Munyika yanhasi, kune mikana yakawanda yekutsvaga vatsva vekudanana kupfuura kare. Zvisinei, vakawanda vedu tinokwanisa kuramba takatendeka. Zvinoitika kuti hazvisi chete nezvehunhu nemisimboti. Uropi hunotidzivirira kubva pakunyengedzwa.
Kana isu tiri muukama hunoenderana nesu, uropi hunotiitira nyore kuburikidza nekuderedza kukwezva kwevamwe vangangove vadyidzani mumaziso edu. Iyi ndiyo mhedziso yakasvikwa nenyanzvi yezvepfungwa dzemagariro Shana Cole (Shana Cole) nevamwe vake vekuNew York University.1. Vakaongorora maitiro epfungwa anobatsira kutendeka kune mumwe wako.
Muzvidzidzo zvakapfuura zverudzi urwu, vatori vechikamu vakabvunzwa zvakananga kuti vanokwezva sei vamwe vangangove vadyidzani, saka zvinogoneka kuti mhinduro dzavo kune "sensitive" musoro wakadaro dzingave dzisiri dzechokwadi.
Muchidzidzo chitsva, vatsvakurudzi vakasarudza kuita zvinhu zvakasiyana uye kwete kubvunza mubvunzo zvakananga.
Vadzidzi 131 vakatora chikamu mukuedza kukuru. Vatori vechikamu vakaratidzwa mifananidzo yevanogona kuzoshanda mulabhu (yevakomana nevasikana) uye vakapihwa ruzivo rupfupi pamusoro pavo-kunyanya, vangave vari muhukama kana vasina. Vadzidzi vakabva vapiwa mapikicha akati wandei emumwe waaidzidza navo uye vakanzi vasarudze wakanyanya kufanana nepikicha yekutanga. Chaisazivikanwa nevadzidzi ndechekuti mapikicha echipiri akanga agadziridzwa nekombiyuta nenzira yokuti mune mimwe yacho munhu wacho airatidzika kuva anoyevedza kupfuura zvaari chaizvo, uye mune mamwe asinganyanyi kukwezva.
Vatori vechikamu vakatarisira pasi kukwezva kwevatsva vangangove vakaroorana kana vakagutsikana nehukama hwavo pachavo.
Vadzidzi vaive muhukama vakayera kukwezva kwevatsva vangango fambidzana navo pazasi pedanho chairo. Vaiona pikicha chaiyo seyakafanana neiyo «yakaderedzwa» mafoto.
Apo nyaya nemunhu ari pamufananidzo vakanga vasiri muukama, kukwezva kwemunhu ari pamufananidzo kwainzi kune yakakwirira kudarika mufananidzo chaiwo (mufananidzo chaiwo waionekwa se "wakavandudzwa").
Vadzidzi 114 vakapinda muchidzidzo chechipiri chakafanana. Vanyori vechidzidzo ichi vakaonawo kuti vatori vechikamu havakoshesi kukwezva kwevatsva vangangove vakaroorana chete kana vakagutsikana nehukama hwavo. Avo vakanga vasina kufara zvikuru neukama hwavo newavakaroorana naye iye zvino vakaita nenzira yakafanana nevadzidzi vakanga vasiri muukama.
Izvi zvinorevei? Vanyori vanotenda kuti kana isu tatova muhukama hwechigarire hwatinogutsikana nahwo, huropi hwedu hunobatsira kuramba takatendeka, huchitidzivirira kubva kumiyedzo - vanhu vechikadzi (vakasununguka uye vanogona kuwanikwa) vanoita setiri vasinganyanyi kukwezva kupfuura zvavari chaizvo. .
1 S. Cole nevamwe. "MuZiso reVakapfimbwa: Kudzikisira Kunokwezva Alternative Romantic Partners", Unhu uye Social Psychology Bulletin, Chikunguru 2016, vol. 42, №7.