Nzira yekuwana sei rudo mukuzviparadzanisa nevamwe

Kunyangwe iwe ukati pfuurei makore makumi matatu, une muchato usingabudiriri shure kwako, uye vana vaviri vakapeta katatu mutsago kurwa pasofa, kuchine tariro yekuwana muchinda wako. Hutongi hwekuzviparadzanisa nevamwe hwakagadzirisa zvakakosha kuhupenyu hwedu - ikozvino hausi kuzoenda kuchitoro chekofi kuti ugare nebhuku, uye manheru kupfura muresitorendi nemeso ako uchitsvaga mabachelor akanaka. Zvino iwe unofanirwa kuronga hupenyu hwako pachako kure. Mutambi ane makore makumi matatu eruzivo, murairidzi ane ruzivo uye nyanzvi yezvepfungwa akapa zano rekusapinda mudambudziko uye kuwana "iye" akatemerwa magumo.

Danho 1: Isa pakutanga

Sezvineiwo, asi kutsvaga kweanopfimbwa kunofanira kutanga ... newe pachako. Kutanga sarudza: chii chaunoda muhupenyu? Kusiira vana nanny uye kuvaka basa? Ibva muhofisi uye uende zvakananga mumhuri, kubereka vamwe vatatu uye kubika zvinonaka zvinonaka kubva mangwanani kusvika manheru? Kufamba kwegore rose, uchifamba nemhuri yako kubva kune imwe nzvimbo yekudenga kuenda kune imwe? Akasarudza? Zvino funga: chii chiri kukutadzisa kuita kuti kurota kwako kuve kwechokwadi uye kuti murume werudzii anofanira kunge aripo kuti zviitike.

- Vakadzi vazhinji, kusanganisira vanaamai vasina murume, vakamirira kuti muchinda aoneke muhupenyu hwavo uye agadzirise matambudziko avo ese. Izvi zvakashata zvakanyanya - murume ane matambudziko ake, nei achida yako? - anofunga murairidzi, mainjiniya emutambo, munyori weshanduko, mitambo yebhizinesi uye makadhi edimikira Anna Seglina. - Chekutanga, zvinzwisise, isa pamberi, tarisa pane zvakakosha, wobva watanga kutsvaga.

Kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe kwakawedzera zvakanyanya mikana yekufambidzana: zvese zviri kure, zvinoreva online - taurirana nezvehutano, kwete chete nevarume veguta rako, asi muNyika Yedu uye kunyangwe nevatorwa.

- Soberly ongorora kugona kwako pamberi: dzidzo, ruzivo rwemutauro, tsika, tsika, edza kunzwisisa zvakakosha uye zvakakosha zvaunogona kupa murume. Funga nezvenyika yaunonyatso gadzirira kutamira, kana zvese zvikaitika zvakakwana, Anna Seglina anopa zano. - Gadzirira mutsauko wepfungwa: semuenzaniso, muItari iwe uchafanirwa kuenderana nekukosha kwetsika dzemhuri uye chokwadi chekuti amai vemurume wako vachange vachitarisira mumba. MuIceland, pane zvinopesana, chinonyanya kukosha kudyidzana uye mumaresitorendi munhu wese anozvibhadharira.

Kunyanya

1. Zadza chimiro chako zvine mutsindo, ratidza masimba ako mairi, sarudza foto pawakabuda zvakanaka, asi uchiri kutaridzika sewe muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva.
2. Tarisa munhu chaiye, kwete muchinda: bvumirana, zvichida, wako akaroorana haasi mukuru, kwete mafuta tycoon kana superman.
3. Nyatsodzidza mufananidzo wemurume waunoda muprofile, tarisa nerubatsiro rweinjini dzekutsvaga kwekutanga.
4. Panguva yekukurukurirana, kumbira kukutumira mapikicha kubva muchikamu "uri kupi ikozvino", iva nechokwadi chekushandisa vhidhiyo kutaurirana. Mapikicha anotorwa muimba yekugezera, mapikicha akachekwa, kuramba kutaurirana kuburikidza nemavhidhiyo mafoni uye kugara wakabatikana kupera kwevhiki zviratidzo zvechokwadi zvekuti gamba rako harina kusununguka kana kutevedzera mumwe munhu.
5. Kana iwe uchida kuve nechokwadi chekuti murume akatendeseka kwauri, nyoresa mamwe maprofiles pane imwe saiti, ngaave ari nani pane ako. Tarisa peji kune waungangove mukomana wako, asi usatora danho rekutanga. Kana akakunyorera iwe kutanga, anotanga kuparadzira mukurumbidza, saka pamwe iwe ndiwe wekutanga kusamufarira zvekuti akarega kutsvaga mukadzi wemoyo. Kuzivana kwakadaro kunofanira kumiswa.

