Zvinhu zvakapararira, dhayari kukanganwa kumba, kuchinja kwakarasika ... Vana vazhinji, mukugumbuka kukuru kwevabereki vavo, vanozvibata zvisina kurongeka zvachose. Psychotherapist uye nyanzvi yekukura kwevana Victoria Prudey anopa mazano akareruka uye anobatsira ekudzidzisa mwana kuzvimiririra.
Kwemakore ekushanda se psychotherapist, Victoria Prudey akasangana nevatengi vakawanda uye akanzwa nezveanenge matambudziko ese ane chekuita nemaitiro avo uye kukura. Chimwe chinonyanyonetsa vabereki ndechekusarongeka kwevana vavo.
“Apo vabereki vane vana vanouya kuhofisi yangu, ndinowanzonzwa “bvisa bhachi rako, sungirira bhachi rako, bvisa shangu dzako, enda kuchimbuzi, geza maoko ako”, uye maminetsi mashomanene gare gare vabereki vakafanana vanonyunyuta kwandiri. kuti mwanakomana kana mwanasikana wavo anogara achikanganwa lunch box kumba, diary kana notebook, vanogara vachirasa mabhuku, heti nemabhodhoro emvura, vanokanganwa kuita basa ravo rechikoro,” anodaro. Kurudziro yake huru, iyo inogara ichishamisa vabereki, ndeyekumira. Rega kuita seGPS yemwana wako. Sei?
Zviyeuchidzo kubva kuvakuru zvinoshanda senzira yekunze yekufambisa yevana, inovatungamira zuva rega rega rehupenyu. Nokushanda neGPS yakadaro, vabereki vanotora mutoro womwana uye havamubvumiri kukudziridza unyanzvi hwokuronga. Zviyeuchidzo chaizvoizvo "dzima" uropi hwake, uye pasina ivo mwana haasati agadzirira kuyeuka uye kuita chimwe chinhu ari oga, haana chikonzero.
Vabereki vanofuratira utera hwomuzvarirwo hwomwana kupfurikidza nokugovera mwana nhungamiro inopfuurira.
Asi muhupenyu chaihwo, haazove neGPS yekunze, anogara akagadzirira kubatsira kuita mabasa anodiwa uye kuronga zvirongwa. Somuenzaniso, mudzidzisi wechikoro ane avhareji yavadzidzi 25 mukirasi, uye haagoni kupa ngwariro chaiyo kumunhu ari wose. Maiwe, vana vakajaira kutonga kwekunze vanorasika mukusavapo kwayo, uropi hwavo hahuna kuchinjirwa kuti vazvigadzirise kugadzirisa matambudziko akadaro.
“Vabereki vanowanzosimbisa kuti vanofanira kuyeuchidzwa chaizvoizvo nemhaka yokuti mwana haana kurongeka,” anodaro Victoria Prudey. "Asi kana vabereki mumakore mashanu apfuura vakagara vachiyeuchidza mwana kuti ageze maoko avo mushure mechimbuzi, uye iye achiri kuyeuka izvi pachake, saka nzira yakadaro yekurera haishande."
Kune vana vasina kurongeka nenzira yomuzvarirwo, uye vabereki vanopinda muutera hwavo hwomuzvarirwo, vachiita seGPS uye kupa mwana wacho nhevedzano inopfuurira yemirayiridzo. Zvisinei, inoyeuchidza murapi, unyanzvi uhwu hunogona kudzidziswa uye hunoda kuitwa nguva dzose, asi kwete kuburikidza nezviyeuchidzo.
Victoria Pruday inopa mazano evabereki kubatsira mwanakomana kana mwanasikana wavo kushandisa pfungwa dzavo.
Mwana anofanira rimwe zuva kutarisana nemigumisiro yekusarongeka kwake uye kudzidza kubva pane zvake kukanganisa.
- Dzidzisa mwana wako kushandisa karenda. Unyanzvi uhwu huchamupa kuzvivimba uye kumubatsira kuti ave akazvimiririra zvachose nezuva raanofanira kuronga nguva yake akazvimirira kubva kwauri.
- Ita runyoro rwemabasa ezuva nezuva: kurovedza mangwanani, kugadzirira chikoro, kuita basa rechikoro, kugadzirira kurara. Izvi zvichabatsira "kuvhura" ndangariro yake uye kumujairira kune imwe kutevedzana.
- Huya nehurongwa hwemibairo yebudiriro yakaitwa nemwanakomana wako kana mwanasikana munzira. Paunoona kuti rudungwe rwezvekuita rwuri kuitwa pacharwo uye nenguva, iva nechokwadi chekupa mubayiro nemubairo kana kuti neshoko remutsa. Positive reinforcement inoshanda zvirinani pane kusimbaradza zvisina kunaka, saka zviri nani kuwana chekurumbidza pane kupopota.
- Mubatsire kuzvipa mamwe maturusi ekuronga, akadai semaforodha ane zvinonamirwa “Homework. Zvaitwa» uye “Homework. Ndinofanira kuzviita." Wedzera chinhu chekutamba - kana uchitenga zvinhu zvakanaka, rega mwana asarudze mavara uye sarudzo kune zvaanoda.
- Batanidza mwana wako kumaitiro ako ehurongwa - isa pamwe chete rondedzero yekutenga yemhuri yese, rongedza mbatya dzekuwachira, gadzira chikafu zvinoenderana neresipi, zvichingodaro.
- Ngaaite zvikanganiso. Rimwe zuva anofanira kutarisana nemigumisiro yekusarongeka kwake uye adzidze kubva pane zvaakakanganisa. Usamutevera kuchikoro uine diary kana lunch box kana achigara akazvikanganwa kumba.
“Batsira mwana wako kuti ave GPS yake,” Victoria Prudey anotaura kuvabereki. “Uchamudzidzisa chidzidzo chinokosha chichabatsira zvikuru paanenge akura uye otanga kuita mamwe mabasa akaoma kunzwisisa.” Iwe uchashamisika kuti mwana wako anoita seasina kurongeka angave akazvimiririra sei.
Nezve munyori: Victoria Prudey chiremba wepfungwa anoshanda nehukama hwevabereki nemwana.