Kudzokororwa kwechinangwa che "kurwira simba"

Chinangwa chemaitiro emwana is pesvedzero (kurwira simba)

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Kudzokororwa kwechinangwa che "kurwira simba"

1. Zvibvunze kuti: “Ndingabatsira sei mwana wangu kuti ataure zvaanofunga mumamiriro ezvinhu akadai?”

Kana vana vako vakarega kukuteerera uye usingagoni kuvapesvedzera munzira ipi neipi, ipapo hapana chikonzero chokutsvaka mhinduro kumubvunzo wokuti: “Chii chandingagona kuita kuti ndidzore mamiriro acho ezvinhu?” Pane kudaro, zvibvunze mubvunzo uyu: “Ndingabatsira sei mwana wangu kuti ataure zvaanofunga mumamiriro ezvinhu aya nenzira yakanaka?”

Pane imwe nguva, Tyler paakanga ava nemakore matatu, ndakaenda naye kunotenga kuchitoro chegirosari dzinenge hafu:XNUMX:XNUMX manheru. Kwakanga kuri kukanganisa kwangu, nokuti tose takanga taneta, uyezve, ndakanga ndava mushishi kuuya kumba kunobika kudya kwamanheru. Ndakaisa Tyler mungoro yegirosari ndinovimba kuti ichakurumidza kuita sarudzo. Ndichingodzika nemota ndichiisa grocery mungoro, Tyler akabva atanga kukanda zvese zvandainge ndaisa mungoro. Pakutanga, nenzwi rakadzikama, ndakamuudza, "Tyler, mira, ndapota." Haana kuita hanya nechikumbiro changu ndokuenderera mberi nebasa rake. Ndakabva ndati nehasha, "Tyler, STOP!" Pandaiwedzera kukwidza inzwi rangu uye ndakatsamwa, maitiro ake akawedzera kusashivirira. Uyezve, akasvika pachikwama changu, uye zvaiva mukati maro zvakanga zviri pasi. Ndakawana nguva yekubata ruoko rwaTyler achisimudza gaba rematomatisi kuti adonhe pamusoro pezvaive muwallet yangu. Panguva iyoyo, ndakaona kuti kuzvidzora kunogona kuoma. Ndakanga ndagadzirira kuzunungusa mweya wangu kubva maari! Sezvineiwo, ndakazoziva nekufamba kwenguva zvakanga zvichiitika. Ndakakanda nhanho shoma ndichibva ndatanga kuverenga kusvika pagumi; Ndinoshandisa nzira iyi kuzvidzikamisa. Pandaiverenga, ndakaona kuti Tyler ari mumamiriro ezvinhu aya anoita seasingabatsiri zvachose. Kutanga, akanga aneta ndokumanikidzirwa kupinda mungoro iyi inotonhora, yakaoma; kechipiri, amai vake vakanga varukutika vakamhanya-mhanya muchitoro, vachisarudza uye vachiisa zvinhu zvaakanga asingatombodi mungoro. Saka ndakazvibvunza kuti, "Chii chandingaite kuti Tyler ave akanaka mumamiriro ezvinhu aya?" Ndakaona chinhu chakanakisa kuita kutaura naTyler nezve zvatinofanira kutenga. "Ndeipi chikafu chaunofunga kuti Snoopy wedu angada zvakanyanya - ichi kana icho?" “Ndeipi muriwo waunofunga kuti baba vangada zvikuru?” “Tinofanira kutenga magaba mangani esopo?” Hatina kana kumbozviona kuti tainge tave kufamba famba muchitoro ndakatoshamisika kuti Tyler aindibatsira sei. Ndakatombofunga kuti pane atsiva mwana wangu asi ndakabva ndangoona kuti ndini ndachinja kwete mwana wangu. Uye heino mumwe muenzaniso wokupa mwana wako mukana wokutaura chaizvoizvo.

2. Rega mwana wako asarudze

"Rega kuzviita!" "Famba!" "Pfeka!" "Geza mazino!" "Dyisa imbwa!" "Ibva pano!"

Kubudirira kwekufurira vana kunopera simba patinovaraira. Pakupedzisira, mhere-mhere yedu nemirairo zvichatungamirira pakuumbwa kwemativi maviri anopikisana - mwana anodzokera maari, achipikisa mubereki wake, uye mukuru, anotsamwira mwana kuti haana kumuteerera.

Kuti pesvedzero yako pamwana isawanzoshorwa padivi pake, mupe kodzero yekusarudza. Enzanisa rondedzero inotevera yedzimwe nzira nemirairo yapfuura pamusoro.

• "Kana iwe uchida kutamba nerori yako pano, wozviita nenzira isingakuvadze madziro, kana kuti pamwe ungatamba nayo mubhokisi rejecha?"
• "Zvino uchandiperekedza here kana kuti ndokutakura mumaoko angu?"
• "Uchapfeka here pano kana mumota?"
• "Uchakwesha mazino ako ndisati ndakuverengera here kana kuti ndapedza?"
• "Uchadyisa imbwa here kana kubvisa marara?"
• "Uchabuda mumba here kana kuti unoda kuti ndikubudise?"

Vagamuchira kodzero yekusarudza, vana vanoziva kuti zvose zvinoitika kwavari zvine chokuita nezvisarudzo zvavakaita ivo pachavo.

Pakusarudza, nyatsochenjerera pane zvinotevera.

