Perfectionism - chakavanzika chekubudirira kana chirwere?

Perfectionism inhaurwa.

Kazhinji ndinonzwa, shamwari yangu, kuti vanhu vaduku vane madenderedzwa mumaziso avo vatema nemhaka yokuneta vachitaura vachidada pamusoro pavo vamene, kuti: “Ndinonzi munhu anoda kukwana.”

Vanodaro, sokudada, asi ini handinzwi kufarira.

Ini ndinokurudzira kufungisisa iyo thesis yekuti kukwana, asi, zvakaipa pane zvakanaka. Kunyanya, kuparara kwekutya.

Uye chechipiri-chii chinogona kuva imwe nzira yekuda kukwana?

Wikipedia: Perfectionism - mune zvepfungwa, kutenda kuti chakanakira chinogona uye chinofanira kuwanikwa. Mune pathological form - kutenda kuti chigumisiro chisina kukwana chebasa hachina kodzero yekuvapo. Uyewo, kukwana ndiko chido chekubvisa zvinhu zvose "zvakanyanyisa" kana kuita "zvisina kuenzana" chinhu "chakapfava".

Kutsvaga kubudirira kuri muhunhu hwevanhu.

Mupfungwa iyi, kuda kuita zvinhu nenzira yakakwana kunokurudzira kuti ushande nesimba kuti zvinhu zviitwe.

Sesimba rekutyaira - rakanyanya hunhu hunobatsira, fungidziro yakanaka yehunyanzvi hwepfungwa mumusoro mangu inondiudza.

Ndinobvumirana. Zvino, shamwari yangu, divi rakasviba remwedzi:

• Kuita zvakakwana nguva yakakwirira mari (kwete zvakanyanya kugadzira mhinduro, asi yekupukuta).
• Naizvozvowo kushandiswa kwesimba (kusava nechokwadi, kusava nechokwadi, kusava nechokwadi).
• Kuramba chokwadi (kuramba pfungwa yekuti mugumisiro wakanaka haugone kuwanikwa).
• Kubatana kubva pamhinduro.
• Kutya kukundikana = kusagadzikana uye kukwirira kwekushushikana.

Ini ndinonzwisisa vanotenda zvakakwana, nekuti kwemakore mazhinji ini pachangu ndakazvikudza semunhu anonyatso shanda.

Ndakatanga basa rangu mukushambadzira, uye ichi ndicho chitubu chedenda rekufungidzira (kunyanya chikamu chayo chine chekuita nekuona kutaurirana - ndiani anoziva, achanzwisisa).

Benefits: zvigadzirwa zvemhando yepamusoro (webhusaiti, zvinyorwa, zvigadziriso zvekugadzira).

Anti-benefits: shanda maawa gumi nemashanu pazuva, kushayikwa kwehupenyu hwemunhu, kugara uchinzwa kunetseka, kushaya mukana wekuvandudza nekuda kwemhinduro.

Uye ipapo ndakawana pfungwa optimism (yakanyorwa naBen-Shahar), yakabvuma, uye ndinopa kwamuri kuti muifunge.

Iyo Optimalist inoshandawo nesimba sePerfectionist. Musiyano Wakakosha - Optimalist anoziva kumira nenguva.

Iyo Optimalist inosarudza uye haazive iyo yakanaka, asi optimal - yakanyanya kunaka, inofarirwa zvakanyanya pasi pemamiriro ezvinhu aripo.

Hazvina kunaka, asi nhanho yakakwana yehutano.

Kukwana hazvirevi kuderera. Zvakakwana - zvinoreva, mukati megadziriro yebasa razvino - kune mashanu epamusoro pasina kurwira kune mashanu epamusoro ane plus.

Iyo yakafanana Ben-Shahar inopa kuenzanisa maitiro emhando mbiri:

• Kukwana - nzira semutsetse wakatwasuka, kutya kukundikana, tarisa pane chinangwa, «zvose kana hapana», nzvimbo yekudzivirira, mutsvaki wezvikanganiso, yakasimba, inochengetedza.
• Optimalist -iyo nzira seyekutenderera, kutadza semhinduro, kutarisisa kunosanganisira. munzira inoenda kuchinangwa, kuvhurika kune zano, mutsvaki wezvakanakira, anochinja nyore.

Saka musimboti wangu weanti-perfectionism ndewekuti: optimal - mhinduro yakanaka pasi pemamiriro akapihwa munguva shoma.

Semuenzaniso, ndinonyora basa rekugadzira. Pane dingindira, ndinoisa chinangwa. Ndinozvipa maminitsi makumi matanhatu ekunyora. Mamwe maminetsi makumi matatu ekugadzirisa (sekutonga, "manzwisisiro" anondibata mushure memaawa mashoma). Ndizvo zvose. Ndakazviita nokukurumidza uye zvinobudirira, nenzira yakanakisisa mukati megadziriro yebasa uye munguva yakatarwa, ndakaenderera mberi.

