Iwe unogona kuedzana kwemakore kune simba, kana iwe unogona kunzwisisa kubva paminiti yekutanga kuti iwe uri "weropa rimwe chete". Zvinonyatsoitika - vamwe vanokwanisa kuona shamwari mune yavanozivana nayo pakutanga pakuona.
Vanhu vazhinji vanotenda murudo pakutanga. Zvidzidzo zvakaratidza kuti dzimwe nguva masekondi gumi nemaviri anokwana kuwira murudo. Munguva iyi, kunzwa kunokosha kunomuka kunopa chivimbo chokuti tasangana nomunhu chaiye watakanga tisu. Uye ndiko kunzwa uku kunoitika muvaviri ava kunovasunga.
Zvakadini noushamwari? Pane ushamwari pakutanga here? Zvinoita here kutaura pamusoro pekunzwa kwakanyanya kunobatanidza vanhu, semakomuredhi matatu eRemarque? Pane ushamwari ihwohwo hwakanakisisa hunoberekwa kubva mumaminitsi okutanga ekuzivana kwedu here, patakatanga kutarisana mumaziso?
Kana tikabvunza vatinozivana navo zvavanotarisira kubva kushamwari, tichanzwa dzinenge mhinduro dzakafanana. Tinovimba neshamwari, tine pfungwa yakafanana yekuseka navo, uye zvinonakidza kuti isu tipedze nguva tiri pamwe chete. Vamwe vanokurumidza kuona kuti vangangozova shamwari yavo mumunhu wavachangotanga kukurukura naye. Vanozvinzwa kunyange shoko rokutanga risati rataurwa. Dzimwe nguva unongotarisa munhu woona kuti anogona kuva shamwari yepamwoyo.
Uropi hunokwanisa kukurumidza kuona kuti chii chine ngozi kwatiri uye chinokwezva.
Chero zita ratinopa kune chiitiko ichi - magumo kana kukwezvana - zvese zvinoitika ipapo ipapo, inguva pfupi chete yenguva inodiwa. Tsvagiridzo inoyeuchidza: masekonzi mashoma anokwana kuti munhu aumbe maonero emumwe ne80%. Munguva ino, uropi hunokwanisa kugadzira fungidziro yekutanga.
Nzvimbo yakakosha inobata maitiro aya muuropi - kumashure kwecortex. Inoitwa kana tikafunga kuburikidza nezvakanakira nezvayakaipira tisati taita sarudzo. Zvichitaurwa zviri nyore, uropi hunokwanisa kukurumidza kuona kuti chii chine ngozi kwatiri uye chinokwezva. Saka, shumba iri kuuya inotyisa, uye orenji ine muto iri patafura kuti tidye.
Anenge maitiro akafanana anoitika muuropi hwedu patinosangana nemunhu mutsva. Dzimwe nguva miitiro yemunhu, mapfekero ake uye maitiro anokanganisa maonero ekutanga. Panguva imwecheteyo, isu hatitombofungi kuti mitongo yemunhu inoumbwa matiri pamusangano wekutanga - zvese izvi zvinoitika nekusaziva.
Maonero pamusoro pe interlocutor anoumbwa kunyanya pamusana pehutano hwake hwepanyama - chiso, zviratidzo, inzwi. Kazhinji njere hadzikundikane uye fungidziro yekutanga ndeyechokwadi. Asi zvinoitikawo zvakasiyana, pasinei nemanzwiro asina kunaka pamusangano, vanhu vanobva vava shamwari kwemakore akawanda.
Hongu takazara nerusaruro, ndomashandiro anoita uropi. Asi isu tinokwanisa kugadzirisa maonero edu zvichienderana nemaitiro emumwe.
Nyanzvi yepfungwa Michael Sannafrank anobva kuYunivhesiti yeMinnesota (USA) akadzidza maitiro evadzidzi pamusangano. Zvichienderana nemaonero ekutanga, mafungiro evadzidzi akakura nenzira dzakasiyana. Asi chinonyanya kufadza: vamwe vaida nguva kuti vanzwisise kana zvakakodzera kuramba vachikurukura nemunhu, vamwe vakaita chisarudzo pakarepo. Tose takasiyana.