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Mupambi, mubati chibharo, mbavha… Pavanenge vangorega kudoma chikamu ichi kubva kune ine mukurumbira Karpman Drama Triangle. Dhiagiramu yakakurumbira inotaurwa nemunhu wese uye zvakasiyana: kubva kune vateveri vepop psychology kusvika kune nyanzvi dzepfungwa. Zvisinei, Russia yakadzokorora pfungwa yepakutanga zvokuti ikozvino haigoni kubatsira, asi, pane zvinopesana, kukuvadza. Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Lyudmila Sheholm inoudza kuti ndedzipi ngano nezve katatu iripo.
The dramatic triangle yeKarmpan (ndizvo zvinodanwa) zvakanyanya kunyanya kutaurwa muRussia mumakore gumi-10 apfuura. Akabatwa, Muponesi, Mutambudzi - mazita anozivikanwa kune avo vanofarira psychology. MuDrama Triangle, mabasa ose ari matatu haasi echokwadi, ndiko kuti, anorerwa, uye haana kupiwa kubva pakuzvarwa. Kuve mune rimwe remabasa, vanhu vanoita zvinoenderana nekare, uye kwete pachokwadi che "pano uye ikozvino." Panguva imwecheteyo, mazano ekare emamiriro ezvinhu anoshandiswa.
Mukona yekuruboshwe yedhiyagiramu yeDrama Triangle pane Chaser. Anotaura kubva pane "I'm OK - you are not OK" chinzvimbo. Panguva imwe cheteyo, anozvidza uye anonyadzisa vanhu, anoita kuti vanzwe vaine mhosva. Mutambudzi anofuratira kukosha uye chiremerera chevamwe, mumamiriro ezvinhu akaipisisa anotozvidza kodzero yemunhu yehupenyu uye hutano hwemuviri.
Mukona yekurudyi yedhiyagiramu ndiyo Muponesi. Anotaurirana kubva panzvimbo imwechete "Ndiri OK - iwe hauna kunaka", asi haanyadzisi, asi anongoderedza imwe. Anoshandisa chinzvimbo chake chepamusoro kana chinzvimbo chakasimba kupa rubatsiro kune vamwe vanhu, kuvafungira uye kugadzirisa matambudziko avo.
Pazasi pane Mubatwa. Iye pachake anonzwa nzvimbo yake yakanyadziswa uye anotaura kubva pachinzvimbo: "Handina kunaka - iwe wakanaka." Munhu akabatwa anoderedza kugona kwake.
“Dzimwe nguva iye pachake anenge achitsvaga Muchuchisi kuti amunyadzise uye amuise panzvimbo yake. Muchiitiko ichi, Mubatwa anowana mukana wekusimbisa chitendero chake chekunyora: “Handina kunaka. Vamwe vanhu havandide." Kazhinji Muponesi anenge achitsvaga Muponesi kuti abatsire uye asimbise kutenda kwechinyorwa: "Ini handigone kugadzirisa matambudziko ndoga." Iyo katatu inofanira kutorwa isosceles, "anodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Lyudmila Shekholm.
Nhema nhamba 1. Ndeipi basa - unhu hwakadaro
Stephen Karpman, chizvarwa Russia, akasuma nyika Drama Triangle muna 1968. Akasika chati inogona kushandiswa kuongorora zvepfungwa mitambo, upenyu mamiriro zvose munhu uye mhuri kana mamwe magariro hurongwa.
“Kazhinji basa reMuponesi, Muponesi, Mutambudzi rinotaurwa zvisirizvo nehunhu hwese. Asi ichi hachisi chokwadi, - anodaro Lyudmila Shekholm. — Gonyo rinoratidza basa rinoitwa nemunhu mumutambo wepfungwa. Iyo peculiarity yemutambo ndeyekuita kuti vanhu vafungidzirwe. Mutambo ndiko kuumbwa kwenguva, kuchinjana kwekurohwa (mumutauro wekuongorora kwekutengeserana, ichi chikamu chekuzivikanwa. - Approx. ed.), kuchengetedza nzvimbo yehupenyu "Handina kunaka - iwe wakanaka" , "Ini ndakanaka - iwe hauna kunaka" kay», "Handina kunaka - iwe hauna kunaka" uye kukurudzirwa kwezvinyorwa.
