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Hasha, kutya, mufaro, manyawi… Vana chipanji chepfungwa! Uye dzimwe nguva, tinonzwa kuti vakazvirega vachikurirwa nekufashukira uku. Catherine Aimelet-Périssol *, chiremba uye psychotherapist, tibatsirei kuisa mashoko pamamiriro epfungwa akasimba… uye inopa mhinduro dzekugara zvakanaka kwevana, pamwe nevabereki!
Haadi kurara ega mumba make
>>Anotya zvikara ...
DECRYPTION. “Mwana anotsvaka kuchengeteka. Nekudaro, imba yake yekurara inogona kuve nzvimbo yekusagadzikana kana akave nechiitiko chakaipa ipapo, akarota zvinotyisa ipapo… Anobva ashaya zvekuita uye otsvaga kuvepo kwemukuru ”, anotsanangura Catherine Aimelet-Périssol *. Ichi ndicho chikonzero fungidziro dzake dzinopfachukira: anotya mhumhi, anotya rima… Zvese izvi ndezvemuzvarirwo uye zvinovavarira kukwezva mubereki kuti asimbiswe.
MAZANO : Basa romubereki nderekuteerera kutya uku, ichi chishuvo chechengeteko. The psychotherapist inoratidzira kuvimbisa mwana nekumuratidza kuti zvinhu zvose zvakavharwa. Kana izvozvo zvisina kukwana, muperekedze kuti iye amene aite chimwe chinhu kuchishuvo chake chokuchengeteka. Somuenzaniso, mubvunze kuti aizoitei kana akaona chikara. Nokudaro achatsvaka nzira dzoku“zvidzivirira”. Kufungidzira kwake kwakaorera kunofanira kunge kuri pabasa rake. Anofanira kudzidza kurishandisa kuwana mhinduro.
Unomurambidza kuona katuni
>> Akatsamwa
DECRYPTION. Seri kwehasha dzacho, Catherine Aimelet-Périssol anotsanangura kuti mwana wacho ane chido chikuru chokuda kuzivikanwa achiti: “Anozviudza kuti kana akawana zvaanoda. achazivikanwa somunhu akazara. Zvisinei, pane chisungo chokuzviisa pasi nevabereki vake. Anotsamira pavari kuti vanzwe vachizivikanwa ”. Mwana akataura chishuwo chekuona katuni nekuti aida, asiwo nekuda kwekuda kwake kuzivikanwa.
MAZANO : Unogona kumuudza kuti, “Ndinoona kukosha kwakaita katuni iyi kwauri. Ndinoziva kuti wakatsamwa sei. »Asi nyanzvi inoomerera pane izvo tinofanira kunamatira kumutemo wakagadzwa : hapana katuni. Taura naye kuti akuudze zvaanoda zvakanyanya pafirimu iri. Nokudaro anogona kutaura zvaanoda, kunzwa kwake. Iwe unobira nzira yaakawana kuti anozivikanwa (tarisa katuni), asi unofunga nezvekudiwa kwekuzivikanwa zvemwana, uye zvinomunyaradza.
Waronga rwendo rwekuenda kunzvimbo inochengeterwa mhuka nevazukuru vako
>>Anoputika nemufaro
DECRYPTION. Mufaro manzwiro akanaka. Maererano nenyanzvi, kumwana, imhando yemubairo wakakwana. "Kuratidzwa kwayo kunogona kukurira. Nenzira imwechete iyo munhu mukuru anoseka, haigoni kutsanangurwa, asi manzwiro aya aripo. Isu hatidzore manzwiro edu, tinorarama iwo. Ivo ndevechisikigo uye vanofanirwa kukwanisa kutaura zvavanoda, "anotsanangura kudaro Catherine Aimelet-Périssol.
MAZANO : Zvichava zvakaoma kupikisa mafashama aya. Asi nyanzvi yacho inokurudzira kupikisa mwana pane nugget iyo inomutsa mufaro wake uye inomutsa chido chedu chekuziva. Mubvunze kuti chii chinoita kuti afare chaizvo. Inyaya yekuona vana vamai vake here? Kuenda kunzvimbo inochengeterwa mhuka? Sei ? Isa pfungwa pachikonzero. Nokudaro uchamutungamirira kuti ataure, kudoma, chiri manyuko okumufadza. Achaziva manzwiro ake uye akadzikama paanenge achitaura.
