Zvipupuriro: "Ndaive nedambudziko rekuda mwana wangu"

"Ndakanga ndisingazvifungi saamai, ndakavati 'mwana'." Méloée, amai vemwana mukomana ane mwedzi gumi

"Ndinogara kunze kwenyika kuPeru nemurume wangu uyo ​​ari Peruvian. Ndakafunga kuti zvingava zvakaoma kuti ndive nepamuviri nokuti ndakaonekwa kuti ndine polycystic ovary syndrome pandaiva nemakore makumi maviri. Pakupedzisira mimba iyi yakaitika ndisina kana kuironga. Handisati ndambonzwa kunaka zvakadai mumuviri mangu. Ndaifarira kunzwa kurohwa kwake, kuona dumbu rangu richifamba. Chokwadi nhumbu yekurota! Ndakaita tsvakiridzo yakawanda pamusoro pekuyamwisa, kupfekedza mwana, kurara pamwe chete ... kuti ndive nehanya uye nekurera amai sezvinobvira. Ndakasununguka mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma zvikuru kupfuura ayo atine rombo rakanaka kuva nawo kuFrance. Ndakanga ndaverenga mazana enyaya, ndatora makirasi ese ekugadzirira kuzvara mwana, ndakanyora hurongwa hwekuzvarwa hwakanaka… Uye zvese zvakabva zvasiyana nezvandanga ndarota! Basa harina kutanga uye oxytocin induction yairwadza kwazvo, pasina epidural. Sezvo marwadzo aifamba zvishoma nezvishoma uye mwana wangu haana kuburuka, takavhiyiwa nechimbichimbi. Hapana chandinorangarira, handina kunzwa kana kuona mwana wangu. Ndaive ndega. Ndakazopepuka kwapera 20 hours ndokurara futi 2 hour. Saka ndakasangana nekamwana kangu 1 hours after ndaita cesarean. Pavakazomuisa mumaoko angu, ndaneta, hapana chandakanzwa. Mazuva mashoma gare gare, ndakakurumidza kuona kuti chimwe chinhu chakanga chisina kururama. Ndakachema zvikuru. Pfungwa yekuve ndega nekadiki aka kaindinetsa zvakanyanya. Ndakatadza kunzwa kuti ndiri amai, kuti nditaure zita ravo, ndaiti “mwana”. Somudzidzisi wedzidzo inokosha, ndakanga ndatora zvidzidzo zvinofadza zvikuru pamusoro pokubatanidzwa kwaamai.

Ndaiziva kuti ndaifanira kunge ndiripo panyama, asiwo mupfungwa kumwana wangu

Ndakaita zvose kuti ndirwise kuzvidya mwoyo kwangu uye kusava nechokwadi kwangu. Munhu wandakatanga kutaura naye aive mumwe wangu. Aiziva kunditsigira, kundiperekedza, kundibatsira. Ndakataurawo nezvazvo neshamwari yangu yepamoyo, nyamukuta, aiziva nzira yekukurukura neni iyi nyaya yematambudziko aamai pasina zvirambidzo, sechinhu chakajairika. Zvakandiitira zvakanaka zvakawanda! Zvakanditorera inenge mwedzi mitanhatu kuti ndikwanise kutaura pamusoro pezvinetso zvangu pasina kunyara nazvo, ndisingazvipi mhaka. Ndinofungawo kuti kutamira kune imwe nyika kwakaita basa rinokosha: ndakanga ndisina hama dzangu dzakandipoteredza, ndisina nzvimbo dzinokosha, tsika dzakasiyana, ndisina amai shamwari dzokutaura navo. Ndakanzwa ndiri ndoga zvikuru. Hukama hwedu nemwana wangu hwakavakwa nekufamba kwenguva. Zvishoma nezvishoma, ndaifarira kumutarisa, kuva naye mumaoko angu, kumuona achikura. Ndichitarisa kumashure, ndinofunga kuti rwendo rwedu rwekuFrance pamwedzi 5 rwakandibatsira. Kusuma mwanakomana wangu kune vandinoda kwakandifadza uye kudada. Ndakanga ndisisanzwe “Méloée mwanasikana, hanzvadzi, shamwari”, asiwo “Méloée amai”. Nhasi idiki rudo rwehupenyu hwangu. “

"Ndakanga ndaviga manzwiro angu." Fabienne, 32, amai vemusikana ane makore matatu.