• Ita shuwa kuti wakagadzirira kugamuchira zvese sarudzo dzaunopa.
• Kana sarudzo yako yekutanga iri "Unogona kutamba pano, asi chenjera, kana kuti ungatotamba muchivanze?" - hazvikanganisa mwana uye anoramba achitamba asina hanya, mukoke kuti aite imwe sarudzo inokubvumira kupindira munyaya iyi. Semuenzaniso: "Uchabuda wega here kana kuti unoda kuti ndikubatsire kuzviita?"
• Kana iwe ukapa kuita sarudzo, uye mwana anozeza uye haasarudze chero imwe nzira, zvino zvinogona kufungidzirwa kuti haadi kuzviita iye pachake. Muchiitiko ichi, iwe unomusarudzira. Semuenzaniso, unobvunza kuti: "Ungada kubva mukamuri here, kana ungada kuti ndikubatsire kuzviita?" Kana mwana zvakare asingaiti chisarudzo, zvino zvinogona kufungidzirwa kuti haadi kusarudza chero ipi zvayo yezvisarudzo, saka, iwe pachako uchamubatsira kunze kwekamuri.
• Iva nechokwadi chokuti sarudzo yako haina chokuita nechirango. Vamwe baba, vakakundikana mukushandiswa kweiyi nzira, vakaratidza kusava nechokwadi kwavo pamusoro pekubudirira kwayo: "Ndakamupa mukana wekusarudza, asi hapana chakabuda muchiitiko ichi." Ndakabvunza kuti: “Uye ndeipi sarudzo yamakamupa kuti aite?” Iye akati, "Ndakamuudza kuti arege kuchovha bhasikoro pauswa, uye kana akasamira, ndichapwanya bhasikoro iro mumusoro make!"

Kupa mwana dzimwe nzira dzine musoro kunoda kushivirira uye kudzidzira, asi kana ukaramba uchiita, zvakanakira unyanzvi hwekudzidzisa hwakadaro huchava hwakakura.

Kune vabereki vakawanda, nguva iyo inofanirwa kuisa vana pamubhedha ndiyo yakaoma zvikuru. Uye pano edza kuvapa kodzero yekusarudza. Panzvimbo pokuti, "Inguva yekurara," bvunza mwana wako, "Ibhuku ripi raungada kuverenga usati warara, nezvechitima kana nezvebheya?" Kana kuti pane kuti, "Nguva yekukwesha mazino ako," mubvunze kana achida kushandisa mushonga wemazino wakachena kana wegirinhi.

Kana iwe uchipa mwana wako sarudzo yakawanda, anowedzera rusununguko rwaanoratidza muzvinhu zvose uye zvishoma iye acharamba simba rako paari.

Vanachiremba vazhinji vakatora zvidzidzo zvePPD uye, semugumisiro, vanga vachishandisa nzira yekusarudza nevarwere vavo vaduku nekubudirira kukuru. Kana mwana achida kubaiwa, chiremba kana mukoti anobvunza chinyoreso chaanoda kushandisa. Kana iyi sarudzo: "Nderipi bhandeji raungada kupfeka - nemadinosaur kana turtles?" Nzira yekusarudza inoita kuti kushanyira chiremba kusanyanya kunetseka kumwana.

Vamwe amai vakabvumira mwanasikana wavo ane makore matatu okukura kuti asarudze ruvara rwekupenda imba yake yevaenzi! Amai vakasarudza mapendi maviri, ose avakazvifarira, uye vakabvunza mwanasikana wavo kuti: “Angie, ndinoramba ndichifunga kuti, nderipi remavara aya rinofanira kupendwa muimba yedu yokutandarira? Ndeupi ruvara rwaunofunga kuti runofanira kuva? Apo shamwari dzaamai vake dzakauya kuzomushanyira, amai vake vakati (pashure pokunge vaona kuti Angie aimunzwa) kuti mwanasikana wavo akanga asarudza ruvara. Angie aizvikudza zvikuru uye kuti akanga azvisarudzira pachake.

Dzimwe nguva tinoona zvakaoma kufunga kuti ndeipi sarudzo yekupa vana vedu. Kuomerwa uku kunogona kunge kuri nekuda kwekuti iwe pachako waive nesarudzo shoma. Pamwe iwe unoda kuita sarudzo yako, uchipa akati wandei sarudzo kamwechete. Somuenzaniso, kana iwe uchigara uchisuka ndiro, uye iwe usingafari neizvi, unogona kukumbira murume wako kuti aite, kurudzira kuti vana vashandise mapepa emapepa, kusiya ndiro kusvikira mangwanani, nezvimwewo. Uye yeuka: kana unoda kudzidza kuti ungaita sei sarudzo dzevana vako, wozodzidza kuzviitira iwe pachako.

3. Ipa yambiro nokukurumidza

Wakokwa kupati yechiitiko chinokosha. Unotenderera pakati pevanhu vakawanda vanofarira, uchitaura navo, uchifamba kubva kune rimwe boka revakakokwa kuenda kune rimwe. Hauna kunakidzwa neizvi kwenguva yakareba! Uri kukurukura nomumwe mukadzi wokuAmerica anokuudza nezvetsika dzenyika yake uye kuti dzakasiyana sei nedziya dzaakasangana nadzo kuRussia. Kamwe kamwe murume wako anouya shure kwako, ndokubata ruoko rwako, omanikidzira kupfeka jasi ndokuti: “Handei. Inguva yekuenda kumba".