Ngano nhamba 2. Gonyonhatu iri kunongedzera kumusoro
Triangle yaKarpman inogara uye inoda isosceles. "MuRussia, vanoda kumushandura nepamusoro peAkabatwa kumusoro, uye Mutambudzi anonzi mhirizhonga, mhondi, mubati chibharo, mudzvinyiriri, kunyange fascist. Asi ichi hachisi chokwadi, - anotsanangura wepfungwa. - The classic triangle inowanikwa nehwaro hwayo kumusoro: kuruboshwe ndiko pamusoro peMuteveri, kurudyi kune Muponesi, pamusoro peAkabatwa anotarisa pasi. Mabasa ndeevanhu vakasiyana. Pane imwe chete vhezheni yetatu, kana kumusoro hationi hwaro, asi kumusoro - iyi ndiyo inonzi Iceberg. Ndiko kuti, munhu mumwe chete anoita basa reMurwi, asi chaizvoizvo, asingazivi, anogona kuva Muponesi uye Mutambudzi. Uye izvi zvakakosha kuziva kuti unzwisise nheyo dzekutanga dze "chiito" chetatu.
Nhema #3. Pane imwe chete Karpman triangle.
Panogona kuve nekusiyana kwakawanda kwekuchinja kwechinzvimbo mumatatu. Imwe katatu inobatsira kuongorora mitambo yepfungwa mumhuri kana kunyange hurongwa hwemhuri yose mumarudzi akasiyana. Uye vamwe (sezvakaita mushanduro neIceberg) vanoratidza kuti munhu mumwe chete anogona sei kubva pane rimwe basa kuenda kune rimwe basa.
Semuyenzaniso, anoshamisa Barmaley anozivikanwa nemunhu wese: angave ari Mutambudzi, anobva angopinda mudumbu obva aita Mhosva. Kana imwe ngano inozivikanwa - nezve Little Red Riding Hood. Mutambi mukuru anoita seMuponesi paanoenda kuna mbuya vake vanorwara. Asi nekukasira chinja kune Mubatwa. Mhumhi pakutanga inova Muteveri, ipapo iye pachake anova Musungwa weVatengi - vavhimi. Uye vanova Vanunuri vemusikana naambuya. "
Kuchinja basa dzimwe nguva kunoitika nekukurumidza uye, sekutonga, nekusaziva. Mubatirwi anongoshamisika: “Ko ini, kechishanu, ndaizomukweretesazve sei mari, nokuti haadzokerizve!
Nhema #4: Iyo Karpman Triangle Inoshanda Pasina Kutamba
Ichi hachisi chokwadi. Triangle yaKarpman yakakosha mumitambo yepfungwa. Asi unoziva sei zviri kuitika mumutambo?
“Zvino ndipo panoitika mutambo kana paine kubiridzirana, kuchinjana mabasa nekutsiva kwakakosha. Sekureva kwaEric Berne's formula, algorithm inofanirwa kuvakwa mumutambo wepfungwa: hoko + kuruma = kuita - switching - kunyara - kutsiva, "anotsanangura Lyudmila Sjokholm.
Eisi Choi akatsanangura antithesis inoshanda kune Karpman diagram - Winner's Triangle
Ngatitii murume akakoka musikana kukudya kwemanheru (haka) Akabvuma ndokuendakuruma uye kuita) Asi “sokunge” aisanzwisisa kuti aidaidzirwei, uye haana kutaura pachena, asi aida kupfuurira pashure peresitorendi. Vese vari vaviri vanonyepedzera kuti zvese zviri kufamba sekuronga.
Panguva yekudya kwemanheru, musikana, mushure mekukurukurirana kwemukati, akasarudza kuti hapazove nekuenderera mberi kwekudya kwemanheru. Pavakabvumirana, musikana akanga ari mubasa reMuponesi, uye murume wacho aiva Muponesi. Zvino zvakaitika kuchinja: akava Mutambudzi uye akava Mutambudzi.
