Nepo mwana wako achangodzokera kuchikoro, mubvunzo mumwe chete "wakasindimara" kwauri: ane shamwari nevasikana here? Munharaunda yedu, kudzvinyirirwa uye kukomberedzwa neshamwari kunonyanya kukosheswa, nepo, kune rumwe rutivi, vanhu vane hunhu hwakachengetedzeka kana kuti vari voga havanyanyi kunzwisiswa. Saka, vabereki vanowanzoda kuziva kuti mwana wavo ndiye "nyeredzi" yekuzorora, shamwari nemunhu wese, akasununguka uye "akakurumbira".
Neraki, kana zvinosuruvarisa, hazvisi zvese zvinogara zvakadaro. Vamwe vana havanyanyi kushamwaridzana nevamwe, kana kuti vakatosiyana.
Boyfriends muhuduku: mubvunzo wehunhu
Panzvimbo pokumanikidzira mwana kupfurikidza nokuramba uchimubvunza kana akaita shamwari, nokudaro ndokunongedzera munwe paidi rokuti “hazvisi zvenguva” kuti aite Kana zvikasadaro, zvakanaka kushamisika pamusoro pomwana “ social style”, nezvehunhu hwake. Vanonyara, vasingadi, vanorota ... Vamwe vana vanofarira kutamba vari voga, kana vaviri vaviri, pane vari mumapoka, uye sarudza kudyidzana kudiki kune "mass effect". Vanonyatsosununguka nemwana mumwe kana vaviri vavanoziva, panzvimbo peboka rose. Uye shure kwezvose, zvakashata zvakadaro?
Kana mwana wako achinyara, kuramba uchimuudza kuti anofanira kusvika kune vamwe hazvibatsiri, pane kudaro. Zvirinani tambira pasi kunyara uku, kuregererei nokumuudza kuti iwewo wakanga uchinyara (kana kuti mumwe mutezo weboka rako, chinhu chinokosha chiri chokuti iye anonzwa asinganyanyi kusurukirwa). Uye bvisa mitsara yakaipa, kunyanya paruzhinji, pamusoro pekunyara kwake. Mukurudzire kuti akunde, nematambudziko madiki iyo icharumbidzwa gare gare, inzira isina mhosva uye inovaka zvikuru.
"Mwana wangu haambokokwa kumazuva ekuzvarwa ..." Zano rekuputsika
Mukirasi, kukoka kwezuva rekuzvarwa kuri kuyerera… uye mwana wako haambogashira imwe. Uye izvozvo zvinomusuruvarisa! Mamiriro ezvinhu asiri nyore kwaari… Angélique Kosinski-Cimelière, chiremba wepfungwa muParis, anomupa zano rekugadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
>> Tinoedza kuwana zvakawanda, semuenzaniso kubva kumudzidzisi. Zviri sei pakuzorora: mwana wedu anotamba nevamwe here? Anorambwa here? Pane chimwe chinhu chakaitika here? Anonyara here? Kana zvakadaro, tinogona kumubatsira kuti agadzirise kuzviremekedza kwake. Anobva akurudzirwa kuti ataure zvaanofunga. Tinomurumbidza nekubudirira kwake. Tinomukurudzira kuti asvike kune vamwe, kuti vasarudzewo.
>> Tinotambira pasi. Kuti timunyaradze, tinomutsanangurira kuti vabereki havagoni kukoka vana vakawandisa nokuda kwezuva rokuberekwa nemhaka yokuti vanofanira kutariswa uye kuva nenzvimbo yakakwana yokuvagamuchira. Asi hazvirevi kuti shamwari dzake hadzimudi. Pano zvakare, tinogona kutanga kubva pamuenzaniso wedu: shamwari dzedu dzimwe nguva dzinodyawo kudya kwemanheru pasina isu. Uye dzimwe nguva imwe shamwari isina kukokwa. "Tinogonawo kuronga chiitiko chakanaka chaanoda kuita zuva iroro, semuenzaniso, kuenda kunodya keke," anodaro Angélique Kosinski-Cimelière. Kana kuti kumbira waunodzidza naye chiso nechiso kuti ugadzire mabhondi akasimba. Anogona kuzoda kumukokawo. Tinotsvaka mamwe manyuko eushamwari kuburikidza nezviitwa zvakaita sejudo, mitambo yemitambo, zvidzidzo zvekudhirowa… Uye zvino, tinomuyeuchidza kuti shamwari chaidzo dzinowanzoitwa kana takura.
Dorothee Blancheton
Kubatsira mwana wako kuita shamwari
Zvingava zvinonyadzisa kuti mwana arege kuumba ushamwari panguva yehuduku, nokuti izvi zvine basa rinokosha rehupenyu hwake hwemangwana uye hunogona kumuunza zvinhu zvakawanda.
Pane kumanikidza mwana wake kuenda kumabiko ebhavhadhe kana asingadi, kana kuti kumunyoresa pakuda kwake mune mamwe maextra-curricular chiitiko, isu tichasarudza kumupakoka shamwari kana vaviri kuti vauye kuzotamba kumba, panzvimbo yavanoziva.
Tinogona, mukutaurirana naye, kusarudza chiitiko chekuwedzera-curricular muboka duku, sekutamba, judo, theatre… Manongedzo anogadzirwa ipapo haana kufanana nekuchikoro, munzvimbo inotariswa zvakanyanya.
Kana achinyara, kutamba nemwana mudiki zvishoma (muvakidzani, muzukuru kana muzukuru, semuenzaniso) kunogona kumubatsira kuti ave nechivimbo nevana vezera rake, nekumuisa pachinzvimbo "hombe".
Chekupedzisira, kana mwana wako ari "precocious", panzvimbo pacho munyore muzviitiko zvaangangosangana nevana "saiye". Semuenzaniso mukirabhu chess kana achifarira mutambo uyu, sainzi, zviitiko zvemanyorero, nezvimwe.
Mwana anogonawo kuva neshamwari shoma kwenguva pfupi, nekuda kwekutama, kuora mwoyo kana kudheerera kuchikoro. Teerera kunzwa kwake, uye usazengurira kutaura nomudzidzisi wake kuti muwane mhinduro pamwe chete.