Uchanzwa sei? Chii chaungada kuita? Vana vanonzwa zvakafanana patinovarayira kuti vasvetuke kubva pane chimwe chinhu vachienda kune chimwe (kubva pamba pashamwari, kwairi kushanya, kana kuti kuenda kunorara). Zvichava nani kana iwe uchigona kuvayambira zvine hushamwari nenzira iyi: «Ndinoda kubva mumaminitsi mashanu» kana «Ngatiende kunorara mumaminitsi gumi.» Ona kuti zviri nani sei zvaungabata murume wako mumuenzaniso wapfuura kana akakuudza, "Ndinoda kuenda mumaminitsi gumi nemashanu." Chenjerera kuti iwe uchave wakakura sei, iwe uchanzwa zviri nani nei nenzira iyi.

4. Batsira mwana wako kuti anzwe akakosha kwauri!

Munhu wose anoda kunzwa achikosheswa. Kana iwe ukapa mwana wako mukana uyu, haazowanzoita tsika dzakaipa.

Heino muenzaniso.

Pakanga pasina nzira iyo baba vaigona kuita nayo mwanakomana wavo ane makore gumi namatanhatu okukura kuti atarisire zvakanaka motokari yemhuri. Mamwe manheru, mwanakomana wacho akaenda nemotokari kunoona shamwari. Mangwana acho, baba vake vaifanira kusangana nemutengi akakosha panhandare yendege. Mangwanani baba vakabva vabuda mumba. Akavhura gonhi remotokari achibva adonha magaba maviri eCoca-Cola mumugwagwa. Vakagara kuseri kwevhiri, baba vangu vakacherekedza mavara akakora padheshibhodhi, mumwe munhu akaisa masoseji muhomwe yechigaro, mahambhega akadyiwa nehafu mumapepa akanga akarara pasi. Chakanyanya kusvota ndechekuti mota yairamba kumutswa nekuti tangi repeturu rakanga risina munhu. Vari munzira kuenda kunhandare yendege, baba vakasarudza kupesvedzera mwanakomana wavo mumamiriro ezvinhu aya nenzira yakasiana kupfuura yenguva dzose.

Manheru, baba vakagara pasi nemwanakomana wavo uye vakati vakaenda kumusika kunotsvaga motokari itsva, uye vakafunga kuti mwanakomana wavo ndiye "nyanzvi huru" munyaya iyi. Akabva abvunza kana aida kutora motokari yakakodzera, uye akatsanangura zvakadzama parameters dzinodiwa. Mukati mevhiki, mwanakomana "akamonyorora" bhizinesi iri kuna baba vake - akawana motokari inosangana nezvose zvakarongwa uye, funga iwe, yakachipa zvikuru kupfuura baba vake vaida kuibhadhara. Baba vangu vakatowana zvakatodarika mota yavaive varota.

Mwanakomana wacho aichengeta motokari itsva yakachena, akava nechokwadi chokuti mimwe mitezo yemhuri yakanga isingarashiki mumotokari, uye yaiunza pamugariro wakanaka pakupera kwevhiki! Kuchinja kwakadaro kunobva kupi? Asi chokwadi ndechokuti baba vakapa mwanakomana wavo mukana wokunzwa kukosha kwake kwaari, uye panguva imwe chete vakapa kodzero yokurasa motokari itsva sepfuma yake.

Rega ndikupe mumwe muenzaniso.

Vamwe amai vokurera vakatadza kutanga ukama nemwanasikana wavo wokurera ane makore gumi nemana okukura. Rimwe zuva anokumbira muzukuru wake kuti amubatsire kusarudzira murume wake mbatya itsva. Vachitaura kuti haanzwisisi fashoni yemazuva ano, amai vokurera vakaudza mwanasikana wavo wokurera kuti maonero avo panyaya iyi aizova madikanwa. Mwanasikana wekurera akabvuma, uye pamwe chete vakanhonga zvipfeko zvakanakisa uye zvefashoni zvemurume wavo-baba. Kuenda kunotenga pamwe chete hakuna kungobatsira mwanasikana kuti anzwe achikosheswa mumhuri, asi zvakare kwakavandudza hukama hwavo zvakanyanya.

5. Shandisa zviratidzo zvakajairika

Kana mubereki nemwana vachida kushanda pamwe chete kuti vapedze kusawirirana, chiyeuchidzo chine chokuita nechimwe kana chimwe chikamu chisingadiwi chemaitiro avo chinogona kubatsira zvikuru. Ichi chinogona kunge chiri chiratidzo chakajairwa, chakavanza uye chisinganzwisisike kune vamwe kuitira kuti usazvidze netsaona kana kuvanyadzisa. Huya nezviratidzo zvakadaro pamwechete. Yeuka kuti kana tikapa mwana mikana yakawanda yokutaura zvaanofunga, ndipo paachanyanya kusangana nesu pakati. Zviratidzo zvakajairwa zvinotakura chinhu chekunakidzwa inzira iri nyore yekubatsirana. Zviratidzo zvakajairika zvinogona kutapurirwa zvese nemuromo uye chinyararire. Heino muenzaniso:

Amai nemwanasikana vakaona kuti vakatanga kutsamwirana kakawanda uye kuratidza kushatirwa. Vakabvumirana kuzvidhonza nemunzeve kuti vayeuchidzane kuti hasha dzave kuda kubuda.

Mumwe muenzaniso.

