Mushure mekugamuchira chinoyedza kubasa, icho chakavimbisa kukwidzwa kwemuhoro uye kutamira kuLos Angeles, munyori ane makore makumi matatu nemaviri ekuLiverpool akapindura manejimendi ... nekuramba. Briton Amy Roberts aifarira hupenyu husina kugadzikana, asi hwemahara kune kufambira mberi kwebasa rake. Iyi isarudzo yakangwara here? First person nyaya.
Pandakasvitsa makore makumi matatu, ndakanga ndaoma mitezo nemubvunzo wekuti, sezvazvakazoitika, vakadzi vazhinji vanobvunza: ndiri kuitei nehupenyu hwangu? Ndakabva ndabvarurwa pakati peakawanda enguva-yenguva mabasa, ndisingabudiriri kuyedza kudzikisa debit kuchikwereti. Saka apo, gore rakatevera, ndakapiwa basa rinobhadhara zvakanaka semunyori wevashandi pane imwe nzvimbo yevaraidzo, ndakasvetukira pamukana, hongu.
Ipapo pakanga pane mwedzi mipfumbamwe ine vhiki yebasa ramaawa 60 uye kurasikirwa norunako rwose rwoupenyu hwokushamwaridzana. Ipapo pakava nokukwidziridzwa, uye kariro yokutamira kuLos Angeles pakupedzisira yakazaruka pamberi pangu. Mhinduro yangu yaiva yei? Nervous "thanks, asi kwete." Panguva iyoyo, chisarudzo chandakaita chakandityisa, asi zvino ndinoziva kuti chakanga chiri chimwe chezvakanakisisa muupenyu hwangu.
Pabepa, chinzvimbo chemunyori wevashandi chandaive nacho yaive ngano. Zvose izvo, mukuona kwangu, mukadzi ane makore makumi matatu anogona kurota. Asi ndaifanira kubhadhara mutengo mukuru wenzvimbo iyi. Kushanda pasina kumira kwaisangoreva kurega hupenyu hwangu uye kusakwanisa kupedza nguva nevadikani, asi zvakatorawo hutano hwehutano hwangu uye hwepfungwa. Mabasa ebasa akave ekutanga kwandiri: Ndakatanga kusvetuka zororo rangu rekudya kwemasikati nguva nenguva, ndichimuka pakati pehusiku kuti ndipindure maemail asingaverengeki, uye-nekuti ndaishanda kure-kubuda mumba kashoma.
Nhasi, vazhinji vanozvipira kusiya basa rinorema uye vanosarudza chiyero chebasa-hupenyu.
Sosaiti yakapotsa yatiita kuti titende kuti basa rakagadzikana ndiro hwaro hwehupenyu hunobudirira. Asi handina kunzwa ndakabudirira, ndainzwa ndadzingwa uye ndisina chokuita noupenyu. Uye, pakupedzisira, akaramba kwete chete kubva mukusimudzirwa, asi kubva pachinzvimbo zvachose. Chii chinodiwa nemuhoro wakanaka kana ukauya neawavhatiri isina kubhadharwa uye kusakwanisa kuva nemhuri yako? Ndakanga ndisingafari, uye zvakandibatsira kunzwisisa zvandaida muupenyu. Uye pakanga pasina basa pane iro rondedzero raisanganisira kugara palaptop maawa gumi nemana pazuva, mazuva matanhatu pasvondo.
Ndakafunga nezve shanduko huru: Ndakatanga kushanda mubhawa chikamu-nguva. Kukushamisika kwangu kukuru, kusarudzwa kwebasa renguva isina kuzara kwakazova danho rakanaka chaizvo. Iyi purogiramu haingondipe mukana wekutandara neshamwari uye kuwana mari yakadzikama, inonditenderawo kutevera zvishuvo zvangu zvekunyora pachangu. Ndine nguva yekusununguka, ndinogona kuona vadikani vangu uye nditeerere kwandiri. Mushure mekutaura nevakadzi vakati wandei, ndakaona kuti ndanga ndisiri ndega: vazhinji nhasi varikuzvidira kusiya mabasa anorema uye kusarudza mararamiro ebasa.
Lisa ane makore makumi matatu okukura akandiudza kuti akanga ane kuvhiringidzika kwokutya paakawana basa raakanga arota pashure pekoreji somupi wemazano mukati medzimba. “Ndakaenda kuizvi kwemakore anoverengeka, asi ndakatofanira kurega kuti ndizviponese. Iye zvino ndava kuwana zvishoma, asi ndinonzwa kufara zvikuru uye ndava kuona vanhu vandinoda.”
Maria, wezera rake, anobvumawo kuti migariro yebasa haimubvumidzi kupa ngwariro yakakwana kuutano hwake hwendangariro. "Ndakaviga amai vangu nguva pfupi yadarika: vakafa negomarara vachiri vadiki - uye ndakaona kuti mamiriro angu epfungwa anosiya zvakanyanya kudiwa. Uye kuti hakuna achandibatsira kunze kwangu. Uye ndakasarudza kuti ndinofanira kurega kushanda kwekanguva.”
Sezvo ndatora danho shure mubasa rangu, ndakaona kuti inguva yakawanda sei yandasarirwa nezvimwe zvandinofarira uye zvandinofarira. Hana yangu haina kunditendera kuti ndivatambisire nguva muupenyu hwakapfuura. Iyo podcast yandanga ndichida kuita kwenguva yakareba? Yatova mubudiriro. Mamiriro ezvinhu anga achitenderera mumusoro mangu kwemakore mashoma apfuura? Pakupedzisira, inotora chimiro papepa. That ridiculous Britney Spears cover band yandarota? Kuregererei!
