Ouch, uchafanira kutora marwadzo ako nokushivirira, “kurwa pakati pehama nehanzvadzi hakudzivisiki uye kunyange kuri madikanwa,” anodaro nyanzvi. Nokukakavadzana kwavo, vana vanoratidza kusagutsikana uye vanotsvaka nzvimbo yavo mumhuri. ” Kupopotedzana kwakaipa zvachose! Asi unewo basa raunofanira kuita. “Kupindira kwevabereki kwakakosha kuitira kuti vana vasavharirwa mukukakavadzana kwavo, kusakuvadzwa uye kubatsirwa nazvo,” anodaro. Ehe, hazvisi zvekumhanya kana kuchema zvishoma, asi mamwe mamiriro anoda kupindira kwako.
Mudzivirire kubva pakurohwa uye mavanga kumweya
Ndirini paunofanira kupindira mukupopotedzana kwako? Kana miganho yapfuudzwa uye mumwe wevadiki ari panjodzi yekukuvadzwa mumuviri kana mupfungwa (nekutuka). "Kuvakwa kweunhu hwake uye kuzviremekedza kunopindawo kuburikidza neukama hwatinahwo nehama nehanzvadzi dzake, tinofanira kungwarira kuti mwana haanzwi achizvidzwa", anowedzera psychotherapist. Sei zvakakosha kupindira munyaya dzavo? Kutadza kupindira kunoonekwa semvumo uye njodzi yekuvharira vana kuita basa risingavakodzeri. Migumisiro: uyo anogara achikunda nharo anonzwa achibvumirwa kuita nenzira iyi, ari munzvimbo yekutonga. Uyo anobuda akarasika nguva imwe neimwe, anonzwa kutongerwa kutamba achizviisa pasi.
Basa remurevereri
“Zvirinani kunzvenga chinzvimbo chemutongi anozotora divi. Zvinonyanya kukosha kuteerera vana, "anorayira Nicole Prieur. Vapei pasi kuti vaise mazwi panharo dzavo, mwana mumwe nemumwe achiteerera kune mumwe. Zvino zviri kwauri kuisa mitemo (kutaipa, kutuka, zvichingodaro) Varatidze rutivi rwakanaka rwoukama hune rugare. Rangarira nguva dzekupindirana dzavanoita.
Ehe, hazvisi zvese zvinogadziriswa nefungu remashiripiti wand uye uchafanirwa kutanga pamusoro pemazuva mashoma gare gare.
Nzira yekuita sei nekukakavara kwemwana wako?
Kugadzirisa nharo nemukomana wako kuchikoro ...
Kubata ndekwekuti, iwe haupo kana dambudziko rasvika uye iwe uchadzidza nyaya yese kana mwana wako auya kumba achibva kuchikoro nemeso akasuruvara. Dzimwe nzira dzekumunyaradza:
Teerera kutya kwake (kufirwa nemukomana wake, asisadiwi ...), deredza mamiriro acho ezvinhu, munyaradze uye adzorere chivimbo chake: “nekuti shamwari yako yakurasisa hazvirevi kuti hausi mumwe munhu. imwe yakanaka. Une zvakawanda zvehunhu hwakanaka uye vamwe vanhu vakaita sewe. ” Zviri kwauri kuti umuite kuti anzwisise kuti kupopotedzana ihazards dzekushamwaridzana uye kuti hatirasikirwe neshamwari nekuti takanetsana naye.
Léa achiri kunetsana nemusikana mumwecheteyo. Wadii kuwedzera shamwari dzako? Pasina kumuudza zvakajeka chinangwa chekufambisa, unogona kupa mazano ekuwedzera kwechikoro. Nenzira iyi, achasangana nevana vatsva uye anoziva kuti anokwanisa kurarama hukama hunogutsa nevamwe vanhu.
... uye kumba
Waronga mabiko makuru ebhavhadhe ane maruva, kuredza zvipo… Asi, mushure memaminitsi mashanu chete, Mathéo ari kutonetsana nemumwe wevakomana vake. Chikonzero chekusabvumirana: mudiki wako anoramba kukweretesa helikopta yake (kunyangwe chinhu chemhosva chaive pazasi pebhokisi retoyi uye mwana wako aisada kunakidzwa nazvo!) Zviri kwauri kuisa mitemo uye muratidze kuti kugovera kune mativi akanaka. Iwe unogona zvakare kuedza zano rinozivikanwa: kutsausa pfungwa dzavo kubva kune chinhu chenharo. “Ok haudi kumukweretesa chikopokopo chako asi toyi ipi yawagadzirira kumusiya?”, “Unoda kutamba naye chii?”… Kana mwana wako aine “mweya wesvosve” zvakawanda, gadzirira. pasi mazuva mashoma mutambo usati waitwa, nekumukumbira kuti aise parutivi matoyi aasingade kukweretesa uye ayo aanogona kusiya neshamwari dzake diki kwemasikati. Danho rakanaka rekudzikamisa mabviro ekunetsana.
Hapana mubvunzo wekutamba! Nharo dzakanaka kumwana wako: dzinomubatsira kushamwaridzana, kusvika pakuzviziva zviri nani ... Uye dzinotova nezvakanakira iwe (hongu, hongu, tenda isu!), Dzinokudzidzisa ... moyo murefu! Uye icho chinhu chinokosha kuvabereki.
Kuverenga “Rega kukakavara! ", Nicole Prieur, ed. Albin Michel |