Vamwe amai vasina murume vakatanga kufambidzana nemurume, uye mwanakomana wavo ane makore masere "akapamba". Pane imwe nguva, agere naye mumotokari, mwanakomana akabvuma muchivande kuti anopedza nguva yakawanda neshamwari yake itsva, uye kana shamwari iyi inaye, anonzwa se "mwanakomana asingaoneki." Pamwe chete vakauya nechiratidzo chechimiro: kana mwanakomana achinzwa kuti akanganwa, anogona kungoti: "Amai vasingaoneki", uye amai vachakurumidza "kuchinja" kwaari. Pavakatanga kushandisa chiratidzo ichi, mwanakomana wacho aitofanira kutendeukira kwachiri kashoma chete kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti arangarirwa.

6. Ronga pachine nguva

Hautsamwe here paunoenda kuchitoro uye mwana wako otanga kukukumbira kuti umutengere zvakasiyana-siyana zvematoyi akasiyana? Kana kuti paunenge uchida kumhanya kune imwe nzvimbo, uye panguva yaunenge watosvika pamusuwo, mwana anotanga kurira uye achikumbira kuti usamusiya ari oga? Nzira inobudirira yekugadzirisa dambudziko iri kubvumirana nemwana pachine nguva. Chinhu chikuru apa kugona kwako kuchengeta izwi rako. Kana iwe usingamudzore, mwana haazovimbi newe uye acharamba kusangana nehafu.

Somuenzaniso, kana uchienda kunotenga, bvumirana nomwana wako pachine nguva mberi kuti uchashandisa chitsama chakati bedzi pachimwe chinhu nokuda kwake. Zviri nani ukamupa mari yacho. Zvakakosha kumunyevera pachine nguva kuti hauzotenga chimwe chinhu chakawedzerwa. Nhasi, mwana chero upi zvake anogona kududzira zvisizvo ichi kana kuti chiziviso chezvokutengeserana ndokusvika pakutenda kwakadaro: “Vabereki vanochida apo vanonditengera zvinhu” kana kuti: “Kana ndine zvinhu izvi, ndichafara.”

Vamwe amai vasina murume vakawana basa uye vaiwanzoenda nemwanasikana wavo muduku ikoko. Vachingosvika pamusiwo, musikana akatanga kukumbira amai vake neshungu kuti vabude. Uye amai vakasarudza kubvumirana pachine nguva nemwana wavo: "Tichangogara pano kwemaminitsi gumi nemashanu, uye tobva taenda." Kupa kwakadaro kwairatidza kugutsa mwana wake, musikana ndokugara ndokudhirowa chimwe chinhu apo amai vake vaishanda. Pakupedzisira, amai vakakwanisa kutambanudza maminitsi gumi nemashanu mumaawa akawanda, nokuti musikana akatakurwa nebasa rake. Nguva yakatevera, apo amai vacho pavakatorazve mwanasikana wavo kubasa, musikana wacho akatanga kuramba munzira dzose dzinobvira, nokuti kekutanga amai vacho havana kuchengeta shoko ravo. Vaona chikonzero chokuramba kwomwana, amai vacho vakatanga kuita zvavakanga vasungirwa kuti vaende panguva yavakanga vabvumirana nomwanasikana wavo, uye mwana wacho zvishoma nezvishoma akatanga kuenda naye kubasa nokuzvidira.

7. Nyoresa maitiro ausingakwanise kushandura.

Vamwe amai vaiva nevana vana vaidhirowa nemakrayoni kumadziro, pasinei nokukurudzirwa kupi nokupi. Akabva avhara imba yekugezera yevana nemapaper machena akati vaigona kupenda chero zvavaida. Apo vana vakagamuchira iyi mvumo, kukuzorodzwa kukuru kwaamai vavo, vakavamba kuganhurira mifananidzo yavo kuchimbuzi. Pese pandaipinda mumba mavo ndaisambobuda mubathroom ndisina munhu, nekuti kutarisa hunyanzvi hwavo kwaitoda kuziva.

Mumwe mudzidzisi aive nedambudziko rimwe chete revana vaibhururutsa ndege dzemapepa. Ipapo akapa chikamu chenguva muchidzidzo pakudzidza kweaerodynamics. Zvakatoshamisa mudzidzisi wacho, chido chomudzidzi chendege dzepepa chakatanga kudzikira. Nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero chisingazivikanwe, kana isu "tichidzidza" maitiro akaipa uye toedza kuaita zviri pamutemo, zvinova zvisingadiwi uye zvisinganakidze.

8. Gadzira mamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe nemwana wako munokunda.

Kazhinji hatitombofungi kuti munhu wese anogona kukunda mukupokana. Muhupenyu, tinowanzosangana nemamiriro ezvinhu apo mumwe kana pasina anokunda. Kukakavadzana kunogadziriswa zvakanaka kana vese vakunda, uye mhedzisiro inoita kuti vese vafare. Izvi zvinoda kushivirira zvikuru nokuti unofanira kunyatsoteerera mumwe munhu asi uchitsvaka zvaunofarira iwe pachako.

Paunoisa izvi mukuita, usaedze kutaura mudzvanyiriri wako kuti aite zvaunoda kana kutaura naye kunze kwezvaanoda kuita. Huyai nemhinduro inozokuwanai mese zvamunoda. Dzimwe nguva sarudzo yakadaro inogona kudarika zvaunotarisira. Pakutanga, zvinotora nguva yakareba kugadzirisa kukakavara, asi mubairo weizvi uchava kugadzwa kwehukama hunoremekedza. Kana mhuri yose ichibatanidzwa mukuvandudza unyanzvi uhwu, ipapo nzira yacho ichaenda nyore nyore uye inotora nguva shoma.

