«Mimosa», «Olivier» uye zvose zvakafanana zviso vehama - dzimwe nguva zvinoita sokuti ose New Year tinopemberera zvakafanana mamiriro, uye inofinha. Asi kuchengeta tsika kunotipa tsigiro yakasimba zvikuru uye kunotibatsira kunzwa tiri vadiki, anonyora kudaro chiremba wepfungwa Kimberly Kay.
Kuchengeta tsika dzezororo kwakakosha kune hutano hwedu hwepfungwa - zvakanyanya kukosha kupfuura zvatingafungidzira. Zvichida hatidi kuona mhuri panguva yezororo uye tichiyeuka nekusuwa kukuru kuti wechidiki wedu akatsamwa sei akapanduka pagungano remhuri rinotevera - nenzira, vechidiki vanopikisa zviri pachena kuti vakamuka mune vamwe vanhu vakuru patafura yedu. Asi manzwiro anoshamisa e "nguva yekufamba" kuburikidza nekumutswa kwekuyeuka kwehuduku hwedu chipo chikuru kwatiri, nokuti inobatsira kunzwa zvishoma nekusingaperi muupenyu.
Nemamwe mashoko, tsika dzinoita kuti tinzwe tiri vadiki. Ivo vanopa rutsigiro uye zvinoreva hupenyu hwedu, anodaro chipangamazano uye psychotherapist Kimberly Kay. Vanotochengeta ndangariro dzedu dzichishanda, sezvo ivo vanongobatidza ndangariro dzekushamwaridzana dzezvakaitika kare kubva kumatanho ekutanga ebudiriro. Somuenzaniso, muhuduku taiziva kuti hatifaniri kubata chitofu apo keke reGore Idzva raibikwa, uye gare gare isu tatozvibika isu pachedu.
Kimberly Kay anoyeuka achiedza kupandukira tsika gore rakasiyiwa nemwanasikana wake kuzororo rababa vake. Mudzimai wacho akanga achinetseka nokurambana kwaakanga aitwa uye akanga abhowekana zvikuru. Shamwari yakauya kwaari kubva kune rimwe guta uye yakatsigira "chirongwa chekumukira" - kusiya ndiro dzechinyakare uye kudya sushi chete.
Zvisinei, chirongwa chacho chakakundikana. Kay akafonera nzvimbo dzese dziri pedyo uye haana kuwana imwe yekudyira yesushi yakavhurika. Kana musupermarket maive musina kana roll imwe chete. Mushure mekutsvaga kwenguva refu, nzvimbo yekudyira yehove yakawanikwa, yakavhurwa pazororo chairo. Madzimai akabhuka tafura, asi ipapo zvakazoitika kuti pazuva iri, vachitevedzera tsika, havana kubika hove mukicheni, asi ndiro dzechinyakare dzakafanana nemhuri imwe neimwe.
Makore gare gare, Kay anotaura nezvechiitiko ichi se "chikomborero chakavanzika" chakamunyaradza pakusaziva, panguva chaiyo yaaida kunyaradzwa uye kutsigirwa. "Zvinoshamisa kuti isu tinowanzo siyana nevanhu uye zvinhu panguva yatinoda zvakanyanya," anonyora kudaro. “Chokwadi, kutaura neshamwari kwakatowedzera kutsigira, uye tose takaseka kuti takanga tisingagoni kubva pakudya kwemanheru kwechinyakare.”
Dzimwe nguva zvinoratidzika kuti tinomanikidzwa kushivirira tsika, asi zvikomborero zvavo zvakavanzwa kubva pakuziva kwedu. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, tinochema kurasikirwa kwevanoda, uye zvino kuchengetedza tsika dzemazuva ose dzezororo kunoita kuti zvikwanise "kurebesa" kuvapo kwavo muupenyu hwedu.
Gore rino tinogona kugadzira paki yekabichi maererano nemabikirwo akaitwa naMbuya. Uye kumutsidzira mundangariro hurukuro naye nezve maitiro ekuzadza nemazvo. Tinogona kuyeuka kuti akaisa apuro mumimosa, nokuti sekuru vake vaifarira, uye mbuya vake vaigara vachibika cranberry juice. Tinogona kufunga nezvevadikanwi vose vasisipo nesu, uye avo vari kure nesu. Kuyeuka uduku hwako uye kuudza vana vako nezvazvo, pamwe chete navo kubika ndiro dzemazuva ose dzezororo dzemhuri yedu.
“Rudo rwendangariro idzi runopenya zvikuru zvokuti ndinorunzwa ruchipisa zvinorwadza zvomunguva yakapfuura ndokurera mhodzi dzisingagumi dzorudo nokuonga nokuda kwenguva dzakanaka,” Kay anonyora kudaro.
Kutsvakurudza kwepfungwa kunoratidza kuti mukana we "nguva yekufamba" yatinowana kubva pakuchengetedza tsika nemagariro ndeye, mupfungwa, inoyeuchidza uduku. Saka regai makore ekunetseka adzoke shure kweiyi New Year nezororo reKisimusi gakava uye isu tichave vadiki - zvese mumweya nemumuviri.
Nezve Munyori: Kimberly Kay i psychotherapist, chipangamazano uye murevereri.