“Ndine makore 28, ndakafara uye ndakafara kuzivisa pamuviri pangu kune mumwe wangu aida mwana. Ini, panguva iyoyo, kwete chaizvo. Ndakabvuma nekuti ndaifunga kuti handaizombofa ndakabaya baya. Nhumbu yakafamba zvakanaka. Ndakaisa pfungwa dzangu pakuzvara. Ndaida zviri natural, munzvimbo yekuzvarwa. Zvinhu zvose zvaifamba sezvandaida, sezvo ndaiita basa rakawanda repamba. Ndakanga ndasununguka zvokuti ndakasvika panzvimbo yokuberekerwa kwasara maminitsi 20 kuti mwanasikana wangu asununguke! Payakaiswa pandiri, ndakaona chimwe chinhu chinoshamisa chinonzi dissociation. Handisi ini chaivo ndaiva ndapinda panguva iyi. Ndainge ndanyanya kufunga nezvembereko zvekuti ndakatokanganwa kuti ndaifanira kuchengeta mwana. Ndakaedza kuyamwisa, uye sezvo ndakanga ndaudzwa kuti matangiro akanga akaoma, ndakafunga kuti zvakanga zvakajairika. Ndakanga ndiri mugasi. Kutaura chokwadi ndaisada kuita hanya nazvo. Ndainge ndakuda kuviga manzwiro angu. Ndaisafarira kuswedera pedyo nebeche, ndaisanzwa kuda kumupfekedza kana kuita skin to skin. Asi aive mucheche "ari nyore" airara zvakanyanya. Ndichisvika kumba ndaichema asi ndakafunga kuti mwana bhururu. Kwasara mazuva matatu kuti mumwe wangu atangezve basa handina kana kumborara. Ndakanzwa ndave kuzununguka.

Ndainge ndave mushishi rehushasha. Ndaisambofungira kuti ndiri ndega nemwana wangu.

Ndakafonera amai vangu kuti vabatsirwe. Achingosvika akabva anditi ndimbozorora. Ndakazvivharira muroom mangu kuti ndicheme. Manheru, ndakava nekunetseka kunoshamisa. Ndakakwenya chiso changu ndichisheedzera, "Ndinoda kuenda", "Ndinoda kuti zvibviswe". Amai vangu nemumwe wangu vakazviona kuti ndakanga ndakashata chaizvo. Zuva rakatevera racho, ndichibatsirwa nanyamukuta wangu, ndakachengetwa muchikamu chaamai nomwana. Ndakagara muchipatara kwemwedzi miviri, izvo zvakazoita kuti ndive nani. Ndaingoda kuchengetwa chete. Ndakarega kuyamwisa izvo zvakandizorodza. Ndainge ndisisina shungu dzekuti ndichengete mwana wangu ndega. Iwo mashopu ekurapa kwehunyanzvi akandibvumira kuti ndibatane nedivi rangu rekugadzira. Pandakadzoka, ndakanga ndanyanya kugadzikana, asi ndakanga ndisati ndine chisungo ichi chisingazununguki. Kunyange nanhasi, chinongedzo changu kumwanasikana wangu hachina kujeka. Zvakandiomera kusiyana naye asi ndinotozvida. Ini handinzwe rudo rukuru urwu rwunokuputira, asi rwakafanana nekupenya kudiki: pandinoseka naye, tose tinoita zviitwa. Sezvo iye achikura uye anoda kushoma padhuze mumuviri, ndini iye zvino ndiri kutsvaga kumbundirwa kwake zvakanyanya! Zvinoita sendiri kuita nzira yekudzokera kumashure. Ndinofunga humai chinhu chiripo. Kune avo vanokushandura zvachose. “

"Ndakatsamwira mwana wangu nekuda kwemarwadzo kubva kucesarean." Johanna, makumi maviri nematanhatu, vana vaviri vane mwedzi miviri negumi nemishanu.