Murume wacho akaverenga pakuenderera mberi - nekuda kweizvi, akaronga zuva. Kuramba kuenda kwaari kwakamushamisa (kunyara) Sokunge pakati pemitsetse, vese vanonzwisisa izvi, asi musazvitaure, vachitaurirana nehafu mazano. Uye saka anozivisa kuti yave nguva yekuti aende kumba, uye inobhadhara nekutora taxi ega. Kumba mushure mekuongorora zvakaitika, anoona kuti manheru akatadza zvakare uye akapusa zvakare.
Mumwe muenzaniso wemutambo unodiwa zvikuru “Sei usinga…? "Hongu, asi..."
haka: mutengi (Akabatwa) anouya kuna chiremba wepfungwa ndokuti: “Ndine dambudziko, handigoni kuwana basa.”
+ Nibble (utera). Psychologist (Muponesi): "Ndingabatsira sei?"
= kuita. Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa: "Sei usingabatanidzi mukutsinhana kwevashandi?"
Mutengi: "Ehe, asi ... kunyara."
Psychologist: "Wakamboedza kubvunza shamwari dzako?"
Mutengi: "Hongu, asi" «
Switching: Nyanzvi yepfungwa: "Zvakanaka, handizive chimwe chekukupa zano."
Mutengi: "Zvisinei, ndatenda nekuedza."
Kunyadzisa: Vese vari kuvhiringika.
Nyanzvi yepfungwa (Akabatwa): "Ndiri mubatsiri akaipa."
Pay: Mutengi (Stalker): "Ndaiziva kuti aisazobatsira."
Nhema Nha. 5. Hapana nzira yekubuda muKarpman triangle.
Iyo "ngozi" yemitambo yepfungwa ndeyekuti ivo vanozvidzokorora maererano nemamiriro akafanana. Kazhinji izvi ndizvo zvinotepfenyurwa nevamwe vanyori vezvinyorwa: vanoti, hapana nzira yekubuda muKarpman triangle. Zvichida iyi ndiyo ngano inonyanya kukosha uye inonyengera.
Kare muna 1990, shanduro yechinyorwa chakaitwa nemuongorori weAustralia Acey Choi yakaonekwa muRussia, iyo yakapa "mushonga". Akatsanangura kupesana kunoshanda kumufananidzo waKarpman, Winner's Triangle. Inobvisa kuderera uye inobvumira yega yega "kona" kuita yakazvimirira.
“Panzvimbo pokuva Mutamburi, munhu anodzidza kuva Munjodzi. Vasina simba vanoziva kuti vari kutambura, kuti vane matambudziko. Asi vanonzwisisawo kuti vane tsitsi dzakakwana, kuti ivo pachavo vanogona kugadzirisa matambudziko avo. Vakagadzirira kukumbira pachena rubatsiro pasina kutanga mitambo yepfungwa,” anodaro Lyudmila Shekholm.
MuDrama Triangle, Muponesi kazhinji "anoita zvakanaka uye anoita zvakanaka" kukuvadza zvido zvake uye zvaanoda, anobatsira uye anogadzirisa matambudziko evamwe vanhu pasina kubvunza, achiisa maonero ake. MuVictorious Triangle, Muponesi anova ane hanya, achiremekedza kugona kweAne Dambudziko rekufunga, kuita, uye kukumbira zvavanoda.
Uye pakupedzisira, Mutambudzi anoshandisa simba kugutsa zvaanoda uye kudzivirira kodzero dzake.
"Kuvimbika kunonzwisisa kuti shanduko yekukurumidza inogona kukanganisa vanhu uye inoona kutaurirana sechikamu chekugadzirisa matambudziko. Chinangwa chikuru hachisi kutambudzwa uye kurangwa kweumwe, asi shanduko dzinofunga nezvaanoda uye zvaanoda, "anopedzisa nyanzvi yepfungwa.