Heino muenzaniso.

Ndakanga ndava kuda kupa hurukuro mutaundi rokumusha kwangu ndokukumbira mwanakomana wangu, uyo akanga ane makore masere okukura panguva iyoyo, kuti auye neni nokuda kwetsigiro yetsika. Manheru acho, ndichibuda pamusiwo, ndakangoerekana ndadongorera pajean randakanga ndakapfeka. Tyler. Ibvi remwanakomana wangu rakanga risina chinhu rakanga richibuda mugomba guru.

Hana yangu yakabva yarova. Ndakamuti adzichinje nekukasika. Akataura zvakasimba "kwete", uye ndakaona kuti ndaisakwanisa kurarama naye. Ndakatoona kare kuti pavakaramba kunditeerera, ndakanga ndarasika uye ndakanga ndisingakwanisi kuwana nzira yokubuda nayo.

Ndakabvunza mwana wangu kuti sei aisada kuchinja kuva jean rake. Akataura kuti mushure mehurukuro aizoenda kune shamwari dzake, uye VOSE avo vari "vanotonhorera" vanofanira kuva nemakomba mu jeans yavo, uye aida kuva "anotonhorera". Ipapo ndakamuudza zvinotevera: “Ndinonzwisisa kuti zvinokosha kuti uende kushamwari dzako uri fomu iri. Ndinodawo kuti uchengete zvaunofarira. Zvisinei, iwe uchandiisa panzvimbo ipi kana vanhu vose vaona maburi ejini yako? Vachafungei nezvangu?

Mamiriro acho akaita seasina tariro, asi Tyler akakurumidza kufunga ndokuti, “Ko kana tikaita izvi? Ndichapfeka tirauzi rakanaka pamusoro pejean rangu. Uye pandinoenda kushamwari dzangu, ndinodzibvisa.”

Ndakanakidzwa nekugadzirwa kwake: anonzwa zvakanaka, uye ini ndinonzwawo zvakanaka! Saka akati: “Chisarudzo chakanaka chaizvo! Ndingadai ndisina kumbofunga nezvazvo ini! Ndatenda nekundibatsira!»

Kana usingakwanisi kupesvedzera mwana munzira ipi neipi, mubvunze kuti: “Ndinonzwisisa kuti unofunga kuti unofanira kuita ichi nechocho. Asi zvakadini neni? Vana pavanoona kuti unofarira zvinhu zvavo sezvaunoda iwe pachako, vachada zvikuru kukubatsira kuwana nzira yokubuda nayo mumamiriro acho ezvinhu.

9. Vadzidzisei kuramba zvine ruremekedzo (kuti kwete)

Kumwe kusawirirana kunomuka nekuti vana vedu havana kudzidziswa kuramba zvine ruremekedzo. Vazhinji vedu takanga tisingabvumirwi kuramba vabereki vedu, uye apo vana vasingabvumirwi kuti kwete zvakananga, vanozviita nenzira isina kunanga. Vanogona kukuramba nemaitiro avo. Kunogona kuva kunzvenga, kukanganwa. Zvese zvaunovakumbira kuti vaite zvichaitwa neimwe nzira, paine tarisiro yekuti iwe pachako uchafanirwa kupedza basa iri. Iwe ucharasikirwa nechido chese chekuvakumbira kuti vazviite zvakare! Vamwe vana vanotonyepedzera kurwara uye ndonda. Kana vana vachiziva kutaura kuti “kwete” zvakananga, ipapo ukama navo hunova hwakajeka, hwakasununguka. Kangani iwe pachako wakazviwana uri mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma nokuti waisagona kuramba wakadzikama uye zvine ruremekedzo? Mushure mezvose, hapana chinhu chiri nyore pane kurega vana vachiti "kwete", nokuti vanogona kukuudza zvakafanana "kwete", asi nenzira yakasiyana!

Mumhuri yedu, munhu wese anobvumirwa kuramba ichi kana kuti bhizinesi apo achichengetedza maitiro ekuremekedza kune ivo nevamwe. Takabvumiranawo kuti kana mumwe wedu akati, “Asi izvi zvinokosha zvechokwadi, nokuti chimwe chinhu chinokosha chichaitika,” ipapo munhu aramba kukupa chikumbiro chako achasangana newe nokuzvidira.

Ndinokumbira vana kuti vandibatsire kuchenesa imba, uye dzimwe nguva vanoti: “Aiwa, hapana chandinoda.” Ndobva ndati, “Asi zvakakosha kuti ndigadzirise imba yacho, nekuti tichava nevaenzi manheru ano,” vobva vadzika kubhizimusi.

Zvinotoshamisa ndezvokuti, nokubvumira vana vako kuramba, unowedzera kuda kwavo kukubatsira. Waizonzwa sei kudai, somuenzaniso, usingabvumirwi kuti “kwete” kubasa? Ndinozviziva zvangu kuti basa rakadaro kana hukama hwakadai hahungandikodzeri. Sezvingabvira ndingadai ndakavasiya kudai ndaisagona kuchinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Vana vanoita zvimwe chetezvo...