“Nemurume wangu takasarudza kuita vana nekukurumidza. Takaroorana tikaroorana mushure memwedzi mishomanana takaonana uye takasarudza kuita mwana ndine 22. Nhumbu yangu yakafamba zvakanaka. Ndakatopasawo term. Muprivate clinic yandaive ndakakumbira kuti ndibatwe. Ndakanga ndisingazivi kuti induction kazhinji inoguma nokuberekwa. Chiremba wemadzimai ndaivimba naye nokuti akanga asununguka amai vangu makore gumi akanga apfuura. Paakatiudza kuti pane dambudziko, mwana arikurwadziwa, ndakaona murume wangu achena. Ndakazviudza kuti ndaifanira kudzikama, kuti ndimunyaradze. Mumba macho, handina kupiwa mushonga wokutindivadza musana. Kana kuti, hazvina kushanda. Kuchekwa kwemhata handina kunzwa uku, ukuwo ndainzwa ura hwangu hwabatwa. Marwadzo acho ndaichema. Ndakakumbira kuti ndidzorerwe hope, ndidzorerwe mushonga weanesthetic. Pakapera kuvhiya, mwana ndakamutsvoda, kwete nekuti ndaida, asi nekuti ndakanzi ndimutsvode. Ndakabva nda "enda". Ndakanyatsobatwa nehope nekuti ndakazopepuka pave paye papera nguva refu ndiri muimba yekurara. Ndakasvika pakuona murume wangu aiva nemwana, asi rudo rwakanga rusina kudaro. Ndakangoti ndaneta, ndaida kurara. Ndakaona murume wangu achisuduruka, asi ini ndakanga ndichiri nezvandainge ndasangana nazvo. Zuva rakatevera, ndaida kuita first aid, kugeza, pasinei nokurwadza kwomucheche. Ndakati nechemumoyo: “Ndiwe amai, unofanira kuzvichengeta”. Ndaisada kuita sisi. Kubva pahusiku hwekutanga, mwana airwara necolic. Hapana akada kumuendesa ku nursery for the first three night handina kurara. Kumusha ndaichema manheru oga oga. Murume wangu akanga aguta.

Pese paichema mwana wangu ndaichema naye. Ndakazvichengeta zvakanaka, asi handina kana rudo rwandainzwa.

Mifananidzo yaCesarean yaidzoka kwandiri pose paaichema. Pashure pemwedzi nehafu, ndakaikurukura nomurume wangu. Takazonorara ndichibva ndamutsanangurira kuti ndainge ndatsamwira mwana wedu pakuzvara uyu, ndairwadziwa pese paaichema. Uye mushure mehurukuro iyoyo, husiku ihwohwo, zvaive zvemashiripiti, zvakangoita sekuvhura bhuku rengano uye murarabungu uchipukunyuka kubva mariri. Kutaura kwandisunungura pamutoro. Usiku ihwohwo ndakarara hope chaidzo. Uye mangwanani, ndakazonzwa rudo rukuru urwu kumwana wangu. Iyo link yakaitwa kamwe kamwe. Chechipiri, pandakasununguka kumukadzi, kusununguka kwacho kwakaita kuti rudo rwakabva rwasvika. Kunyange kana kuberekwa kwechipiri kwakaenda zviri nani kupfuura kwekutanga, ndinofunga kuti hatifaniri kunyanya kuenzanisa. Kupfuura zvose, usazvidemba. Iwe unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti kubereka kwese kwakasiyana uye mwana wese akasiyana. “