Mukati
Manzwiro - ese akanaka uye asina kunaka - anogona kupararira sehutachiona pakati penharaunda yedu. Ichi chokwadi chakasimbiswa kakawanda nezvidzidzo zvakasiyana-siyana. Psychotherapist Donald Altman anoudza nzira yekuva nemufaro nekuvaka hukama hwemagariro nenzira kwayo.
Unowanzonzwa wakasurukirwa, wasiyiwa here? Iwe unonzwa sokuti hukama hwako hahuchanzwisisiki here? “Kana zvakadaro, hausi woga,” anovimbisa kudaro chiremba wepfungwa uye aimbova mumongi wechiBuddha Donald Altman. “Kutaura zvazviri, vanenge 50% yevanhu vanosurukirwa uye vanenge 40% vanotenda kuti ukama hwavo hahuna zvahunoreva.” Uyezve: hafu chete yevanhu vanogona kutaura zvizere nemumwe munhu akakosha uye akakosha.
Denda rekusurukirwa
IAmerican World Health Organisation Cigna yakaita chidzidzo chinosanganisira vanhu vanopfuura zviuru makumi maviri uye yakawana chaiyo "denda" rekusurukirwa muUnited States. Panguva imwecheteyo, chizvarwa Z chakave chakanyanya kusurukirwa (zera - kubva pamakore gumi nemasere kusvika makumi maviri nemaviri), uye vamiriri ve "Great Generation" (20+) vanonzwa kunzwa uku kushoma.
Mukurwisana nekusurukirwa, chinangwa chemunhu ndechekuyera kwehupenyu hwake - kurara kwakakwana, kuita basa remuviri uye kushamwaridzana nevamwe vanhu. Asi sezvo iyi iri nyaya yakaoma, Altman anokurudzira kunyura mukati memusoro wenyaya uye kuverenga pamusoro pekutsvagisa kuti hupenyu hwemagariro hunokanganisa sei hupenyu hwepfungwa.
Manzwiro anopararira seutachiona
Muzvinafundo weHarvard Medical School Nicholas Christakis uye purofesa wepaUniversity yeCalifornia Natural and social science purofesa James Fowler vakadzidza hukama hwemagariro se "ngetani" dzerufaro.
Masayendisiti akaedza kubatana kwevanhu vanopfuura 5000 vaive vatori vechikamu mune chimwe chirongwa chakaongorora chirwere chemoyo. Iyo purojekiti yakavambwa muna 1948, uye chizvarwa chechipiri chenhengo dzayo chakabatana muna 1971. Nokudaro, vatsvakurudzi vakakwanisa kutarisa network yekushamwaridzana kwevanhu kwemakore akawanda, iyo yakawedzera kakawanda nekuda kwekuparadzaniswa kweumwe neumwe mubatanidzwa.
Chidzidzo chacho chakaratidza kuti zvinhu zvisina kunaka - kufutisa uye kusvuta - zvakapararira kuburikidza ne "network" yevanozivana nenzira yakafanana nekufara. Vatsvakurudzi vakaona kuti kutandara nevanhu vanofara kwakawedzera mufaro wedu pachedu ne15,3%, uye kwakawedzera mikana yedu ne9,8% kana munhu anofara aiva shamwari yepedyo.
Kunyange kana upenyu hukaoma, zvichiita kuti tive toga zvikuru, tinogona kuedza kuita mutsauko.
Donald Altan anotiyeuchidza kuti kushamwaridzana chinhu chakakosha chemufaro. Kuva neshamwari inofara kana hama iri pedyo hakuzokubatsira kuti ufare kana ichigara kune rimwe guta. Chete pachedu, kusangana kwekurarama kunobatsira "kuparadzira" kunzwa uku. Uye kunyange kukurukurirana paInternet kana parunhare hakushandi zvinobudirira semusangano wakatarisana.
Heano mibairo mikuru yezvidzidzo zvakadudzwa nenyanzvi yepfungwa:
- kuenzanisa kwehupenyu kunokosha zvikuru - pamwe chete nekukurukurirana kwevanhu;
- manzwiro anogona kupararira seutachiona;
- kusurukirwa hakusi kwechigarire.
Akawedzera pfundo rokupedzisira rakavakirwa pachitendero chokuti kusurukirwa kwakavakirwa zvikurukuru pamufambiro wedu nemararamire, izvo zvinogona kuchinjwa. Kunyange apo upenyu hunenge husingadzoreki, huchitisiya takasurukirwa zvikuru, tinogona kuita nhamburiko yokuita mutsauko, kubatanidza kuita zvisarudzo zvine revo pamusoro pemhoteredzo inopesvedzera zvikuru mamiriro edu omufaro.
Matanho matatu kubva pakusurukirwa kuenda kune mufaro
Altman inopa nzira nhatu dzakajeka uye dzine simba dzekuunza kuenzanisa kuhupenyu uye zvinoreva kuhukama.
1. Dzora manzwiro ako maererano nenguva yazvino
Kana iwe usina kuenzanisa mukati, saka hauzokwanisi kutanga kuonana kwakanaka nevamwe. Bata mukufungisisa kana maitiro ekufunga kuti udzidzise kuisa pfungwa dzako pane izvozvi uye izvozvi.
2. Tsaura nguva zuva rega rega yekutaurirana.
Vhidhiyo yekukurukurirana, hongu, yakanakira, asi haina kukodzera kuzere-yakazara kutaurirana nemunhu akakosha kwauri. "Tora dhijitari uye shandisa maminetsi gumi-10 uine hurukuro yakanaka yekare ine revo," Altman anopa zano.
Tarisa kuti nharaunda yako - kubva kune midhiya kusvika kuvanhu chaivo - inokanganisa sei manzwiro ako. Imwe nzira yekuvaka hukama hwakanaka ndeyekugovera nyaya dzinosimudzira nevamwe vanhu. Nokuita izvi, uchave wakanyanya kusarudza zuva rega rega, uchitarisa nyika yakakupoteredza nenzira yakanaka.
"Edza tsika iyi uye uchaona kuti matanho matatu akareruka nekufamba kwenguva achakubvisa sei pakunzwa kusurukirwa uye kuunza hukama hune revo muhupenyu hwako," anopfupikisa Donald Altman.
Nezve munyori: Donald Altman murapi wepfungwa uye munyori we akati wandei emabhuku, kusanganisira akatengesa zvakanyanya Chikonzero! Kumutsa huchenjeri hwekuve pano uye zvino. "