Ndepapi mutsara uripo pakati pekukwezva kune hutano uye kuvepo? Nzira yekunzwisisa sei kana mudiwa achiona matiri munhu mupenyu ane zvese pluses uye minuses, kana kuzviona sechinhu, mutakuri wechimwe kana chimwe chinhu chinomufadza? Nyanzvi yehukama, psychoanalyst Elisha Perrin akagadzira rondedzero yezviratidzo zvichakubatsira iwe kufamba muhukama husinganzwisisike.
Dambudziko, ravakatanga kunyora nguva pfupi yadarika, rainzi «objectification» — «chinangwa». Muchirevo chehukama hwepabonde, izvi zvinoreva kushamwaridzana umo munhu mumwe anoona kune mumwe kwete munhu, asi "chinhu", chinhu chekuzadzika kwezvido zvake. Psychoanalyst Dr. Elisha Perrin akashanda nezvinetso zvehukama kwemakore akawanda uye akanyora nyaya yekuziva sei kupikisa.
"Ongororo ichangoburwa inoratidza kuti kushomeka kunogona kuve kwakabatana nekumanikidzwa kwepabonde muhukama hwerudo," anonyora kudaro. - Ndosaka. Zvinotonyanya kuvhiringidza, kushomeka kunobatanidzwawo nehuwandu hwekushungurudzwa kwepabonde. Uye izvi, maiwe, hazvishamise zvakare.
Saka iwe unoudza sei mutsauko pakati pekupokana uye kukwezva hutano? Ndezvipi zviratidzo zveyambiro zvekunyanya kungwarira pahukama kana kufambidzana? Zviripachena, tose tinoda kunakidzwa neutano hwakanaka. Dr. Perrin anonyora nezvekuti zvakakosha sei kukwanisa kuzviparadzanisa kubva kune chinhu chisina kunaka chizere nezvinhu zvine ngozi.
Chimiro chepfungwa chisati chakwana
Kutanga, nyanzvi inokurudzira kunzwisisa izvo zvinotungamirira munhu paanenge achida kupikisa mumwe munhu: "Uyo anoita izvi, netsanangudzo, mune pfungwa dzisina kukura." Tichiri vadiki zvikuru, tinoona nyika seyakaumbwa nezvinhu zviduku zvakawanda. Zvinoda kukura kuti uone kuti zvikamu izvi zvinopindirana sei uye nokudaro kutanga kuona vanhu pamwe chete, nenzira yakaoma.
Kana tisati takura, tinowanzoona vamwe se“zvinhu”wo zvavo vanobatira kugutsa chinodikanwa chakati kana basa redu pane imwe nguva. Kwenguva yekutanga, apo isu tisati tave kukwanisa kuzvitarisira isu pachedu, iyi idanho rekuzvarwa rekukura.
Uye zvakadaro, kukura kune hutano kunosanganisira kuremekedza vamwe sevanhu vane kodzero dzavo, zvavanoda, miganhu, hunhu hwakanaka nehwakaipa. Murume kana mukadzi anoona mumwe munhu sechinhu anongomutarisa chete nemaonero ekugutsa zvaanoda iye panguva iyoyo.
Havagoni kufunga nezvemunhu wacho zvakazara saka havakwanisi kuva neukama hwakanaka, hwakakura, kunyanya hwerudo kana hwepabonde.
Nzira yekuziva sei objectification?
1. Muzviitiko zvakawanda, kukwezva kwehutano hakuiti kutarisa kune chikamu chemuviri kana chitarisiko chakati, seizvi kana kuti zvipfeko. Nekukwezva kune hutano, munhu anogona kunakidzwa nekunaka kwemuviri kana mufananidzo, asi zvechokwadi anoona hunhu hwemudiwa ari shure kwayo.