Kuva nenguva yekusununguka kunosunungura simba rakawanda rekudyara mumabasa ako aunofarira, uye ichi chinhu chikuru chakanaka.
Kuwanikwa kwakafanana kwakaitwa naLara ane makore 38 okukura. Anoyeuka kuti "akatsvaka rusununguko mune zvose: nenzira yekufunga, mabasa uye kugoverwa kwenguva." Lara akazviona kuti aizofara kudzikamisa pakati pe freelancing and creativity. Uye akasiya "basa rakanaka" rake semunhu wePR kuti ararame nenzira iyoyo. "Ndinogona kunyora, ndinogona kuita podcasts, ndinogona kusimudzira munzvimbo dzandinonyanya kufarira. Ini pakupedzisira ndinodada nebasa rangu - izvi zvakanga zvisiri izvo pandakashanda sePR PR mumhizha yefashoni."
Kristina, makumi maviri nemasere, akarambawo basa renguva yakazara rekushambadzira dhijitari achifarira mamwe mapurojekiti. “Mumwedzi gumi yandakabuda muhofisi, ndakadhinda bhuku rekubika, ndikatanga kushanda neAirbnb, uye iye zvino ndiri kuita mari yakawanda ndichishanda maawa mashoma pazuva kupfuura yandinoita nguva yakazara maawa 28 pavhiki. Ndisingarevi nyaya yekuti ndinopedza nguva yakawanda nemurume wangu. Handidembi chisarudzo changu zvachose!»
SaChristina, ndakadzidza kuti kuva nenguva yemahara kunosunungura gungwa resimba rekudyara muzvinhu zvaunoda-imwe bhenefiti huru yekubuda munzira yako yebasa. Ndinoona shamwari dzangu padzinoda chaizvo, uye ndinogona kutaura nevabereki vangu chero nguva, zvishoma nezvishoma. Zvandaifunga kuti kudzokera shure mubasa rangu zvakatondibatsira kuti ndienderere mberi.
Asi ndinozivawo kuti havasi vese vanokwanisa kuenda kubasa renguva pfupi. Ini handigare muguta rinodhura zvakanyanya uye ndinorenda imba yakachipa (asi isingaratidzike zvakanyanya) nemumwe wangu. Zvechokwadi, shamwari dziri mumaguta makuru seNew York kana London, uko mari yekurarama yakakwirira, haigoni kusiya basa.
Kunze kwezvo, izvozvi ndinongofanira kuzvichengeta ini nekatsi yangu. Ini ndinokahadzika kuti ndaizotaura nezve rusununguko rwekusarudza nechivimbo chakafanana uye tarisiro kana, semuenzaniso, ndaiva nevana. Somukadzi ane mwero zvinodiwa, mari yakawanikwa kubva maawa mashoma ekushanda mubhawa uye freelancing inokwana kwandiri, dzimwe nguva ndinotowana kuzvibata kune chimwe chinhu. Asi ini handisi kuzozviparadzanisa: kazhinji ini pachangu ndinonzwa kutya, ndichiverenga kana ndichave nemari yakakwana yekubhadhara zvese zvinodhura mwedzi unouya.
Muchidimbu, chiitiko ichi chine matambudziko aro. Ndichiri kufara zvakanyanya uye ndichinyatsoda basa rangu remubhawa, chikamu chidiki changu chichiri kufa pese pandinopedza shift yangu naXNUMX:XNUMX mangwanani ndichipukuta kaunda ine tsvina, kana boka revanhu vakadhakwa richipaza. bhawa risati ravhara, richida zvakawanda. banquet. Chimwe chikamu changu chiri kumonyoroka nekuti ndakatoona zvisizvo izvi zvekushanda mubhawa semudzidzi uye zvino, anopfuura makore gumi gare gare, ndinofanira kubata nazvo zvakare.
Zvakakosha kubhadhara zvikwereti nenguva, asi zvakakoshawo kuchengetedza hukama, kutevera zvido zvako, uye kuzvichengeta iwe pachako.
Zvisinei, iye zvino ndine maonero akasiyana kune basa rimene uye kuzadzika kwemabasa angu. Ndakaona kuti ndinofanira kuzvidzora uye kungwarira kana ndichida kuramba ndichinakidzwa nezvakanaka zvemararamiro aya, kunyange zvazvo kuzvidzora kusiri pfungwa yangu yakasimba. Ndakava akarongeka uye ndakaisa pfungwa dzangu, uye pakupedzisira ndakadzidza kuramba kune zviya zvekutandara kweusiku kwandakaita kukoreji.
Ndakaona kuti basa rinobudirira chete kana richiita kuti ndifare uye rinovandudza mararamiro angu zvachose. Apo basa rinova rinokosha kupfuura kugara zvakanaka kwangu uye kugara zvakanaka, ndinorega kurarama, ndinongozvipira kuti ndisimudzire kambani. Hongu, zvakakosha kubhadhara rendi nemabhiri nenguva, asi zvakangokoshawo kwandiri kuti ndichengetedze hukama, ndiite zvandinoda, uye ndizvichengete ndisingazvipedzi mhosva yekupedza nguva ndichiita zvinhu zvandisiri kubhadharwa.
Makore maviri apfuura kubva ipapo hysteria manheru ekuzvarwa makumi matatu. Saka ndiri kuitei nehupenyu hwangu nhasi? Ndinorarama nazvo. Uye zvakakwana.
Kwakabva: Bustle.