Danho rechipiri: Kutsvaga kunofanirwa kunge kuchiitwa

Munguva yekuzviparadzanisa nevamwe, nhamba yevatengi kumasangano ewanano yakawedzera: chii chekuita kana zvikomba ivo pachavo vasina kusimuka?

- Ndakanga ndine mutengi - mukadzi wechidiki aisakwanisa kuwana chero munhu - varume vakarasikirwa nekufarira pavakangoziva kuti ane vana vaviri, - anodaro muridzi weMetkiy Cupid yekuroora agency, matchmaker ane makore makumi matatu echiitiko Svetlana Radaeva. - Makore matatu akapfuura kusvikira "aibva" ini, pakupedzisira, kuteerera. Uye ini ndatova neziso rakadzidziswa: ndinomupa murume, uye iye: "Ah, haasi mhando yangu, imwe mhando mutete." Ndinomuudza kuti: “Hezvo, enda unojairana, kana usingazvifariri, pinda – tichasarudza mumwe.” Uye unofungei? Vakaroorana vanofara, vakaroorana, pamwe chete kwemakore mana.

Nhasi, musika wemasevhisi ewanano unopa nzira dzakawanda dzekudzikisira pasi kutsvaga kwe "iye": nhamba yenhamba ichakubatsira iwe kuwana murume akakodzera nezuva rekuzvarwa, physiognomy - kubvisa vanotsveyamisa, varevi venhema uye varume vanowanzoita zvechisimba, tarot. makadhi - kujekesa ramangwana zvishoma, uye chirongwa chekunze "Antikhvarna" - kuona zviratidzo zve "degeneration" nechiratidzo chezodhiac uye maitiro ekuonekwa - chimiro chenzeve, ruvara rwebvudzi, mabirthmarks.

"Senyanzvi munyaya iyi, ndinogona kutaura kuti murume ane mhanza, ane chiratidzo chezodhiac ishumba, munhu akaipa kwazvo," anodaro Radaeva. -Chiratidzo chega chega chine hunhu hwayo, kuti uone kuti chii, unofanirwa kubata nyanzvi.

Zano reMatchmaker, kana kuti "ita uye usaite"

1. Haungatsvage wekuroorana naye padandemutande – apa ndipo pakazara nhubu uye vanhu vasiri mugwara rekuda kudanana nemunhu ari serious – pane makumi mapfumbamwe kubva muzana. Iwe unogona kushandisa masocial network nekuda kweizvi zvinangwa: enda kuVKontakte, nyora muinjini yekutsvaga mu "inoshanda kutsvaga", isa murume kana mukadzi, zera uye kunyatsodzidza mapeji evarume vaunoda: mafoto, ndeapi mapoka, ndeapi mimhanzi. anoteerera, tsvaga vaunofarira zvakafanana navo.
2. Usatanga wanyora. Isa madiro - zvakwana. Zviri nani kuzvisarudzira "zvinhu" zvishoma kubva kune avo vanoshamwaridzana neshamwari dzako. Saka murume achaona kuti mune shamwari, achafarira. Kana achikuda anonyora. Kana kutaurirana kukatanga, unogona kubvunza shamwari yako iyi kana zvakakodzera kupedza nguva pane "chinhu" chako.
3. Usatumira nyaya yako yese yehupenyu kamwechete. Rondedzero yemisoro yetaboo inosanganisira hukama hwekare, matambudziko emari uye zvikwereti. Izvo zvinogoneka kutaura nezve izvi zvese mushure mekuita bonde, kana zvirinani, mushure memazuva akati wandei "akaenderera mberi". Uye izvi zvisati zvaitika, taura nezvezvinhu zvekuzvivaraidza, tsvaga misoro yakajairika yekukurukurirana.
4. Iwe haugone kuratidza hyper-kunetsekana kwevana, zvikasadaro murume achasarudza kuti achagara ari munzvimbo yechipiri uye zvakare uye achingotiza. Tinogona kutaura kuti vakangwara, vane tarenda, uye zvinonyanya kukosha, vakazvimiririra. Vana, chokwadika, vanofanirawo kuva vakagadzirira mundangariro nokuda kweidi rokuti amai vane kodzero yokuva voga.
5. Usarega murume achigara newe nguva pfupi mushure mekusangana newe - unogona kumhanyira mugigolo, iyo ichava yakaoma zvikuru kubvisa. Iwe unogona kubvuma kumushanyira iwe pachako (wanyevera kare, taura, shamwari yepedyo pamusoro pekwauchange uri), saka iwe unogona kuitisa "reconnaissance in force": ona kana akatsvinda muupenyu hwezuva nezuva, kana maoko ake ari kukura kubva. nzvimbo chaiyo, uye chinhu chikuru ndechekuti iye akasurukirwa chaizvo: slippers dzevakadzi uye bhavhu, hongu, inogona kuva yaamai vake, asi mukana wekuti mukadzi ari munyika uye murume ari kungotsvaga adventure. yakakwirira munyaya iyi.