Zvinorayirwa:

• Sarudza mhedzisiro yaunoda ichakugutsa iwe
• Tsanangura mhinduro yako yakanaka. Pindura, nei uchifanira kuunza mhedzisiro inogutsa kune yakanaka? Ndezvipi zvinobatsira?
• Donhedza zvakawandisa
• Isa zuva rekupedzisira rekupedzisa
• Ita chiito!

Mumwe muenzaniso wekufunga nezvawo:

Gore rakapfuura, ndakaita kosi yeunyanzvi hwokutaura, somugumisiro, ndakatora rutivi mumakwikwi okutaura.

Sezvo ini ndakaisa mari mukuita uye kuwana mhedzisiro, ndakaita zvine hungwaru maererano nevatongi.

Uye heino gangaidzo - mhinduro kubva kuvatongi ine shungu, asi vanovhotera vadzivisi vangu, avo vaive vasina simba.

Ndakakunda makwikwi. Nekushandisa simba kwakawanda.

Ini ndinobvunza murairidzi wangu, - Zvakaita sei, semhinduro "zvese zvakanaka, moto", asi ivo havavhote?

Unotamba zvakanyanya zvekuti zvinogumbura vanhu,” Kochi anondiudza.

Ndizvo.

Uye pakupedzisira, mienzaniso mishoma:

Thomas Edison, uyo akanyoresa 1093 patents - kusanganisira patents egirobhu remagetsi, phonograph, telegraph. Paakaudzwa kuti akanga akundikana kakawanda paaishanda pakugadzira zvinhu zvake, Edison akapindura kuti: “Handina kumbokundikana. Ndangowana nzira zviuru gumi dzisingashande. "

Zvakadini kana Edison aiva munhu asingadi zvakakwana? Pamwe ingadai yakave girobhu raive pamberi penguva yaro nezana ramakore. Uye girobhu chete. Dzimwe nguva huwandu hunokosha kupfuura hutano.

Michael Jordan, mumwe wevatambi vakuru venguva yedu: “Mubasa rangu, ndakarovha kanopfuura zviuru zvipfumbamwe. Akarasikirwa nemakwikwi anoda kusvika mazana matatu. Kanosvika makumi maviri nenhanhatu ndakatambidzwa bhora rekukunda kupfura ndikapotsa. Hupenyu hwangu hwose ndakakundikana zvakare uye zvakare. Uye ndosaka yakabudirira. "

Ko kana Joridhani akamirira nguva dzese kuti mamiriro akakwana atore pfuti? Nzvimbo yakanaka yekumirira iyi seti yemamiriro ari pabhenji. Dzimwe nguva zviri nani kuita kunyange kuedza kunoratidzika kunge kusina tariro pane kumirira zvakakodzera.

Mumwe murume pazera ramakore makumi maviri namaviri akarasikirwa nebasa rake. Kwapera gore, akaedza rombo rake mune zvematongerwo enyika, achimhanyira kudare reparamende, uye akarasikirwa. Ipapo akaedza ruoko rwake mubhizinesi - haana kubudirira. Pazera remakore makumi maviri nemanomwe, akatambura kusagadzikana kwekutya. Asi akapora, uye pazera remakore makumi matatu nemana, awana ruzivo, akamhanyira kuCongress. Rasika. Zvakafanana zvakaitika makore mashanu gare gare. Asina kuodzwa mwoyo zvachose nekukundikana, anosimudza bhawa zvakanyanya uye pazera remakumi mana nematanhatu anoedza kusarudzwa kuSeneti. Kana pfungwa iyi yakundikana, anoisa pamberi pechigaro chemutevedzeri wemutungamiri wenyika, uye zvakare akasabudirira. Nekunyara makumi emakore ezvipingamupinyi zvehunyanzvi uye kukundwa, anomhanya zvakare kuSeneti manheru ekuzvarwa kwake makumi mashanu uye akakundikana. Asi makore maviri gare gare, murume uyu anove Mutungamiriri weUnited States. Zita rake ainzi Abraham Lincoln.

Ko kana Lincoln aive munhu asingadi? Sezvingabvira, kukundikana kwokutanga kungadai kwakava kugogodza kwaari. Munhu anoda kukwana anotya kukundikana, ane optimalist anoziva kusimuka mushure mekukundikana.

Uye, hongu, mundangariro, akawanda eMicrosoft software zvigadzirwa zvakaburitswa «mbishi», «zvisina kupera», zvakakonzera kutsoropodza kwakawanda. Asi vakabuda pamberi pemakwikwi. Uye ivo vakapedzwa mukuita, kusanganisira mhinduro kubva kune vasingagutsikane vashandisi. Asi Bill Gates inyaya yakasiyana.

ndinopfupikisa:

Optimal - mhinduro yakanakisa pasi pemamiriro akapihwa munguva shoma. Zvakwana, shamwari yangu, kuti ubudirire.

PS: Uye zvakare, zvinoratidzika, chizvarwa chese chevanoverengera vakakwana vakaonekwa, ivo vachaita zvese zvakakwana, asi kwete nhasi, asi mangwana - wakasangana nevanhu vakadaro here? 🙂