2. Kusangana nekushaya simba kana kupindwa muropa kwakasiyana kune chero nuances, munhu akakura anozviona uye anoakoshesa iwo organically mune mumwe wake, sechikamu chemufananidzo wake kana hunhu. Semuenzaniso, kana murume "achifunga" nemukadzi akapfeka zvitsitsinho zvepamusoro, anogona kuparadzanisa chifananidzo ichi kubva kwaari semunhu - shure kwezvose, chero munhu upi zvake anogona kupfeka shangu dzakadaro. Asi, kune rumwe rutivi, kana akamurumbidza nokuti kuda kwake skiing kwakagadzira chimiro chakaisvonaka chemakumbo ake, izvo zvinoratidzika zvinoshamisa pazvitsitsinho zvakakwirira - zvichida, anokoshesa mukadzi uyu semunhu ane maitiro uye maitiro anoita. hunhu hwake.
3. Munhu akura achataurawo nezvevamwe vanhu somunhu mumwe nomumwe. Haakamure nyika kuita dema nechena uye anogona kutaura nezvemukuru wake, nhengo dzemhuri, kana shamwari seane hunhu hwakanaka uye hwakaipa. Munhu anopikisa anowanzoona vamwe se "vakanaka" chete kana "vakaipa" chete, vachipa kuongororwa kwepamusoro.
4. Kuona vanhu havakwanisi kunzwira tsitsi pane vamwe. Chokwadi ndechekuti patinoona vamwe muhukwana hwavo, tinogona kutarisa nyika nemeso avo, kuona kufanana nekusiyana nesu, kuziva masimba neutera, zvatinoda nezvatisingadi. Aya mano anosarudza kukwanisa kunzwira tsitsi uye kutora maonero emumwe munhu. “Kana uri kufambidzana nomumwe munhu anoita seasingakwanisi kukunzwira tsitsi kana kuti vamwe, nyatsoteerera kuti vanonzwa sei nomuviri wako,” anonyora kudaro Dr. Perrin. "Zvichida uchaona zvimwe zviratidzo zvekuti uri kushorwa."
5. Panguva yekupikiswa, munhu anogona kuwana mafaro chaiwo kubva mukufungisisa, kubata, kana imwe mhando yekusangana pabonde nechero nhengo yemuviri wake. Izvi zvakasiyana nehukama hwepedyo nemumwe munhu anoona mumwe zvachose, uye pamwero wekubata kwemuviri zvakare. Zvakare, nyanzvi inotsanangura, izvi zvinodzokera kune chokwadi chokuti kupikisa ndiko kugutsikana kwechido chekukurumidzira. Kana yangogutswa, ngwariro yomukurukuri inokombamira kune chimwe chinhu, chakadai sechishuvo chake chinotevera.
Paunenge uchiita mhedziso, zvakakosha kuyeuka: zvakanyanyisa hazviwanzoitiki - ndiko kuti, zvinenge zvisingamboitike kuti munhu ane zviratidzo zvishanu kana kuti hapana zvachose.
“Cherechedza mafambiro ehukama hwako. Uye zvinonyanya kukosha, teerera kuti unonzwa sei mavari! Apo mumwe munhu anokushora, zvirokwazvo uchanzwa kuti haukosheswi. Kunakidzwa kwako pachako kunogona kunge kuri kwepamusoro kana kwechinguvana. Iwe unogona kuona kuti kutarisa kwako kwakakanganiswa sei kubva kwauri, uye pfungwa dzako dzakabatikana kufungidzira kuti mumwe wako ari kunzwa sei iye zvino. Nekuda kweizvi, panogona kuve nekunzwa kwekuoma kukuru uye kusiri kwechisikigo. Uye pamwe izvi zvakakonzerwa nekuti uri kurambwa, ”vanopedzisa Dr. Perrin.
Mune maonero ake, zvakakosha kuterera kune zvakanyorwa zviratidzo munguva, nokuti zvinogona kuva zviratidzo zvezvinetso zvakakomba zvikuru mune ramangwana.
Nezve munyori: Elisha Perrin inyanzvi yepfungwa, psychoanalyst, uye munyori weBody Consciousness. Psychoanalytic kudzidza kwemuviri mukurapa.