwa nemudiwa mutsva, mwana uye baba, vanofanirwa kuwana kukurumidza kwekufamba kuti ive mhuri yakasanganiswa pachayo. Hazvisi nyore sezvazvinoratidzika. “Kurongekazve kwemhuri kunowanzokonzera zvinetso mukati mevaroorani uye pakati pomubereki wokurera nomwana. Kunyangwe kana mufambidzani mutsva akaita zvese zvinogoneka kuti zvifambe zvakanaka, anotarisana nechokwadi icho, kazhinji, chakasiyana kwazvo nezvaaifunga. Zvose zvinoenderana nezvaakasangana nazvo muhuduku hwake, nevabereki vake. Kana akatambura kubva kuna baba vane chiremera kana kurambana kwakaoma, marwadzo emunguva yakapfuura anozomutsiridzwa nekumisikidzwa kwemhuri kutsva, kunyanya nevana vemumwe wake, ”anodaro chiremba wepfungwa.
Kuwana nzvimbo yako mumhuri yakasanganiswa
Mubvunzo mumwe unonyanya kushungurudza vakadzi ava: ndeipi basa ravanofanira kuita nemwana wemumwe wavo? “Kupfuura zvose, unofanira kushivirira kuti utange ukama hwakagadzikana nomwana womumwe. Hatifanire kumanikidza nenzira yehutsinye nzira yekudzidzisa, kana kuve mukukonana kusingaperi. An advice : munhu wese anofanira kutora nguva yake kuti adzidzire. Hatifaniri kukanganwa kuti vana vakatorarama, vakawana dzidzo kubva kuna amai nababa vavo vasati vaparadzana. Vamwene vatsva vachafanira kutarisana nechokwadi ichi uye netsika dzakatosimbiswa. Chimwe chinhu chinokosha: zvose zvichabva pane izvo mukadzi uyu anomiririra mupfungwa dzemwana. Hatifaniri kukanganwa kuti zvinotora nzvimbo itsva mumwoyo wababa vavo. Kurambana kwakafamba sei, ane “mhosva” pazviri here? Chiyero chemhuri icho vamwene vanotsvaga kumisikidza chinozoenderanawo nebasa ravaive naro, kana kuti kwete, mukuparadzana kwevabereki vemwana, "anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi. Kuchinja kwemba, rhythm, mubhedha ... mwana dzimwe nguva anonetsekana nekurarama zvakasiyana vasati varambana. Kubvuma kuuya kumba kwababa vake, kuziva kuti ane “mudiwa” mutsva hakusi nyore kumwana. Zvinogona kutora nguva yakareba. Dzimwe nguva zvinhu zvinototadza, semuenzaniso, apo vamwene vakakumbira mwana kuti aite chimwe chinhu, mwana anogona kupindura nehasha "kuti haasi mai vake". Vaviri vacho vanofanira kunge vakabatana uye vasingachinji pachinzvimbo chavo panguva ino. "Mhinduro yakakodzera ndeyekutsanangurira vana kuti zvechokwadi, havasi amai vavo, asi kuti munhu mukuru anogara nababa vavo uye vanoumba vaviri vatsva. Baba nemufambidzani wavo mutsva vanofanira kudaira nenzwi rimwe chete kuvana. Izvo zvakakoshawo kune ramangwana, kana vakamboita mwana vese. Vese vana vanofanirwa kuwana dzidzo yakafanana, vana vanobva kumubatanidzwa wekare, uye avo vanobva kumubatanidzwa mutsva, "inoona nyanzvi.
Kumukadzi asati ava amai, chii chinochinja?
Vakadzi vechidiki vanosarudza hupenyu hwemhuri pavanenge vasati vava nemwana, vachararama ruzivo rwekunzwira tsitsi rwakasiyana zvikuru nevasikana vavo mune vakaroorana vasina vana. “Mukadzi anouya muupenyu hwemurume akwegura uyo akambova nevana anotanga akanda mapfumo pasi pakuva mukadzi wokutanga kumubereka. Haazorarami "honeymoon" yevakaroorana vachangobva kuumbwa, achifunga ivo chete. Murume wacho achangobva kuparadzana uye achange achifunga zvose zvinobata vana pedyo kana kure. Haasi muhukama hwehukama hwe100%, "anotsanangura kudaro Catherine Audibert. Vamwe vakadzi vanganzwa vasiiwa pane zvinonyanya kunetsa mudiwa wavo. “Madzimai aya, asina kumbobvira asangana naamai, paanosarudza murume anotova baba, chokwadi baba ndivo vanovanyenga. Kazhinji, muruzivo rwangu senyanzvi yepfungwa, ndinocherechedza kuti ava baba-shamwari "vari nani" kupfuura baba vavaiva navo muhuduku hwavo. Vanoona maari unhu hwababa hwavanoonga, hwavanozvitsvakira. Iye ndiye "akanaka" murume nenzira, seanogona "akakwana" murume-baba vevana venguva yemberi ivo vachava pamwe chete ", inoratidza kuderera. Vazhinji vevakadzi ivava vanofunga, kutaura idi, nezvezuva ravachada kuva nomwana nomumwe wavo. Vamwe amai vanotaura nezvouku kunzwa kwounyoro: “Kutarisira vana vavo kunondiita kuti ndinzwe ndichida kuva nevana vangu ndimene, kunze kwokuti mumwe wangu haasati agadzirira kutanga patsva. Ndinozvibvunzawo mibvunzo yakawanda yekuti vana vake vachamugamuchira sei kana vakura. Nenzira yomuzvarirwo, ndinowanzofunga kuti kana vana vari pedyo zvikuru, zvichava zviri nani muhama yakasanganiswa. Ndinotyira kuti mwana mutsva uyu haatombotambirwe nemadzikoma ake nekuti vanenge vaine gap hombe. Haisati yasvika mangwana, asi ndinobvuma kuti zvinondishungurudza ”, anopupurira Aurélie, mukadzi wechidiki ane makore 27, akaroorana nemurume uye baba vevana vaviri.
Bvuma kuti mumwe wake atova nemhuri
Kune vamwe vakadzi, ndihwo hupenyu hwemhuri hwazvino hunogona kunetseka nezvechirongwa chemangwana chevaviri. “Chakanyanya kundirwadza ndechekuti murume wangu achange aine mhuri mbiri. Sezvo akanga akaroora, akatoona pamuviri wemumwe mukadzi, anonyatsoziva kuchengeta mwana. Pakarepo, ndinonzwa kusurukirwa zvishoma apo tinoda kuva nemwana. Ini ndinotya kufananidzwa, kuita zvakaipa kupfuura iye kana aimbove mukadzi wake. Uye pamusoro pezvose, nehudyire, ndingadai ndakasarudza kuvaka mhuri yedu ye3. Dzimwe nguva ndinombonzwa sokuti mwanakomana wavo anenge apinda pakati pedu. Pane matambudziko ane chekuita nekuchengetwa, alimony, ini handina kumbofunga kuti ndirikupfuura zvese izvo ! », Anopupurira Stéphanie, 31, muukama nemurume, baba vemukomana mudiki. Pane zvimwe zvakanakira, zvisinei, maererano ne psychotherapist. Apo vamwene vanova amai panguva yavo, vanogamuchira vana vavo zvakadzikama, mumhuri yakatoumbwa. Anenge atogara nevana vadiki uye anenge awana ruzivo rwaamai. Kutya chete kwaakaita vakadzi ava kungava kuti havachakwanisi kuita basa racho. Kungofanana nevaya vanova vanaamai kekutanga.