izwi frigidity ishoko rinoreva, mumutauro wakafanana, kusavapo kana kudzikira kwemafaro panguva yebonde kana dzimwe nguva kusagutsikana pabonde.

Muchirevo chechinyorwa ichi, frigidity inogona saka kuenderana ne:

• hapana orgasm, kana anorgasmia
• kushaikwa kwechido chepabonde (tinotaura nezvayo hypoactive chishuwo chebonde), anaphrodisia kana kuderedza libido.

Zvechokwadi kune "madhigirii" akati wandei uye kuratidzwa kwakasiyana-siyana kwekutonhora, kubva pakusavapo zvachose kwekunzwa panguva yepabonde, kune kupesana kunooneka pakati pekusimba kwechido uye urombo hwekunzwa kwenyama, kusanganisira mafaro. "Zvakajairika" asi kwete kutungamira kune orgasm¹.

izwi frigidity rinoshandiswa kutsanangura chirwere chevakadzi, kunyange kusavapo kwekunakidzwa kwepabonde kana chido kunogona kushandawo kuvarume. Haisisiri kushandiswa navanachiremba, nekuda kweiyo pejorative chirevo uye kushaikwa kwetsanangudzo chaiyo.

Iri pepa rinozonyanya kupihwa zvakanyanya kune iyoanorgasmia muvakadzi, kushayikwa kwechido kubatwa mune pepa rakaderera libido.

Anorgasmia inowanikwawo muvarume, asi ishoma².

Kutanga, tinogona kusiyanisa:

• anorgasmia primary : mukadzi wacho haasati ambosvirwa.
• anorgasmia secondary kana kuwana: mukadzi atove ne orgasms, asi haasisiri.

Tinogonawo kusiyanisa :

• Total anorgasmia: Mukadzi haambova nebonhora nebonyora, kana muukama, uye hapana orgasm inokonzerwa neclitoral kana vaginal stimulation.
• vakaroora anorgasmia apo mukadzi anogona kuwana orgasms ari ega, asi kwete pamberi pemumwe wake.
• coital anorgasmia: mukadzi haaite orgasm panguva yekumashure nekumberi kwemboro mubeche, asi anogona kuwana mahwekwe nekukurudzira clitoral ari ega kana nemumwe wake.

Pakupedzisira, anorgasmia inogona kurongeka kana kuitika chete mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu: tinotaura nezvemamiriro ezvinhu anorgasmia.

Ndiani anobatwa?

Iyo clitoral orgasm inozivikanwa kune vanopfuura 90% yevakadzi, kunyangwe isiri iyo yakarongeka pakutanga kwehupenyu hwavo hwepabonde uye inoda nguva yekuwanikwa kune vakadzi vasina kuita bonhora pamberi pehukama hwavo hwekutanga. zvepabonde.

Vaginal orgasm haiwanzo, sezvo chikamu chimwe muzvitatu chevakadzi vanozviona. Inokonzereswa nekufamba kwemboro chete kumusana nekumashure. Chimwe chetatu chevakadzi vanowana inonzi vaginal orgasm chete kana clitoris yavo yakakurudzirwa panguva imwe chete. Uye chikamu chimwe muzvitatu chevakadzi hachina kumbonzwa vaginal orgasm.

Nemamwe mashoko, nhengo yemukadzi orgasm ndiyo clitoris, yakawanda kupfuura yemukadzi.

Isu tinoziva kuti paavhareji, vakadzi vane orgasm kamwechete paviri panguva yebonde vachiziva kuti vamwe vane "polyorgasmic" (vanenge 10% yevakadzi) uye vanogona chain akawanda orgasms, nepo vamwe vane kashoma. , pasina hazvo kugumbuka. Zvechokwadi, kufara hakuna kufanana ne orgasm.

Orgasm kusagadzikana kunogona kukanganisa chikamu chechina chevakadzi⁴, asi pane zvidzidzo zvishoma zveepidemiological zvinonyora mamiriro acho ezvinhu.

Mumwe wavo, ongororo yePRESIDE, yakaitwa nemubvunzo muUnited States ine vakadzi vanopfuura makumi matatu, inofungidzira kuwanda kwekusagadzikana kweiyo orgasm kunenge 30%.⁵.

Sekondari anorgasmia ingangove yakanyanya kuwanda kupfuura yekutanga anorgasmia, inobata 5 kusvika 10% yevakadzi.⁶.

Kunyanya kazhinji, kusagadzikana kwepabonde kunokanganisa vanenge 40% yevakadzi. Zvinosanganisira kushambidzika kwechikadzi, kusagadzikana uye kurwadziwa panguva yekusangana, kuderera kwechido uye kunetseka kusvika orgasm.⁷.

Zvinokonzera

Iyo physiological uye yepfungwa nzira dzinokonzeresa orgasm dzakaoma uye dzichiri kure nekunyatsonzwisiswa.

Zvikonzero zveanorgasmia saka zvakare zvakaoma. Kugona kwemukadzi kusvika pakusangana kunoenderana nezera rake, nhanho yedzidzo, chitendero chake, hunhu hwake uye mamiriro ehukama hwake.⁸.

Pakutanga kwehupenyu hwepabonde, zvakajairika kuti usaite orgasm, kuita zvepabonde kunoda nguva yekudzidza uye kugadzirisa iyo dzimwe nguva yakareba.

Zvinhu zvakati wandei zvinogona kuzopinda mukutamba uye kushandura iyi hunhu, kunyanya⁹ :

• Kuziva kuti mukadzi ane muviri wake,
• Chiitiko chemudiwa pabonde uye hunyanzvi,
• Nhoroondo yekushungurudzwa kwepabonde (kubatwa chibharo, makunakuna, nezvimwewo)
• Kushungurudzika kana kusagadzikana kusagadzikana
• Kushandisa zvinodhaka kana doro
• Kutora mimwe mishonga (kusanganisira antidepressants kana antipsychotics inogona kunonoka orgasm)
• Zvitendero zvetsika kana zvechitendero zvakapoteredza zvepabonde (mhosva, "tsvina", nezvimwewo).
• Matambudziko ehukama
• Chirwere chepasi (spinal cord kukuvara, multiple sclerosis, nezvimwewo)
• Dzimwe nguva dzehupenyu, dzinoperekedzwa nekuchinja kwehomoni, kunyanya iyo pamuviri uye menopause.

Nekudaro, nhumbu, kunyanya panguva yechipiri trimester, inogona zvakare kuve yakanakira bonde revakadzi uye kunyanya kune orgasm. Iyi nguva dzimwe nguva inonzi "honeymoon yekuzvitakura" uye zvinozivikanwa kuti vamwe vakadzi vanonzwa yavo yekutanga orgasm panguva yekuzvitakura, kazhinji mune yechipiri trimester.

Nzira uye zvinogona kuitika

Anorgasmia haisi chirwere pachayo. Ichirwere chekushanda chinozonetsa kana chiri chitubu chekunyara, kusagadzikana kana kushungurudza munhu ari kunyunyuta nezvazvo kana kune mumwe wake.

Vakadzi vanogunun'una nezve anorgasmia vanogona kutanga kuora mwoyo uye kuzvidya mwoyo. Ndicho chikonzero nei zvakakosha kutaura nezvazvo, kunyanya sezvo mhinduro dziripo.