Munguva yedu yekosi, amai vevaviri vakanyunyuta kuti vana vavo vaida zvese zviri munyika. Mwanasikana wake Debbie aive nemakore masere uye mwanakomana wake David aine manomwe. “Ikozvino vave kuda kuti ndivatengere tsuro inopfuya. Ndinonyatsoziva kuti havasi kuzomuchengeta uye basa iri richawira pandiri zvachose!

Pashure pokunge takurukura chinetso chake namai vake, takaona kuti zvakanga zvakaoma zvikuru kuti arambidze chinhu chipi nechipi kuvana vake.

Boka racho rakamupwisa kuti akanga ane kodzero yokuramba uye aisafanira kuzadzisa chose chose zvishuvo zvose zvevana.

Zvaifadza kuona kusimba kwekukura kwezviitiko, kuona rudzi rwekuramba kusina kunanga kwaizowanikwa naamai ava. Vana vakaramba vachikumbira chimwe chinhu. Uye panzvimbo pokuti “kwete” akasimba, amai vangu vakadzokorora vadzokororazve kuti: “Handizivi. Rega ndione". Akaramba achinzwa dzvinyiriro paari uye achinetseka kuti pakupedzisira aifanira kusarudza pane chimwe chinhu, uye vana panguva iyi vaitambudza kakawanda, uye izvi zvakamutsamwisa. Gare gare bedzi, apo tsinga dzake dzakanga dzatopera, iye, akatsamwira vana chose chose, akataura nesimbi nenzwi rake kuti: “Aiwa! Ndaneta nekugara uchindinetsa! Zvakwana! Ini hapana chandichakutengera! Ndisiye!" Pataitaura nevana, vainyunyuta kuti amai vacho havamboti hungu kana kuti kwete, asi nguva dzose vanoti, “Tichaona.”

Pachidzidzo chakatevera, takaona amai ava vachifarira chimwe chinhu. Zvakaratidza kuti akapa mvumo yake kuvana kuti vatenge tsuro. Takamubvunza chikonzero nei akazviitira, uye izvi ndizvo zvaakatsanangura kwatiri:

“Ndakabvuma nekuti mushure mekufunga ndakaona kuti ndinoida tsuro iyi. Asi ndakasiya zvese zvandisingadi kuita ini

Ndakaudza vana kuti tsuro handibhadhare, asi kuti ndinovakweretesa kuti vatenge chizari uye ndivape mari yekuichengeta kana vaunganidza mari yekuitenga. Akaita chisungo chokuti tsuro yaisazova nayo kana zvikazoonekwa kuti paidiwa fenzi pachivanze kumuchengeta, uye ini ndakanga ndisingadi kutenga fenzi. Pamusoro pezvo, ndakavatsanangurira kuti ndakanga ndisiri kuzodyisa tsuro, kuchenesa chizarira, asi ndaizopa mari yekutenga zvokudya. Kana vakakanganwa kudyisa mhuka kwemazuva maviri akatevedzana, ipapo ini ndichaitora zvakare. Zvakanaka kuti ndakavaudza zvose izvi zvakananga! Ndinofunga vakatondiremekedza nokuda kwazvo.”

Mwedzi mitanhatu gare gare, takaona kuti iyi nyaya yakapera sei.

Debbie naDavid vakachengeta mari kuti vatenge tsuro. Muridzi wechitoro chezvipfuyo akavaudza kuti kuchengeta tsuro, vaifanira kugadzira fenzi pachivanze kana kutora tambo yekuifamba mazuva ose.

Amai vakayambira vana kuti ivo pachavo vakanga vasingachafambi netsuro. Nokudaro, vana vakatora mutoro uyu. Amai vakavakweretesa mari yekeji. Zvishoma nezvishoma vakadzorera chikwereti chacho. Pasina kana kugumbuka nekunetsa, vakadyisa tsuro, vakamuchengeta. Vana vakadzidza kuita mabasa avo nokuchenjera, uye amai vacho vaisagona kuzviramba vamene kufara kwokutamba nemhuka yavo yaaida pasina kumanikidzira betsero yavo uye kusagumburwa navana. Akadzidza kusiyanisa zvakajeka pakati pemitoro mumhuri.

10. Famba kure nekukonana!

Vana vanowanzoedza kusateerera vabereki vavo pachena, "vadenha." Vamwe vabereki vanovamanikidza kuzvibata “zvakafanira” kubva pachinzvimbo chesimba, kana kuti kuedza “kudzongonyedza kuda kwavo.” Ini ndinokurudzira kuti uite zvakapesana, izvo, "kudzikamisa kushingaira kwedu."

Hatina chatinorasikirwa nacho kana tikabva pakurwisana kwedoro. Chokwadi, kana tikasadaro, kana tikabudirira kumanikidza mwana kuita chimwe chinhu nechisimba, achachengeta chigumbu chikuru. Zvose zvinogona kuguma nechokwadi chokuti rimwe zuva "anotidzorera nemari imwe chete." Zvichida kubudisa kutsamwa hakuzotori fomu yakazaruka, asi achaedza "kubhadhara" nesu nedzimwe nzira: achadzidza zvakashata, akanganwa nezvemabasa ake epamba, nezvimwewo.

Sezvo pagara paine mativi maviri anopokana mukukonana, ramba iwe pachako kubatanidzwa. Kana usingakwanisi kubvumirana nemwana wako uye uchinzwa kuti kunetsana kuri kuwedzera uye usingawani nzira ine musoro yokubuda nayo, ibva pakukonana kwacho. Yeuka kuti mashoko anotaurwa nokukurumidza anogona kunyura mumweya womwana kwenguva refu uye anodzimwa zvishoma nezvishoma mundangariro yake.

