Rudo manzwiro erudo asingadzorwi nechikonzero. Mafungiro aya akatekeshera mutsika dzedu, asi michato yakarongwa yagara ichiitika, uye dzimwe dzakabudirira zvikuru. Munyori wenhoroondo wekuAmerica Lawrence Samuel anopa kunyatsotarisisa pamativi ese ari maviri emubvunzo uyu usingaperi.
Kwemazana emakore akawanda, chimwe chezvakavanzika zvikuru zvevanhu chave chiri rudo. Kuonekwa kwekunzwa uku kwainzi chipo chaMwari kana kutukwa, uye mabhuku asingaverengeki, nhetembo uye zvinyorwa zvefilosofi zvakatsaurirwa kwairi. Zvisinei, maererano nemunyori wenhau dzakaitika Lawrence Samuel, pakatanga mireniyumu iyi, sayenzi yakapa humbowo hwakawanda hwokuti rudo ibasa rezvinhu zvipenyu, uye dutu remanzwiro muuropi hwomunhu rinokonzerwa nejoka remakemikari rine simba rinoriperekedza.
Ida iwe pachako
Muna 2002, chiremba wepfungwa wekuAmerica Robert Epstein akaburitsa chinyorwa chakagadzira hype yakawanda. Akazivisa kuti akanga achitsvaka mukadzi waaizodanana naye mukati menguva yakati. Chinangwa chekuedza uku chaiva chekupindura mubvunzo wekuti vanhu vaviri vanogona kudzidza kudanana nemaune. Uku hakusi kushambadza, Epstein akatsanangura, asi dambudziko rakakura kune ngano yekuti munhu wese akarongerwa kudanana nemunhu mumwe chete, wavanozopedza naye hupenyu hwavo hwese mukufara kwewanano.
Panzvimbo yekuvimba neramangwana, Epstein akatora nzira yesainzi yekuwana rudo uye akave yekuedza guinea pig pachake. Makwikwi akaziviswa umo vakadzi vazhinji vakatora chikamu. Nemukundi, Epstein akaronga kuenda kumazuva, kuenda kurudo uye kurairana kwehukama, uye vobva vanyora bhuku pamwechete nezve chiitiko.
Vakawanda vaimuziva, kusanganisira amai vake, vakanga vakagadzirira kufunga kuti musayendisiti anoremekedzwa ane doctorate kubva kuHarvard akanga apenga. Nekudaro, maererano nechirongwa ichi chisina kujairika, Epstein aive akakomba chose.
Pfungwa vs manzwiro
Nharaunda yepfungwa yakanga izere nekurukurirano pamusoro pekupokana kwaEpstein kune yakakosha pfungwa yekuti rudo haisi sarudzo yakasununguka yemunhu, asi chimwe chinhu chinoitika kwaari achipesana nezvaanoda. Shoko rokuti "kuwira murudo" rinoreva "kuwira murudo", saka pfungwa yacho inoratidzwa mumutauro. Nzira yekuziva uye yemaitiro ekutsvaga chinhu chekunzwa uku inopesana nepfungwa yekuti pfungwa yedu yekutanga ndeyekungorega zvisikwa zvichingoita chinhu chazvo.
Imwe nguva gare gare, hurukuro yekuda kuziva kwaEpstein yakarongwa pamusangano weSmart Marriages. “Uku ndiko kutsauka chaiko here, kana kuti ipfungwa inogona kushandura manzwisisiro atiri kuita mazuva ano emashandiro anoita rudo?” akabvunza mutungamiriri Jan Levin, nyanzvi yepfungwa uye nyanzvi yehukama.
Kwapera gore mushure mekubudiswa kwenyaya yakakakavadzana, Epstein akanga achiri nemafungiro ekuti American "love formula" haina kubudirira zvikuru. Hatina kufanira kutarisa kure kune mienzaniso. Michato yakawanda isina kubudirira yaive humbowo kwaari kuti pfungwa "yekuwana mweya wekuroora kuti urarame nerufaro zvachose" yaive ngano yakanaka asi inonyengera.
Inopfuura 50% yemichato pasi rose yakarongwa uye inogara kwenguva refu paavhareji kupfuura vekuAmerica
Levin aive nechokwadi chekuti zvaive zvisingaite kushandura manzwiro kuita muchiitiko ichi, uye akapokana naEpstein: "Rudo rwunongoitika, harugone kusimudzwa."
Zvakadaro, mumwe munyori wepaneli, John Gray, munyori wepasi rese reseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, akatenda kuti Epstein ane chimwe chinhu chakakosha mupfungwa uye kuti anofanirwa kurumbidzwa nekubatsira kwake kusainzi. "Tinovimba nengano dzerudo pane hunyanzvi hwehukama hunoita kuti muchato uve mubatanidzwa une zvibereko," akadaro mukuru wehukama.
Akatsigirwa nemumwe mutori wenhau muhurukuro ine "kutaura" zita rokuti Pat Love. Rudo rwakabvuma kuti pfungwa yaEpstein ine musoro, ichipiwa chokwadi chekuti inopfuura 50% yemichato yenyika yakarongwa uye, paavhareji, inogara kwenguva refu kupfuura maAmerican. “Hafu yenyika inofunga kuti unofanira kutanga waroora uye ipapo kudanana,” akayeuka kudaro. Sokuona kwake, kushanda kunoperekedzwa nounyoro kunogona kuva hwaro hunobudirira hwokukura kwenguva refu kwemirangariro yorudo.
Chii chinoita kuti mwoyo udzikame?
Saka kuedza kwaEpstein kweushingi kwakabudirira here? Panzvimbo pokusava hungu, anodaro munyori wenhau dzakaitika Lawrence Samuel. Hapana kana imwe yemhinduro dzinopfuura 1000 iyo musayendisiti akawana kubva kuvaverengi yakamukurudzira kuti aenderere mberi nehukama hwake navo. Pamwe, iyi sarudzo yekutsvaga mudiwa yanga isiri iyo yakanyanya kubudirira.
Pakupedzisira, Epstein akasangana nemukadzi, asi netsaona, mundege. Kunyange zvazvo akabvuma kubatanidzwa mukuedza kwacho, zvinhu zvakaomeswa nemamiriro ezvinhu: aigara muVenezuela nevana vomuroorano yekare vakanga vasingadi kusiya nyika yacho.
Asingabvume kukundwa, Epstein akaronga kuyedza pfungwa yake kune vakati wandei vakaroora uye, kana mhedzisiro yaive yakanaka, gadzira zvirongwa zvehukama zvinoenderana ne "yakarongwa" rudo. Maererano nekutenda kwake kwakasimba, kusarudza wekuroora kunze kwekuda kwakachena kwakafanana ne "kudhakwa uye kuroora mumwe munhu muLas Vegas." Yave nguva yekudzosa tsika yekare yewanano yakarongwa, anodaro Epstein.