Nhanho 3: Vimba neYako Intuition

- Zvinogoneka uye zvinodikanwa kutaurirana uye kuronga hupenyu hwemunhu panguva yekuzviparadzanisa nevamwe, - Ndine chokwadi Mubatanidzwa Purofesa weDhipatimendi rePhilosofi yeSamara State Medical University, nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Nina Kovalyunas. - Varume vakajairwa vanoda rudo nekutaurirana vavawo kuzviparadzanisa nevamwe, vari kutsvagawo rudo, uye vazhinji havana basa kana mukadzi ane vana, kana akaroorwa, nekuti chinhu chikuru ndechekutsvaga "wako" munhu. .

Asi pano pane dambudziko rakakura: pamusangano wega, mukadzi anogona kunzwisisa kana murume akakodzera kwaari, nekukurumidza - kunhuhwirira, manzwi, kubata kunouya kuzonunura. Zvino zvanyanya kuoma neizvi - kutaurirana kwaenda kune vatumwa pakarepo. Vhidhiyo nhare dzinokutendera kuti uongorore chitarisiko, asi mimvuri yezwi uye zvimwe zvese zvinosara izvo zvinonzi "kuseri kwezviitiko", saka iwe unogona kunyengedzwa mune zvaunotarisira zvakanyanya.

"PaIndaneti, vakadzi vanogona "kugadzira" nyore nyore mufananidzo wevadiwa, vachinyara kubvunza uye kujekesa zvinomufadza chaizvo," anodaro Nina Kovalyunas. - Naizvozvo, nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinopa zano, kunyangwe muchiitiko chekufambidzana kwepamhepo, kutevedzera mutemo we "angangoita matatu" mazuva usati wanyatsonzwisisa kana iwe uchifanira kuramba munyoreri weruoko nemoyo.

Hongu, kufambidzana mukuzviparadzanisa kwakaoma iye zvino, asi Indaneti inokubvumira kuti utarise firimu pamwe chete kure uye "enda kumitambo" - zvose zviripo, iwe unongofanira kuda. Kana, pane zvinopesana, iwe unogona kuyeuka zvakavanzika zvekare zvekunyengedza: tsamba dzakanyorwa nemaoko pamapepa anonhuwira, kuchinjana kwemabhuku ako aunofarira netsamba ane zvinyorwa mumucheto - madzitateguru edu aitaurirana sei pamberi pekombiyuta yemashoko? Chinhu chikuru apa hachisi chekupfuura uye kwete kutyisa mukomana nemaitiro ako anoshamisa.

Zano renyanzvi

Kuziva murevi wenhema

- Paunenge uchitaurirana paInternet, unogona "kumhanya" nyore nyore kune scammer kana gigolo. Uye ivo vanoziva nzira yekutendeudzira chishuwo chevakadzi chekudanana kune mukana wavo: mazwi akanaka, kurumbidza kusingaperi, nyaya dzemisodzi. Kuti urege kuwira mumusungo, zviri nani kushandisa nzvimbo dzakavimbika uye mapoka paInternet, uye chenjerera kuti usaratidze zvakawanda pamusoro pako.

Mukukurukurirana kwemunhu, murevi wenhema anogona kupiwa nekusaenderana nekutaura uye kusiri kwemazwi masaini: mutauro wemuviri wevanhu vakadaro unowanzo pikisa mutauro wemuviri. PaInternet, iwe unofanirwa kutarisisa kune zvine musoro kusagadzikana, kupesana munhau pamusoro pako. Vimba intuition yako: kana akati "chimwe chinhu chakaipa naye", saka pamwe ndizvo.

Iwe unofanirwawo kunyeverwa nechisimba chiziviso cherudo pamusi we 1-2, unovimbisa kuti munhu haakwanisi kuzadzisa, anokumbira kukwereta mari uye anopa kuti apinde mukati nokukurumidza sezvinobvira.