"Nzira huru yekuti mwanakomana wangu adzikame"
Kana Ilies atsamwa, anondandama. Kuti adzikame, murapi wekutaura akakurudzira nzira ye "rag doll". Anofanira kuputika, obva asvina makumbo ake zvakasimba, kwemaminitsi matatu, uye asununguka zvachose. Inoshanda nguva dzese! Pashure pacho, anenge akasununguka uye anogona kutaura akadzikama. ”
Noureddine, baba vaIlies, makore mashanu.
Imbwa yake yafa
>> Akasuruvara
DECRYPTION. Nekufa kwechipfuyo chake, mwana anodzidza kusuwa uye kuparadzana. “Kusuwa kunokonzerwawo nokunzwa usingabatsiri. Hapana chaanogona kuita achipokana nerufu rwembwa yake, "anotsanangura kudaro Catherine Aimelet-Périssol.
MAZANO : Tinofanira kumuperekedza mukusuwa kwake. Nekuda kweizvozvo, kumunyaradza nokumumbundira nokumumbundira. “Mazwi haana chinhu. Anofanirwa kunzwa kubata kwenyama kwevanhu vaanoda, kuti anzwe ari mupenyu kunyangwe imbwa yake yafa, ”anowedzera nyanzvi. Munogona kufunga pamwe chete pamusoro pezvamuchaita nebhizimisi rembwa, taurai nezvendangariro dzamuinadzo naye… Pfungwa yacho ndeyokubatsira mwana kuziva kuti anogona kuita chimwe chinhu kuti arwe. kunzwa kwake kwokupererwa.
Anogara mukona yake pane tennis court yake
>> Ari kutya
DECRYPTION. “Mwana haagutsikane nekutya kana atarisana nemamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo. Kufungidzira kwake kunoitwa uye kunotora nzvimbo. Anofunga kuti vamwe vanhu vane utsinye. Ane chimiro chakazvidzika chake, ”anodaro psychotherapist. Nokudaro anofungidzira kuti vamwe vane vavariro dzakaipa, naizvozvo anozvipfigira amene mukutenda kwake. Iyewo haana chokwadi nokukosha kwake muukama nevamwe uye kutya kunomushayisa simba.
MAZANO : “Hauchinji mwana anonyara kuva mwana asingadiwi anoita kuti gungano rose riseke,” anonyevera kudaro chiremba wacho. “Unofanira kuzviyananisa nenzira yayo. Kunyara kwake kunomubvumira kutora nguva yake kuziva vamwe. Hungwaru hwayo, kudzoserwa kwayo kumashure ndiko kukosha chaiko. Haufanire hazvo kuedza kubuda mazviri. Zvisinei, zvinokwanisika kuderedza kutya kwako nekuenda iwe pachako kumudzidzisi kana mwana, somuenzaniso. Unomuita kuti aonane nevamwe kuti anzwe akasununguka. Mugumisiro weboka unogona zvechokwadi kuva unofadza. Mwana wako haazonyanyi kutya kana akanzwira tsitsi kune mumwe kana vaviri vamwe vaduku.
Haana kukokwa kubirthday party yaJules
>> Anoodzwa mwoyo
DECRYPTION. Iwo manzwiro ari pedyo zvikuru nekusuwa, asiwo nehasha. Kumwana, kusakokwa nemukomana wake hazvizivikanwe, kudiwa. Anozviudza kuti haafariri uye anogona kuzviona sekurambwa.
MAZANO : Maererano nenyanzvi, inofanira kuonekwa kuti aitarisira chimwe chinhu maererano nekukosha. Mubvunze nezvezvaanotenda: “Pamwe unofunga kuti haachakudi? »Bvunza kana pane chimwe chinhu chaunogona kuita kumubatsira. Muyeuchidze kuti mukomana wake aisakwanisa kukoka munhu wese kuzuva rake rekuzvarwa, kuti aifanira kuita sarudzo. Sezvakangoita mwana wako paanokoka shamwari. Izvi zvichamubatsira kunzwisisa kuti panewo zvinhu zvenyama zvinotsanangura kuti nei asina kukokwa, kuti chikonzero chacho chingasava chepfungwa. Chinja pfungwa dzake uye umuyeuchidze nezveunhu hwake.
* muvambi wesaiti: www.logique-emotionnelle.com