Heuno muenzaniso.

Vamwe amai, vatenga zvinhu zvinodiwa, vachabuda muchitoro nemwanakomana wavo. Akaramba achimunyengerera kuti amutengere toyi, asi akaramba zvachose. Ipapo mukomana akatanga kunetsa nemubvunzo kuti sei asina kumutengera toyi. Akatsanangura kuti zuva iroro aisada kushandisa mari pamatoyi. Asi akaramba achimunetsa zvakanyanya.

Amai vakacherechedza kuti kushivirira kwavo kwakanga kwava kupera, uye akanga akagadzirira "kuputika". Pane kudaro akabva abuda mumota ndokugara pahood. Mushure mekugara seizvi kwemaminetsi mashoma, akatonhodza shungu dzake. Paakadzokera mumotokari, mwanakomana wake akabvunza kuti, “Chii chaitika?” Amai vakati, “Dzimwe nguva ndinoshatirwa kana usingadi kutora mhinduro seaiwa. Ndinoda kutsunga kwako, asi ndinoda kuti iwe unzwisise dzimwe nguva zvazvinoreva "kwete". Mhinduro yakadaro isingatarisirwi asi yakananga yakaorora mwanakomana wake, uye kubva panguva iyoyo zvichienda mberi akatanga kugamuchira kurambwa kwaamai vake nokunzwisisa.

Mamwe mazano ekuti ungadzora sei hasha dzako.

• Bvuma kwauri kuti wakatsamwa. Hazvibatsiri kuzvidzora kana kuramba kutsamwa kwako. Iti wazvinzwa.
• Udza mumwe munhu zvinonzwika kuti chii chakushatirisa kudaro. Semuenzaniso: "Iyi tsvina mukicheni inondishatirisa." Zvinonzwika zviri nyore, asi kutaura kwakadaro chete kunogona kubatsira kugadzirisa dambudziko. Ndokumbira utarise kuti mukutaura kwakadai haudaidza chero mazita, usapomedze uye kutevedzera chiyero.
• Ongorora zviratidzo zvehasha dzako. Pamwe unonzwa kuoma mumuviri wako, zvakadai sekubata shaya, dumbu remudumbu, kana kuti maoko anodikitira. Kuziva zviratidzo zvekuratidzwa kwekutsamwa kwako, unogona kumunyevera mberi.
• Tora kuzorora kuti utonhodze shungu dzako. Verenga kusvika ku10, enda kukamuri yako, famba-famba, zvizunungure mupfungwa kana mumuviri kuti uzvivhiringidze. Ita zvaunoda.
• Kana wapedza kutonhora, ita zvinoda kuitwa. Paunenge wakabatikana kuita chimwe chinhu, iwe unonzwa zvishoma se "akabatwa". Kudzidza kuita pane kuita ndihwo hwaro hwokuzvivimba.

11. Ita chimwe chinhu chisingatarisirwi

Kuita kwatinoita nguva dzose kumaitiro akaipa emwana ndizvo chaizvo zvaanotarisira kwatiri. Chiito chisingatarisirwi chinogona kuita kuti vavariro isina kururama yomwana ive isingakoshi uye isina revo. Somuenzaniso, rega kutora zvose zvinotya mwana mumwoyo. Kana tikaratidza kuva nehanya kwakanyanyisa pamusoro peizvi, tinovapa chivimbo chenhema chokuti mumwe munhu zvechokwadi achapindira kuti abvise kutya kwavo. Munhu akabatwa nekutya haakwanisi kugadzirisa chero dambudziko, anongosiya. Nokudaro, chinangwa chedu chinofanira kuva chokubatsira mwana kukunda kutya, uye kwete kupfavisa maonero ake. Mushure mezvose, kunyange kana mwana wacho achitya chaizvo, ipapo kunyaradza kwedu hakusati kuchizomudzikamisa. Inogona chete kuwedzera kunzwa kwekutya.

Vamwe baba vaisagona kubvisa vana vavo patsika yokurovera magonhi. Sezvo akanga aziva nzira dzakawanda dzokuvafurira, akasarudza kuita asingatarisiri. Pazuva rekuzorora akaburitsa screwdriver ndokubvisa pamahinji magonhi ese emba avakarovera nawo. Akaudza mudzimai wake izvi: "Havachakwanisa kurovera magonhi asipo." Vana vakanzwisisa zvose pasina mashoko, uye mazuva matatu gare gare baba vakarembera magonhi panzvimbo. Apo shamwari dzakauya kuzoshanyira vana, baba vakanzwa vana vavo vachivanyevera, kuti: “Ngwarira, hatirove masuo.”

Zvinotoshamisa ndezvokuti isu pachedu hatidzidzi kubva pane zvatinokanganisa. Sevabereki, tinoedza zvakare uye zvakare kugadzirisa izvi kana kuti maitiro evana, tichishandisa nzira imwechete yatakagara tichishandisa kare, uye zvino tinoshamisika kuti nei pasina chinoshanda. Tinogona kushandura maitiro edu kune dambudziko totora nhanho isingatarisirwe. Izvi kazhinji zvakakwana kuti uchinje maitiro asina kunaka emwana zvachose.

