Kuyaruka inguva iyo mahormone ari kufashaira, apo vasikana vadiki vanowana rudo nebonde. Nguva yakakosha yekuyedza, pasi pekutarisisa uye nerudo rwevabereki vavo. Vanogona kunge vachinetseka, saka zvinonakidza kukwanisa kutaurirana uye kuratidza kutya kwako.

Sekureva kwaAndréa Cauchoix, Murairidzi weRudo, zvinonakidza kuti vabereki vabvunze zvikonzero nei mukomana uyu asingafadze:

• Imhaka yokuti ane pesvedzero yakaipa here? Uye mune iyi kesi, ndeapi hunhu hunodaidzwa mubvunzo mune aya maitiro matsva;
• Zviito here zvichaitwa nemusikana wechidiki? Neizvi tinoreva bonde, kunonoka husiku, kusarara husiku, kufamba, nezvimwe.

Munguva yedu yekupihwa chitupa, tiri kudzidza chikumbiro ichi uye vakati wandei vevandinoshanda navo vakaperekedza vabereki nevana vavo munhaurirano.

Zvakakosha kuti vakadzi vechidiki vakwanise kusangana nehukama hwerudo. "Vanowanzozvikanda muhukama hwavo hwekutanga uye vanodyara mari yakawanda". Vabereki vanogona kushamiswa nenguva ino, iyo yakamboshandiswa pamwe chete, inochengeterwa mumwe munhu, kunze kwe "denderedzwa rekuvimba" sekudanwa kwaRobert De Niro mufirimu "Baba vangu vokurera neni".

Murairidzi werudo anotsanangura kuti “zvakajairika kuti panguva ino, musikana mudiki haafarire kugoverana zvakaitika kwaari. Inyaya yekuvanzika kwake. Asi zvakakosha kumurega ave nezvaakasangana nazvo uye kuremekedza sarudzo dzake. Chero bedzi vasingaise hupenyu hwake munjodzi hongu ”.

Kana vabereki vachida kuunza nyaya yacho, zvichida musikana muduku anofanira kupiwa nguva yokuuya kwavari. Mupe nzvimbo yekutaura, yekutaura nezvehukama uhu.

“Pamwe mukomana uyu ane zvinhu zvakanaka zvisingaonekwi nevabereki. Vanofanira kuratidza kuda kuziva uye pfungwa dzakavhurika kutsvaga mukomana wechidiki uyu. Pamwe vangabvunza musikana zvaanofarira paari. Vanogona kushamiswa nemhinduro ”.

Pasina kushandisa chirevo chakakurumbira "asi iwe unofungei nezvake? », Saka akarayira kuisa manzwiro ake parutivi kuti anyatsopinda muhurukuro uye edza kuona mukomana nemaziso emwana wake nekumuteerera, nekumucherechedza.

Dzimwe nguva zvinonetsa zvevabereki zvine hwaro hwakasimba uye ibasa ravo kupindira kuti vapedze hukama hune chepfu.

Andréa Cauchoix nokudaro anoyeuka kuti kana mukomana uyu akaratidza hunhu:

• ngozi;
• brutal;
• inokurudzira kushandiswa kwezvinodhaka kana doro;
• anonyengedza musikana kuti aite zvaanoda, zvingava zvemari kana zvepabonde;
• ane musiyano mukuru wezera kana kukura;
• zvinomubvisa kushamwari dzake, kubva kumhuri yake, anomuparadzanisa zvishoma nezvishoma.

Muzviitiko zvakasiyana izvi, zvakakosha kupindira. Nhaurirano, dzimwe nguva kureba kwenzvimbo, inogona kuve mhinduro yakanaka. Ramba wakatarisa uye uchiperekedzwa nenyanzvi, mudzidzisi, chiremba wepfungwa, chiremba ari kuenda ... Haufanire kunge uri wega, nekuti wechidiki haangozonzwa mazwi evabereki vake, asi shamwari dzake, nyanzvi inogona. buda mukunyengera kwake.

Musikana wechidiki paanochinja maitiro ake oisa utano hwake, chikoro uye ushamwari panjodzi, anenge ari mugwara. Haachakwanisi kutora chinhambwe kubva pane chaanopa. Mukomana anomurova uye anogona kuita kuti asavimbe naye.

Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinoratidza kuti idzi nyaya dzevechiri kuyaruka kazhinji dzinokurumidza. Mukomana uyu haasi nhengo yemhuri, uye zvakanaka kuti uremekedze chinhambwe ichi, izvo zvichabvumira musikana wechidiki kugumisa ukama paanoda. Chikuko chemhuri chiripo kuvimbisa rusununguko urwu rwekusarudza. Kana vabereki vakabatana zvakasimba nomukomana, musikana wacho achanzwa ane mhaka nokuda kwokumudzivisa.

Hukama hwake hunoendesa vabereki kunyaya dzavo dzerudo, zvavanosangana nazvo, kutambura uye kutya, semafaro nerudo rwakarasika. Havafanire kufambisa kana kuedza kudzokorodza kana kugadzirisa nyaya dzavo kuburikidza nedzemwanasikana wavo.

Kuwana chinhambwe chakakodzera, chinzvimbo chine mutsa uye chinoteerera, hakusi nyore. Manzwiro anomhanya. Ramba wakavhurika, nhaurirano, uye rega kuedza ukure. Marwadzo emoyo zvakare, chikamu chehupenyu uye anovaka wechidiki.