Mwana wangu ari murudo

Rudo rwake rwekutanga

3-6 makore: zera rekutanga rudo

Iwo ekutanga erudo idyll anozvarwa kare kare muvana. "Manzwiro aya anomuka pavanongotanga kushamwaridzana, pakati pemakore 3 ne6. Munguva iyi, vanofadzwa ne rudo kufarira", Inotsanangura mwana chiremba wepfungwa Stéphane Clerget. “Pavanopinda chikoro, vanoona kuti vanogona kunzwa rudo kune vamwe vanhu kunze kweavo vanovachengeta zuva nezuva: vabereki, nanny… Pamberi pedanho rino, havarambidzwe. kupfuura ivo nemhuri dzavo. “

Kuti vapinde murudo, ivo vanofanirawo kupasa kepa yeOedipus complex uye kunzwisisa kuti havagoni kuroora mubereki wavo wechikadzi.

6-10 makore: shamwari kutanga!

“Pakati pemakore 6 ne10, vana vanowanzorega rudo rwavo. Vanoisa pfungwa pane dzimwe nzvimbo dzavanofarira, zvavanofarira ... Uyezve, kana hukama hwerudo hukatora nzvimbo yakawandisa panguva iyi, izvi zvinogona kuitwa nekurasikirwa kwekukura kwemwana. Vabereki havafanire kukurudzira vana vavo pane izvi. Tinofanira kuremekedza latency iyi murudo. ”

Tonga rudo rukuru rwevadiki vedu

Kunzwa kukuru

“Mirangariro yokutanga yorudo yakafanana zvikuru neiya inonzwiwa navanhu vakuru, kuderera kwechishuvo chevatano,” inosimbisa kudaro Stéphane Clerget. "Pakati pemakore matatu kusvika matanhatu, manzwiro aya anoumba rondedzero, a rudo rwechokwadi kurudziro, iyo iri kuiswa zvishoma nezvishoma. Zvakakosha kuti usaisa dzvinyiriro kuvana uye kusaronga ruzivo rwevakuru parudo urwu. Haufanire kuzviseka kana kunyanya kuda, izvo zvingavakurudzira kuti vazvivhare. ”

Anowedzera kukunda

Mwana wako anochinja here mudiwa wake nehembe yake? Kuna Stéphane Clerget, iye usapa chikwereti chakawandisa kuhukama hwemwana uhu. “Zvinogona kuitika kuti izvi zvinoratidza kuti mhuri haina kugadzikana. Mumwe wevarwere vangu vechidiki akafungira baba vake kuti vaive nevatano kunze kwemuchato uye akazvishandura kudaro, asi mwana anochinja vadikani kazhinji haazove munhu anoda vakadzi gare gare! Kana, pane zvinopesana, mwana wako asina kumbova nevadiwa sevamwe shamwari dzake, unofanira kutanga wabvunza kana ane shamwari kuchikoro. Ndiro rinonyanya kukosha. Kana akaparadzaniswa, achizvibvisa mukati make, zvichave zvakakosha kuita kuti amubatsire kutaura. Kune rumwe rutivi, kana asina mudiwa nokuti iye haafariri nazvo, asi ane ushamwari, hapana chekunetseka nezvazvo. Izvo zvichauya gare gare. ”…

Marwadzo ekutanga chaiwo

Zvinosuruvarisa, hapana anopukunyuka. Zvakafanira tora zvakakomba kusuwa uku. Sokutsanangura kunoita Stéphane Clerget, “kudzivirira” vana pakurwadziwa mwoyo kunomuka mudzidzo yose. “Hapana chikonzero chekuvagadzirira kutanga. Kutaura idi, kuri kupfurikidza nokuwana ganhuriro kusimba rake rose, kubvira pazera duku, kuti mwana anogadzirirwa zvakanakisisa nokuda kwenhamo. Kana achiri kujaira kupihwa zvese kwaari, aisagona kunzwisisa kuti mudiwa wake haachamudi, anonoke zvishuwo zvake uye angave nedambudziko rekuzvipedza. “

Kutsanangurira vana kuti haugone kumanikidza shamwari diki kutamba newe uye kuti unofanirwa kuremekedza sarudzo dzemumwe kunokosha zvakare. “Kana mwana asangana nedambudziko iri, vabereki vanofanira taura naye, munyaradze, umusimudzire, umudzosere kune ramangwana", Anotsanangura mwana chiremba wepfungwa.

Flirt yekutanga

Pakupinda koreji, zvinhu zvinowanzowedzera kukomba. Mwana anogona kuzvivharira mukamuri make kuti ataure kwemaawa akawanda parunhare kana pasocial network nemukomana wake. Kuita sei?

“Kungava kukurukura nevaunodzidza navo kana kuti nemukomana wavo, vabereki vanofanira, nepo vachiremekedza kusaziva kwemwana wavo, kuganhurira maawa anopedzwa vari pakombiyuta kana kuti parunhare. Zvakakosha pakukura kwayo. Vakuru vanofanira kumubatsira kuti azvipire kune chimwe chinhu. “

Kutsvoda kwekutanga kunoitika pazera re13 uye inomiririra nhanho yekuenda kune vanhu vakuru pabonde. Asi munharaunda ino umo kuyaruka kunowedzera kuve nebonde, tinofanira kubatanidza kutanga kutamba uye hukama hwepabonde hwekutanga here?

“Vabereki vanofanira kudzidzisa vana vavo nekuvaka hwaro. Zvakakosha kugadzirira vechidiki hupenyu hwavo hwepabonde mune ramangwana, uchisimbisa kuti ruzhinji rwepabonde rwuri pamakore gumi nemashanu, uye kuti kusvika vakura, vanogona kutamba. “

Kutya kufurirwa, kunyanyisa… vabereki havawanzofarira vakomana…

“Kana kuri nemhaka yokuti haudi chitarisiko chake, usangonyanya kukoshesa ukama hwako hwepakutanga,” anotsanangura kudaro Stéphane Clerget. “Kune rumwe rutivi, vabereki vanofanira kuva netsika noruremekedzo kuvakomana vavo. Chero zvazvingava, kana vasingamudi, zvakanaka kumugamuchira kuti amuzive, aonane nevabereki vake. Kusangana naye ndiyo nzira yakanakisa yekuti vakuru vadzore uye vaone zviri kuitika. ”