12. Ita kuti zviitwa zvakajairika zvinakidze uye zvinosetsa

Vazhinji vedu tinokoshesa dambudziko rekurera nekudzidzisa vana zvakanyanya. Funga nezvekuti iwe pachako unogona sei kudzidza zvinhu zvinonakidza uye zvitsva kana iwe uchinakidzwa neiyo nzira yedzidzo. Zvidzidzo zvehupenyu zvinofanira kutifadza isu nevana vedu. Somuenzaniso, panzvimbo pokutaura nenzwi rokunyengetedza, imba shoko rokuti "kwete" paunoti kwete kune chimwe chinhu, kana kuti taura naye nezwi rekatuni inosetsa.

Ndakarwa naTyler kwenguva refu pabasa rake rechikoro. Akadzidzisa tafura yekuwanza, uye bhizinesi redu harina kusimuka! Pakupedzisira, ndakati kuna Tyler, "Paunenge uchidzidza chimwe chinhu, chii chaunoda kuona, kunzwa, kana kunzwa kutanga?" Akati aida zvinhu zvose panguva imwe chete.

Ndakabva ndatora kagaba kekeke kakarebesa ndokuzora layer ye shaving cream yababa pasi. Pamusoro pekrimu, ndakanyora muenzaniso, uye Tyler akanyora mhinduro yake. Mhedzisiro yacho yaingoshamisa kwandiri. Mwanakomana wangu, uyo asina hanya kuti 9 × 7 yaive chii, akachinja kuita mwana akasiyana zvachose akanyora mhinduro nekukurumidza nemheni uye akazviita nemufaro uye nechido, sekunge ari muchitoro chetoyi.

Unogona kufunga kuti haugone nganonyorwa kana kuti hauna nguva yakakwana yekubuda nechimwe chinhu chisina kujairika. Ndinokupa zano kuti usiye pfungwa idzi!

13. Dzinokei zvishoma!

Kukurumidza kwatinoita kuita chimwe chinhu, ndiko kuwedzera kwatinoita dzvinyiriro yatinoisa pavana vedu. Uye patinowedzera kuvamanikidza, ndipo pavanowedzera kusachinja. Ita zvishoma zvishoma! Hatina nguva yekuita zvekumhanya mhanya!

Nzira yekufurira mwana ane makore maviri

Chinhu chinonyanya kunetsa kuvabereki mwana ane makore maviri.

Tinowanzonzwa kuti mwana ane makore maviri akasindimara zvakanyanyisa, anozvidza uye anoda rimwe chete remashoko ose - "kwete". Zera iri rinogona kuva muedzo wakaoma kuvabereki. Mwana ane makore XNUMX okukura anopokana nemunhu mukuru akareba zvakapetwa katatu!

Zvakanyanya kuoma kune avo vabereki vanotenda kuti vana vanofanira kuvateerera nguva dzose uye muzvinhu zvose. Kusindimara kunoitwa apo mwana ane makore maviri okukura anoratidza hasha dzake nokuita nehasha kutsananguro ine mufungo yokuti yava nguva yokudzokera kumba; kana kuti apo mwana anoramba kugamuchira betsero yebasa rakaoma iro sezviri pachena asingagoni kuita ari oga.

Ngatione kuti chii chinoitika kumwana anosarudza rudzi urwu rwemaitiro. Iyo mota system yemwana pazera iri yakatogadzirwa. Pasinei nokunonoka kwake, kwaari kunenge kusina nzvimbo kwaaisagona kusvika. Pazera remakore maviri, anotova nemurairo uri nani wekutaura kwake. Kutenda kune aya "akawana rusununguko", mwana anoedza kuzvitonga. Kana tikayeuka kuti izvi zvinhu zvaanoita mumuviri, zvichava nyore kwatiri kuratidza kushivirira kwedu mucheche pane kubvuma kuti ari kuedza nemaune kutikanganisa.

Hedzino dzimwe nzira dzekuita nemwana wezera iri.

• Bvunza mibvunzo inogona kupindurwa "hongu" kana "kwete" chete kana iwe pachako uchida kugamuchira zvose zvingasarudzwa semhinduro. Somuenzaniso, udza mwana wako kuti wava kuenda mumaminitsi mashanu, pane kumubvunza mubvunzo: “Wagadzirira kuenda iye zvino here?”
• Pinda muchiito uye usaedza kufunga nemwana. Kana maminitsi mashanu apera, iti, "Inguva yekuenda." Kana mwana wako akaramba, edza kumubudisa kana kubuda pasuo.
• Ipa mwana kodzero yokuita zvaanoda nenzira yokuti anogona kukudziridza mano ake okuzvisarudzira oga. Somuenzaniso, mupe mukana wokusarudza imwe yemhando mbiri dzembatya dzawakurudzira: “Uchapfeka rokwe rebhuruu kana kuti jumper yegirini here?” kana kuti "Uchaenda kunoshambira here kana kuenda ku zoo?"

Iva anochinjika. Zvinoitika kuti mwana anoramba chimwe chinhu, uye unoziva zvechokwadi kuti anochida chaizvo. Gadzirira nechido pane zvaakasarudza. Kunyangwe akakuramba, chero zvakadaro usaedza kumunyengetedza. Iyi nzira ichadzidzisa mwana kuti ave nehanya pakusarudza kwake. Semuenzaniso, kana iwe uchiziva zvechokwadi kuti Jim ane nzara uye iwe unomupa bhanana uye iye anoramba, wobva wati «zvakanaka» uye isa bhanana parutivi, usamboedza kumunyengetedza kuti anoida chaizvo .